another ugly thing in recovery culture and the cult is the victim vs survivor thing. if ppl call themselves victims, its because they are choosing that language to be the most accurate communication of their circumstances. no one has any right to correct them into calling themselves a "survivor". gross. and if ppl want to call themselves a survivor, thats fine too. its up to each person to chose the words that suit them at their own discretion.
i say victim because i refuse to make it a thing about "rising above" or "silver linings" or "strength" or "everything happens for a reason". my trauma has not had any single atom's worth of secret benefit. and i loathe the toxic positivity inspiration porn attitude that people come from when they want me to twist the facts into something it isnt. i havent survived. etc. i reject "survivor" and thats fully well within my rights as a got damn human being to do that. just as it's other ppl's right to chose to call themselves a survivor for reasons i personally hate, or any other reason. the Fucked part of it is that thing ppl (therapsychiatrists...) do where they interrupt me to correct my words because they find them unacceptable somehow. thats fucked up. i reserve the right to use language i know is accurate. even if other ppl dont like it or understand. and so on.
