#bisexual bitterness

[adlegend21]

I love being bi because our pain, erasure, and phobic stuff isn’t real until it effects other non-bi people.

[gloriousmonsters]

realized another reason I’m skeeved out by the ‘insertgender loving insertgender’ format that’s been going around (seriously, it’s EVERYWHERE now) is not only that it’s weird and exclusionary feeling if you’re at all nb or bi, it specifies ‘love’ as the attraction so it’s explicitly ruling out aro people as well

i just. would not mind so much if it wasn’t so BIG, but now it seems like every positivity post and ‘protect __’ and resource blog and etc that goes over my dash is for one of them. (or one of the other terms exclusive to alloromantic gay people that have been cropping up). just. whhhyy

[rotationalsymmetry]

Part of me thinks that there's something wrong with my brain that I hold onto so many microaggressions like they happened yesterday. And part of me is all "no shit you hold on to the casual bigotry, there's been so little to counter it."

[rotationalsymmetry]

It wouldn’t be an issue if the context was “lots of people have both “queer” attraction and “straight” attraction (ie attractions that aren’t acceptable to homophobes and attractions that are), and those people are queer because bisexuality/pansexuality is a thing and isn’t being Scheodinger’s queer and also isn’t being a sort of Frankenstein monster of part straight and part gay it’s just a way of being queer alongside other ways of being queer, and because having some attractions that aren’t acceptable to homophobes is in fact sufficient to cause you problems in your life and also sufficient to have a lot in common with people who only have attractions that are unacceptable to homophobes, who knew… and also, there’s some types of m/f sex that really aren’t “straight” (acceptable to homophobes) and/or are “queer”(explicitly a part of queer culture)” yes absolutely I would agree with that, the issue is I don’t think we actually have a shared understanding about the first part.