#ceterophobia

[nervoustragedyluminary]

Some TERF DOGWHISTLES TO BE AWARE OF:

"sex class /sex based class" analysis that ignores and erases intersexism and transmisogyny in favour of equating trans women with cis men (misgendering)

"male supremacy" - and assuming (the small minority of) trans women who are awful to other trans people are that way because they are some kind of crypto MRAs and not just radfems and or assholes in their own right. Any harmful behaviour done by a trans woman is immediately assigned to "male supremacy"

"AMAB supremacy" just the same as calling trans women "male supremacists" & equating them to cis men and cis men MRAs - terfs seem to think that this is a way to get their "trans women are MRAs" shite past our BS detectors

"male socialisation" - especially when talking about (mischarecterising for grooming purposes ) intracommunity trans issues eg "trans women dOmInAtE and oppress trans men and trans spaces due to their male socialisation /experiences being raised as boys & trans men are demure in spaces and unwilling to speak up against the mean domineering trans women because of female socialisation "

"AFAB solidarity" - "trans men are my sisters (in the fight against the eevil trans women) " rebranded

[transunity]

Just something I saw on twitter the other day. It's worth reiterating that if you believe TERFs over trans men you ain't a trans ally.

When you see terfs calling trans women "violent males" you know that that is transphobic and deliberately misgendering.

But when terfs call trans men "confused girls" for some reason everyone reads that as-is and don't twig that like "violent males" it's a derogatory dogwhistle to refer to trans men.

Hence, when people try to tackle transandrophobic terfs, they go about it all wrong because they take terfs at their word they are actually talking about girls and not trans men. Leading to people assuming that trans men don't get hate from terfs.

This is why transunitism is important! Sure, you can identify when a terf is targeting trans women, but can you tell when they target trans men and nonbinary folk?

If you somehow managed to stop every terf from being transmisogynistic overnight, you haven't stopped terfism. If you eradicated all homophobia against gay men overnight, that doesn't eradicate lesbophobia.

It all has to be tackled together, with each other.

[baeddel-txt]

[transandrophobiatruther]

Most transphobic stereotypes are recycled and applied to any and every trans person depending on the scenario. A trans man might be an uwu soft boi up until he speaks up and takes up space, and suddenly he's a predatory, aggressive scary man. A trans woman might be a beautiful, pretty nyaa cat girl until she voices her opinions and suddenly she's brash, violent, and threatening. A non binary person is an adorable smol bean until they demand recognition and then they're deemed whiny and irrational and emotional or predatory and untrustworthy, depending on their assigned gender at birth.

It's incredibly important that trans people have our own words to describe the nuance of our individual experiences, but trans people all have overlapping experiences and often can relate with each other regardless of identity! It only hurts us all to pretend otherwise.

[none-gender-left-man]

I am coming to realize I'm a fagdyke. It's taken exploration of a lot recently, but I can be a trans man and a fag while still feeling sapphic about my attraction to women when it happens. I've been called a dyke since I was 12 years old before I'd come out as ANYTHING. Nobody gets to gaslight me and tell me I can't have that word because I'm "not a lesbian" or because I'm a man, nor because I'm more likely to be attracted to men. I'm also still nonbinary, I'm still sapphic, and I can be predominantly achillean at the same time. This doesn't erase the nonbinary dyke that lives in my identity alongside the trans fag.

I love men in a fag way, I love women in a dyke way, and anyone who wants to gatekeep that from me can fuck off into their self alienated circle jerks. 😌🙏🏳️‍🌈

[worms-in-my-brain]

Btw if you guys were curious about the rampant hypocrisy and intersexism in the trans community the person in the last reblog proceeded to respond to my post by telling me to fuck off because I, “wasn’t transmasc,” despite me explicitly saying I was transfemasc due to being intersex and genderfluid, then said that I was assuming they were cis and calling them a “TERF meanie,” two things I never did or even said anything remotely close to.

And then continued, on their blog, in three separate posts, to rant about how “transmasc/tme people/people who purposefully obfuscate are their relationship to transmisogyny” are “the worlds biggest crybullies,” how people “on this site romanticise being oppressed,” that “some people seem to pride themselves on being borderline sociopathic,” and how we are “mra clowns.”

So I guess I’m transfem and not transmasc when it’s convenient to ignore my perspective on transandrophobia, but transmasc and not transfem when they want to delegitimise my experience with oppression and imply I’m whiny for talking about it. Then I’m a “mra clown” when it’s convenient to see me as a man.

Then they went in for the triple whammy and were lowkey ableist, I’m sorry but I’m not “priding myself on being borderline sociopathic” by… having ASPD, I guess? I’m just being open and trying to spread awareness.

I normally would just leave it alone, I mean they blocked me so obviously they don’t want to interact and the feeling is mutual. But I feel like this is a really good example of bigotry (i.e., intersexism, ableism) from within the community, as well as a good example of how a transfemasc person might experience lateral violence by being painted as whichever is most negative at the time while simultaneously being denied their status as someone who is both.

[stopcannibalizingourown]

You know, the one of the weirdest things I remember from when I followed certain transandrophobic trans women on this site would be how any time discussions about things like asking for gender neutral period products started bringing trans women into things, a lot of the people in those circles would be like. They'd be justifiably upset at being suddenly made the center of an argument that had very little to do with them, something that often lead to harassment for them—but then they'd decide that trans people who were afab somehow benefited from this, that trans women were acting as a convenient shield that others could use to avoid attention from conservatives themselves.

And idk, I feel like something about this is a good microcosm about how a lot of discussions on invisibility vs hypervisibility go (not just when it comes to trans issues, this is a pretty common dynamic in a lot of areas); an issue affects an invisible group, mainstream discourse makes it about a hypervisible group whose members for the most part are Not Happy about this, some of those members then turn around and blame the invisible group for the fact that they're being harassed for something they had nothing to do with, and then sometimes members of the invisible group decide that actually the hypervisible group wants to be part of that discussion and are strong-arming their way into it collectively.

It's very tiring.

[miraculouslumination]

Why yes I am ready and willing to block anyone who makes abortion into only a woman's issue :)

Why? Because there are countless trans men and transmasc people who get, have gotten, and/or need to have access to abortions.

Abortion is not just a woman's rights issue. It's a human rights issue. Include trans men and transmascs in your discussions and terminology. Stop speaking over/for us.

A quick edit (thanks for pointing this out!): This also goes for nonbinary people! Additionally, multigendered, transneutral, and xenogender people, too! So, to reinstate: abortion is FAR from being just about women - specifically cis women. Involve us in your conversations about abortion.