#binder anon

[my-castles-crumbling]

Anon Advice Asks

midnights anon, binder anon (new), jfp anon, fiction anon (new)

midnights anon

Hi hon!

I think the reality is, this time in your life is one of the most difficult. Everything feels so overwhelming and so scary because like...your world is getting so much bigger and you have so many more responsibilities, but you're not always given the tools to do what you need to do. Plus, it's ten times worse for people in your generation (god I sound old) because of everything going on in the world right now, and the fact that you're AWARE of what's going on.

You're NOT a failure. You're doing so well surviving every day during one of the biggest changes of your life- going from childhood to adulthood. It's scary, it's overwhelming, it's emotional, it's exhausting, and I promise you, so many other people feel like they're failing too. Look at the asks people send me! Other people are exhausted and feeling like the can't do it either.

And please understand, I don't say this to minimize your feelings, but rather to say: it will be okay. You can do this. I believe in you, and you have so much to be proud of. Please take the time to be proud of yourself, too, because you are getting through every day <3

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binder anon (new)

I've worn my binder every day for months, and I went a day without wearing it, and lowkeye forgot how to breathe. Has this ever happened to anyone else? Or just me?

Hi!

Okay so I have to ask...is your binder the right size? You should be able to breathe in it. Especially if you're young and still growing, and you've had it for a while...make sure you're wearing the correct size! Safe binding is SO important.

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jfp anon

Hi!

If you want to tell him you like him, I don't see anything wrong with that! As far as the age gap...I feel like you're right in saying it /could/ be questionable, but since it's not illegal, I'd say it depends on how he treats you. Like does he ever pressure you to do things you don't want to do? Is he glorifying the difference in a weird way? As long as he never break boundaries (friend boundaries or something more boundaries) and isn't creepy in general, and people you know also get good vibes from it, then I (a stranger on the internet who knows none of you in person) feel neutral about it.

Lmk what happens when you tell him! I feel like his reaction could be a good indicator of what kind of person he is, too.

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fiction anon (new)

I’m so thankful for fiction, oh my god 😭 I kinda use fiction as therapy. Today, I’ve learned that potentially the reason I search for any form of attention in relationships even when i don’t really totally like it is probably because of being neglected as a kid. Which is heavy but like good to know. Thank god for a certain fictional character (not actually marauders related)

OMG I relate to this so much, and i think a lot of people do! Fiction and fanfiction is a great way to explore emotions in a way that's safe and not as triggering. Actually, I've spoken to my therapist a lot about this: about how it's easier to talk about Sirius's shit parents than mine, or Regulus's dysphoria than mine. People use fiction to explore the things they might not be able to talk about for themselves, and it's so cool!

[rowansparrow]

Binder anon back! I looked around on some forums and found commenters that have similar body types. I kept seeing Underworks and gc2b as recommendations.

I saw where someone that was a 32 DD/E and a slim waist wore an Underworks size Medium, but I’m not sure how broad their shoulders are… Here is a link to that comment if you’re interested in seeing their picture!

https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/117228-binding-for-larger-chests/?do=findComment&comment=1061185487

I hope this is somewhat helpful! Sending good vibes that you find a perfect binder for you 💕✨

Hey anon, wanna marry me?

Posting this for anyone else who may need some binder resources. ❤️❤️

[killemwithkawaii]

Senpai, it's binder anon. I hope you're staying hydrated and you've eaten something today, even if it's just a couple of crackers or a piece of fruit! I had this odd thought after reading that Sal's hair post-

Braids. Lots of braids. I knew this person who used to do one braid that would split into two more braids, and those two braids would split into two more. It was really interesting to look at, really, and their hair was so shiny too. I feel like Sal would be patient enough to let you do that to him, or he'd just enjoy the attention and time spent with you. I'm not sure how well it'd go with all the layers (we all know he cuts his own hair, and honestly, who doesn't,) but it'd definitely be fun to try!

>It's good to hear from you binder anon! :D Thanks for the reminder, I've eaten plenty today (it was mostly the bread I made but still lol)

>Oooh that does sound interesting! I don't think I've ever seen a hair style quite like that. Braiding that complicated probably takes a lot of practice to get right, and (if you're someone he's comfy around) I'll bet it wouldn't be hard to convince Sal to be your guinea pig (despite the hiccups the choppy layers might cause) c:

>He would also look super cute in some low braids or pigtail braids or a braided bun (or space buns)! 🥺🙏💖💖💖💖

>Oh yeah him cutting his own hair has to be canon just look at those bangs they're evidence enough lmao

>It makes sense tho- Sal going to a barber shop or salon sounds... complicated? Uncomfortable?? Really not fun at all for anybody involved??? ...Yeahhhh no he can manage on his own thanks 😬

[solies-scripts]

hi!! i was the anon who asked about binders a while ago. i couldn’t justify buying one when i asked bc of financial situations, but i just ordered one!! i’m v excited, and id just like to thank you again for your advice because it was and is very much appreciated. i hope the night - or whatever time of day it is for you - gets better, i’m glad you’re feeling better after talking to a friend, and i hope it continues that way for you. 💞💞

Congrats baby! I’m so happy that you finally managed to get yourself one! I was in the same situation of not being able to afford a binder for a long time so I know how great it feels to finally be able to. I hope the binder helps you with your dysphoria you mentioned before 💕

Thank you so much for being so sweet also, I’ve had my therapy appointment today so I’m definitely doing a lot better now. Ily so much 💕

[sigmactivity]

How can I get a binder if I'm not out to my parents, and my mom doesn't allow me to order anything on my own

She doesn’t allow you to have access to a credit card without checking up on it, or she goes through your mail? Either way, there are workarounds, but keep in mind, they’re easier when you’re not in quarantine.

I can only speak to gc2b binders (which I recommend!) and their packaging is very discreet. However, it does come up on the credit card bill as “gc2b transitional apparel” which is perhaps not ideal.

If you have one of those prepaid visa gift cards or something similar, or you could feasibly acquire one (again, this might be something you have to do in person. Paying in cash would prevent a paper trail here), get one. Half tank binders are $33 but there’s shipping, so I’d go with a solid 50 if you can manage it. If you have a debit card and you’re allowed to go to an ATM, do that maybe.

Order the binder from the gc2b website. It’ll give you payment options: with a credit card, with amazon pay, or PayPal. Pick amazon pay. Add your prepaid Visa card and set it not to deliver to your house, but to deliver to an Amazon Hub. It’s a location where you can pick it up (you’ll have to search it beforehand to see if there are any near you.)

I have never done it this way, but I believe it should work. If you have any problems, I would email gc2b directly—they probably have more experience in advising for this than I do. They respond quickly, have good customer service, and are run by & for trans people—so they get it.

Most importantly, if you find that this isn’t exactly feasible for any reason—your mom is too much of a hardass, or the quarantine overcomplicates all of this—it’s okay. I know it’s hard, but your safety is the most important thing here. Good luck, and I’m always here if you need something 💙

[killemwithkawaii]

Binder Anon here! I hope Wrongblog Anon is doing better because they and you are a ray of sunshine, collectively, but brightly! I'm working on goofy Sal pictures but I've been really busy recently (I work at a college bookstore heehee ( ꒦ິ꒳​꒦ີ )) but I am really liking the idea of building a box fort with the gang (Larry, Sal, Ash, Todd, Senpai, and Travis, if he wants to join.) Both of you stay healthy, please, and don't forget to do something you enjoy as well! <3

>You're both rays of sunshine in my book uwu 🌞💕

>Ooooh goofy Sal pictures??? We love seeing him sexy, but we ALSO love seeing him silly!! Be sure to share when they're all finished (if you're comfy!) :D

>i...im part of 'the gang'?????? qoq 💖💖💖 I don't deserve this honor but i will still 100000% build a box/pillow/blanket fort with all y'all (honestly just give me a big box and I'll crawl right in lol)

>I'd love to see how the gang would decorate a box fort (esp if Larry broke out a bag of 'inspiration' to share with everyone >:3c)- there would be an obligatory 'SF' symbol, a very detailed rendition of Clumpy (complete with crosshatching) by Ash, a few of Sals dead potatoes, some super metal portraits where Larry went a little heavy with the red marker, diagrams/equations where Todd mathematically proved everyone could technically fit in the box at once (though they would have to be in liquid form), and I'd have to draw a strawberry or heart somewhere (because if i ever draw something without one you should assume it's a cry for help) 📦🎨🍓 (Travis is a spoilsport and will refuse to contribute while everyone is around, but he might quickly scribble something if we all act like we aren't paying attention)

>I'm answering asks from my darling kouhai and am about to start drawing some self-indulgent art, so I am definitely doing something I enjoy rn. Thanks for the reminder, Binder anon! You be sure to do the same 🤗🤗🤗💕

[killemwithkawaii]

Hi there! It's binder anon popping in to say hi! I hope you're doing okay. I'm glad to see you back and I hope you're eating well.

I decided on a whim to pierce my ears again at five in the morning a little bit ago, which I hope is just chaotic enough that the squad would be like, "cool" and not "what were you thinking there is blood every where!?" I didn't bleed a lot for the first set of piercings but I did it by hand and not by piercing gun this time so my ear leaked a little.

I think this ask is too long by now but I just wanted to say hi again and wish you well and that you're eating and drinking at a good rate and also tell you that little story.

>Hi Binder Anon!! Always great to hear from you dude 🤗💕 I'm doing alright! It's good to finally be back, and I'm gonna have a lot more time to be online doing my thing in the next few weeks :D

>Dang bro I gotta say, that's pretty hardcore and I do think the gang would be impressed >:3 (I hc that Sal pierced his own ears and that he and Larry have given piercings to each other! I also wouldn't be surprised if Ash got caught up in the moment and let them pierce her ears or nostril at some point 🧷)

>Obligatory PSA that piercing guns suck and cause way more scar tissue to form than necessary (I have the closed-piercings-turned-scar-tissue-knots in my upper lobes to prove it). Even if it's just your lobes, go to your local piercing parlor/ tattoo shop and have someone who knows what they're doing pierce you with a needle (or do it at home with the proper precautions at your own risk. It'll still probably be better than having it done by some kid with a piercing gun making minimum wage in a Claire's lol)

>Thanks for stopping by and sharing, Binder Anon! Take good care of those ears~ c:

[killemwithkawaii]

Happy Pride, senpai! It's binder anon, and I'm... possibly maybe thinking of coming out to my parent? Only maybe.

That aside, I hope that the rest of Pride Month (June? Never met the., but they sound lovely.) is perfect for you and full of Sals and Larrys and good food and drink!

🏳️‍🌈 :)

By the way, would the plural of Larry be spelled "Larries" or "Larrys"?

>Binder Anon!! The happiest of pride months to you, my dear fellow transmasc 🥳⚧️💙🤍💗

>Coming out is a very big and exciting step in your transition! Its really freeing to finally be able to be open about your identity, present how you'd like, and to be called by the right name/pronouns after putting up with the wrong ones for so long. I hope that you can experience that soon, but please don't feel any pressure to come out, especially if it might put you in danger. It's your business, and you are just as queer whether the whole world knows it or if you keep it all to yourself. Either way, I wish you the best of luck 🤗🌈🌈🌈

>Ehehehe thank you! June is off to a great start for me, and I'm sure it'll only get more gay as it goes (especially if I have multiple Sals and Larrys to be gay with?? oh my god can you imagine aaahhhhh 🙈💕💕💕) (imo I think the plurls should be 'Larrys' and 'Sallys' its just easier that way and I don't know the rules lol)