#communication difficulties

[pixierainbows]

“ Some people have big voices that feel like storms in my head . They thrash and they scream . “

- Book “ a day with out words “

Many many voices are like this for Pixie …

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

@AutisticCallum_

[sahlosacarver]

The toxic positivity that is so often pushed on autistics is so exhausting for so many reasons. It feels like whenever I complain or express frustration about something to do with my autism, people (not just neurotypical people, I even get this from other autistics) are so quick to jump in with the ‘but autism isn’t bad! It’s just a different way to be wired! You’re using eugenicist talking points!’ Or talk about the social model of disability and how everything that I struggle with is only an issue because of society or whatever.

Like, when I complain about my sensory issues or my communication difficulties making my life more difficult that is not me advocating for autism to be wiped out. That’s not what I’m fucking saying at all. I’m just trying to say that this thing that I deal with is hard for me and it feels like I’m not allowed to say that. The social model of disability is great, especially for urban planning, but it isn’t all-encompassing or perfect and I would still deal with these issues even if I only ever interacted with other autistic people and only went to ‘sensory friendly’ spaces, or honestly even if the whole built environment around me was made accessible.

Sometimes my autism is disabling and prevents me from being able to do things, and pretending that isn’t the case doesn’t do anything except silence me and protect your feelings about my disability.

There is a middle ground between this toxic positivity/equating autism to just being a bit ‘funny and quirky’ and the misinformation that I grew up hearing from Autism Speaks and other hate groups. There are parts of my autism that are actually pretty sick and that I would not be myself without, like my special interests and hyperfixations (I am using these words as they are defined in the DSM-V here, not in the way they’re often used on the internet) but even those parts can contribute to making my life harder.

I’m not saying that I want us to go out and ‘cure autism’ when I say that I wish I could communicate more easily with the people around me. I’m allowed to be frustrated about the fact that I have extra support needs without someone coming along and policing my language or chastising me for having feelings about MY life experience. Steamrolling over the real experiences of autistics because they don’t fit the sparkly trendy image of autism that you want to present to the world is so shitty and just leaves behind people that can’t meet that standard.

[this-is-neuropsych-ableism]

I hate trying to express my opinions or just explain my perspective on something and immediately being accused of arguing for attempting to have a discussion. I’m not trying to argue with you I just want to explain something :/ ♾️

This is neuropsych ableism.

God, do I feel this. I am autistic, intellectually disabled, and cluster B, and let me tell you, when I open my mouth, people constantly believe me to be trying to argue or disagree.

I can never figure out if its my choice of words, or my tone, or both, or just them deciding to pick a fight - and they never clarify, either!

-Tom (he/him)

[enbyogre]

Does anyone know the name of the tma fic I lost where Jon time traveled to fix everything but could only talk in statement chunks?

I remember that it was great, but I can't remember the title and my folder of tma fics I've finished doesn't have a section for specifically language-related

Maybe I should sort the language-related ones, I have collected enough of them for that.

I specifically remember Jon trying writing, typing, and asl, but still only being able to say statements/parts of statements and eventually trying AAC apps to circumvent the problem, but could still only use 1 or 2 words at a time even with that because the Eye was being possessive of his communication ability

I literally have 55 fics saved in "TMA - Complete" and cannot remember if I last found the fic before or after I started using my bookmarks bar for them.

I also can't actually remember if it made it to the complete folder, so it could have been misplaced in one of my other 16 fic folders and idk what I'd even do if I have to search all of those too

[sprinkleofquirk]

Them: Why do you wear that same outfit to every conference?

Answer 1: “Because I’m autistic”

>> Weird, makes people uncomfortable, apparently supplies ‘unnecessary information’

Answer 2: “It’s my lucky shirt/dress/shoes/etc.”

Ah, like sports! That makes sense, it’s universal and understandable. Suddenly I have a fun personality

[k1kky-sb-d0odlz]

||✶ I wish I had something like those communication cards for when my friends are talking to me about something and I'm just "•-•" because I don't always know what to say so instead of saying the same three things "yay, nice, cool" I could show something like "I'm rlly excited too!!" "That sucks /:" "I can't think of a third option"

||✶ I don't think the cards themselves would work for me, besides I don't want them to think it's weird....

||✶ if I could make them or something similar I could make it themed on Ink's vials 0: