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08-27-24 | adsoos. misterlemonztenth.tumblr.com/archive

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Share my voice

So back to the goal brainstorming for the next year of my life. I'm currently debating - "Share my voice" as the second big goal of the year. I've started this writing project but I'd like to step things up - I've mentioned open mics - have to figure out next steps on that - I may try to do something next week actually. I'm going to look at an option right after I finish writing this entry. I definitely will be releasing my Brooklyn Dad podcast. I had another creative meeting yesterday and things are moving forward. My friend Chris who's working with me on creative also suggested that I use AI to turn my writing entries into video. You might see some of that shared as early as this weekend. I would like to submit some of my writing for publication somewhere - so I need to finish probably a short story or one act that I've been working on. If it makes sense - maybe I want to get back on stage. Maybe I'll do a live episode of Brooklyn Dad- I kind of like that idea.... I'll see how the first episodes go and what direction that takes me. I also was reminded that next year is my 30 year high school reunion... perhaps some feelings to share on that.

Definitely feeling supported from the responses I've got on my writing this fall, I feel confident that a drive to share my voice wider is where I want to goal. Not commiting to one specific pathway to share my voice but just to keep looking for ways to share.

I should say that it's never a one sided experience when I share - I'm excited about creating dialog from what I share and learning from others. I don't think there's ever a time in life that we couldn't all grow a little bit from sharing our voice and listening to others. I also feel more ready for that growth - unburdened by things that have held me back in the past, more supported by my family, friends, and community than before. Ready for this chapter and the next.

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Future Stages

Tick Tock. Time to think of goals for the next year. I know I said it's the journey not the goals but I still have to set those goals. What should they be? I was talking to my therapist yesterday and said being an amazing dad involved in school was one of my goals.... so going to elevate that from things I say in therapy to things I say in public. I'm already working on that goal and excited about the journey. My daughter has a science chapter on Climate change and a technology class that teaches javascript and has a section on ai and ethics. I have a climate justice company, used to lead javascript teams and am developing a toolkit for climate focused community based organizations groups to use ai ethically - it's like they knew I had something to contribute! Also glad my daughter is the age where she is not completely embarassed my prescence. I believe I am a cool dad... is that a thing? I stumble at the slang, but still know things. Have you heard her generation's slang?

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I have been called "Bruh" more times than I can count. Nothing and - I mean nothing prepares you for actually being a parent to child becoming a full person. I love when she talks about life as it will be for her. It's an honor, a responsibility, a joy- to be an integral part of her journey. It's humbling, a little bit confusing as I figure out my own life an still try to be an example she can look up to - but hell we're doing this..

I remember the first time I skied down a mountain (and no parenting is not a direct parallel to skiing). But once you start going down a mountain on skis there's really no turning back. I fell soo many times that time - I remember being on my back or side for most of the way down... but gravity is taking you down the mountain you just have to get back up and fall down again... you can actually slide down entirely on your ass... For some reason you pick yourself up at the bottom and you decide well I fell down the mountain, I'll take the lift up and I will fall down, but I will be less on my ass this time down the mountain.

I mean really it's not a metaphor for being a parent but just about life. That drive to take you back up to the top and let gravity take you down. To take that deep breath and go down a icy slope that doesn't seem possible for you not to fall and loose your skis in the process.

Ok. Now I want to ski.

I will have to settle for committing to my first goal for the next year - being an engaged parent to an eleven year old - the Brooklyn Dad I know I can be.

[brooklyndadshow]

The Code Switch

Recently I attended some events where I was the only African-American male in the room.  It wasn't the first time of course. I'm used to the experience being an ivy-league educated man that's been in the c-suite.. Although when the size of the room is large enough it's still jarring.

"Oh wow, none of you know people of color - It's code switching time!"

I don't know, nor have I ever calculated the toll code switching takes on the soul - I just know the toll is not zero.  As I've written before, my default has been to absorb the pain, to believe I can work twice as hard and win as every person of color has been told the secret is - I can take this hit. I am bulletproof.

Someone made the assumption that I never wash my hair - I think the actually comment was something to the affect of "I was thinking of you and was thinking you're lucky you never have to think about washing your hair"   Professional setting - I was taken aback but just absorbed the emotions I was feeling - It was someone I have a friendly relationship with. So crazy thing - even describing this incident, this mirco aggression, this macro aggression, this aggression, this ignorance - I am protecting them - making it hard to in a public post to make it easy to identify this person. 

Why am I protecting them?

Because It's not about them.  It's about me. It's about every person of color that has had to look someone in the face and in the name of the code switching world we live in take the hit.  For every immigrant that has to take that a major political candidate is peddling vile stereotypes about people eating dogs and cats... 

What is the toll! of working through these moments for the larger goals you have in life and the people that matter most to you?

My  daughter is interracial and I've thought a lot about her identity and what it means for her to be in a world that this video brought hate.

So when I think about my inability to understand the toll of aggression, I wonder how prepared I am to prepare my daughter for this world. 

Honestly she's sooo much better at code switching than me.  She's multilingual - tri-lingual - quad-lingual- and such a wonderful listener. I believe her ability to code switch makes her empathetic in a way I can never be. But still I wonder..

What is the toll of those other moments?

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