how can i get testosterone in the US while being agender? am i better off lying about being binary? i'm especially worried because 1) i'm a lesbian and 2) i want to go in a low dose to make sure i'm comfortable with the changes and they will be slower. plus i might go off it once my voice lowers to an androgynous range. i live in new england, if that helps at all. i know there's informed consent but i'm worried that they will still bar me from receiving hrt because i'm not a dude
“related question: i’m on my parent’s health insurance but i don’t want them to know i’m transitioning. is there a way to bill my treatment (ESPECIALLY the blood work) to insurance without it automatically mailing them the bill?”
First, here’s a good article from a gender therapist that covers a lot of this (which i’ll sum up below): http://darahoffmanfox.com/ask-gender-therapist-can-transition-im-non-binary-genderfluid/
1) Yes, you CAN get HRT if you are agender, but it would also be good for you to do some searching on your state’s policies or your doctor’s policy. Many doctors require that you get a signed letter confirming your identity from a gender therapist in order to take hormones or get surgery, and in order to get such a letter, you might have to actually see said therapist for a certain period of time and have that time verified as well. I might be wrong, but I also believe the time varies from place to place— i’ve heard six months from people and up to two years from others.
2) however, according to the link above, NOT ALL DOCTORS KNOW THIS. They might not be aware (or will find ways to refuse) HRT for you as an agender person. Again, it’s best to check with your health care provider and state laws.
3) Since you’re 18, you don’t have to have parental permission to transition. However, I don’t know about billing for insurance and whether or not your parents will be able to see it. I recommend checking local clinics that provide HRT and emailing or calling them about it. I know that some (not all) Planned Parenthood clinics provide HRT, so this might be a good place to start if there’s one in your area. I’m not sure if it changes for hormones, but they keep things confidential (and often free) for things like STD testing and birth control. I believe it’s the same for doctors as well; you can ask for things to be confidential from parents, BUT again I don’t know if this means they will be able to see what the bills are for or not.
Insurance policies on this could also vary by provider, so that’s another thing you’d have to check with your provider.
i hoped this helped! feel free to send any follow up questions if you need!