#challenge negative thoughts

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I was feeling bad that I didn't really write today...

Then I remembered that I literally developed a whole ass magic system for my book PLUS ran errands...

Shut up brain, I did great today.

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10 Proven Strategies for Daily Happiness

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10 Proven Strategies for Daily Happiness

Cultivating a positive mindset can significantly impact your overall well-being and success in life. A positive outlook doesn’t just make you feel better; it can improve your physical health, enhance your relationships, and help you achieve your goals. Here are ten proven strategies for daily happiness to help you cultivate a positive mindset: 1. Practice Gratitude Daily Why It…

10 Proven Strategies for Daily Happiness

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Confidence is a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life's challenges and to succeed—and the willingness to act accordingly.

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Hello! Sometimes (lately it is more than ever) I feel like I am doing nearly everything wrong and the end of the day I can’t stop myself thinking about things that I’ve done wrong. I couldn’t seem to make a way out of this, can you suggest me anything dear? Also really thank you for what you’re doing here.

Hey love, 

Can you explain to me what you mean by feeling that everything that you’re doing everything wrong? Are you talking about interpersonal relationships? Are you talking about a job? If it’s a job or a certain task, ask yourself why you think you did it wrong. Was there a grading scale? Did you install a lightbulb wrong? Did you comfort someone wrong? As you can see answers for these questions vary greatly so I guess a way to really start challenging these thoughts is to start asking yourself very practical questions. “Why was it wrong?” “What could I have done differently?” “Can I remember that and do it better next time?” There is very little in this world that can’t be fixed. So whatever it is you think you did wrong, remember that there is a chance to fix it. If you mishandled your anger, apologise and learn to manage it better. If you miscommunicated and caused an issue at work, ask for advice and how to fix it. It is also important to remember that for certain things there is no “right” or “wrong.” If your friend or someone you cared about handled the situation the same way you did, would you say that they did it wrong? If you think so, how would you help them fix it? If you don’t think so, then why is it different for you? 

Challenge your negative thoughts. Ask yourself questions. “What evidence do I have to support this?” “How do I find out if what I’m thinking is true?” Most of us have the tendency to jump to conclusions, more often than not it’s always the negative one. So challenge yourself to find evidence to back that and find evidence that argue that. Did someone tell you that you were doing it wrong? Did someone imply that you were? It may not seem like a lot, but forcing yourself to do this will help you start to realise that these thoughts are not always true. If you already knew that, it will help re-enforce the fact. 

I’m sorry if this is pretty vague.  Since I don’t know the specifics, I hope that this at least give you some idea on how to start dealing with this pattern of thinking. 

Always by your side,

Kelly

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Sea Isle City Day 4: Forgetting The Ugly

Today was a pretty good day. I got to get out to the Sea Isle City Boardwalk with my boyfriend, Mike. He bought me this cute Sea Isle City t-shirt – in gray since I am color blind and it happens to be one of the colors that I can usually see no matter what – and we spent some time playing at an arcade and went shopping as well. We also got lunch and this really good pizza place. Overall, I really enjoyed myself. But I also learned a lesson today, which is to take the mean comments that people say about you and basically forget the ugly. Now, if only I could do that all the time!

Once we got back to the beach house, I decided to try on the two shirts that I got today, and the one I wanted to try first was the one Mike got me since it was my favorite one. He told me to go out and show his mom. Oh, what a mistake that turned out to be. His dad said it was pretty and then his mom said, “I wouldn’t go as far as to call it pretty.” Then I made the mistake of saying that I felt fat in it because his mom basically said that I should put it away until next year (after my bariatric surgery).

I felt horrible, like I know I am fat – thank you very much – but it really hurt my feelings and Mike didn’t exactly stand up for me either. But ouch! That was kind of mean. She didn’t have to outright agree with me. She could have kept that thought internally and at least said that it looked alright or okay or decent or something. She could have even just smiled, and that would have been nicer.

You can believe that I took that shirt right off and not only did she hurt my feelings but I was hoping that I wouldn’t offend Mike if I never wore it again since I looked like a beached whale apparently. I was offended, and then I started to feel kind of sad. I was letting one mean comment (or two depending on how you look at it) ruin my good day.

After a couple of hours, I decided that who cares what she thinks, anyway? I have seen women bigger than myself wear nothing but their unmentionables and still feel confident. I put it on and just owned the crap out of the t-shirt that my boyfriend was nice enough to get me. So, that mean comment was all about that t-shirt that I have on in the picture on the left. It was nothing fancy, but I love It.

Forgetting the ugly thing that was said to me was the best decision I have made in a little while. Immediately I started to feel better and was able to really enjoy the rest of my day. It wasn’t easy, that’s for sure. But I challenged my thinking and started to ask myself, “Why do you I care, anyway?” Everyone is entitled to their opinions and there is not a damn thing you can do to change someone’s opinions about you. There are going to think what they want to think. That’s just how things are.

Now, if I would be able to do that all time things could really start to look up for me because I spend so much time worrying about what people think of me.

Time for bed! Until Next Time…

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Sea Isle City Day 4: Forgetting The Ugly Today was a pretty good day. I got to get out to the Sea Isle City Boardwalk with my boyfriend, Mike.

Sea Isle City Day 4: Forgetting The Ugly #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfEsteem #SelfImage #ThinkPositive #Bipolar #SoBipolar #MenatlHealthBlog #Blogger #Blog #Blogging #Thoughts Sea Isle City Day 4: Forgetting The Ugly Today was a pretty good day. I got to get out to the Sea Isle City Boardwalk with my boyfriend, Mike.