#celestialstudies

[cosmic-echoe-s]

how to survive assessment week

-keep your notes neat and organised: for me, reading over neater notes feels refreshing and less repetitive, and it's easier to take in/revise information

-take care of yourself. Seriously. Stay hydrated (I find that having a water bottle with me/within my immediate field of vision allows me to find myself mindlessly sipping it, soooo), get enough sleep- I highly recommend actually using the 'bedtime' function you can find in Clock on iPhones, and make sure you're eating enough healthy food. Also, shower. Refreshing your body refreshes your mind.

-keep your study space clean: allow yourself ten minutes when you get home after school to declutter/tidy your room. It'll be so much easier to focus on work if you aren't distracted by mess.

-make sure to track and stay on top of assessments/assignments: write! down! those! due! dates! If you can't write them down in a school diary/bullet journal/other planner, I recommend finding study apps where you can record that information and it sends you a notification to remind you to study. I'm currently trying out an app called "P. Schedule" (personal schedule)

-allow yourself time to relax and unwind

-schedule your studying and breaks in blocks so that you're not overwhelmed by having to concentrate on schoolwork 100% of the time

-if you're studying in the library, make sure to actually study while there. Pack yourself a bag of necessities (eg. laptop, notebook, pencilcase, headphones, a water bottle and a filling snack) and actually dedicate your time to studying, because just being in the library won't automatically help you.

-try out different study methods, eg. using flash cards, recording yourself saying information and listening to that on the bus/train, USING PAST PAPERS, rewriting notes, study groups, etc.

-don't cram right before the exam, I find that just makes me unnecessarily stressed. Instead, i take deep breaths (I have anxiety and find the square breathing method very helpful), listen to either my favourite bands or my "breathe" playlist depending on my levels of anxiety, make sure I'm feeling okay (hydrated, not hungry), go to the bathroom, refill my drink bottle, etc. Above all, REMAIN CALM.

-remind yourself that you are a confident and sassy bitch (we stan a queen) and hey, you got this!

[help-my-relationship]

I (32F) really want to divorce my husband (34M) but I don’t think it’s possible for me. Where would I even start?

We have two children together. I worry myself sick about how this would affect them. My husband and I share businesses. I’m the director of one of the companies and take a small wage. My husband is the director of another company with 100% shares and has an 80% share in the most lucrative company. I’m not a director of that one. My husband owns several properties, most of these are in one of the companies names, the rest are in his name. We are both on the mortgage of our own house, 50/50 but I haven’t paid into it for years as we agreed I would work from home, take a small wage and bring up our children while he brought in most income. Would I still be entitled to half the house despite not contributing to the mortgage? We would have to give up our house, 100%. He couldn’t afford to buy me out and I obviously couldn’t afford to buy him out either. I also couldn’t afford to live here without him, the bills alone would kill me. My phone and car are all through the business I’m not a director in. I’d lose everything. I’m so unhappy. I have been for years and I want more than anything to end things but I can’t. I can’t afford to and I know my children’s lives would change beyond recognition. I can’t do it to them. I don’t know what to do.

All great questions a lawyer will help answer with more knowledge and insight than social media, who has no idea what local laws might even apply to your situation. In fact, these are exactly the kinds of questions a divorce lawyer expects.

Your children would be better served with a happy mother than a miserable one. My mother stayed "for us", and it destroyed our relationship as adults. She blamed us for her unhappiness and feeling trapped, even though we'd never been given a say, and in fact desperately wished our parents would divorce because we were also unhappy in that environment. When we were finally adults, she had a breakdown over all the years she'd sacrificed (at no one's behest!) and took that out on us, becoming mean and hypercritical, driving us away. Happy and functional split parents are so much better than dysfunctional together ones.