cause okay. to finally go into it. essentially when stella is “born” (read: crash-lands shooting star style) scott has a really bad moment of “oh. not even the universe sees me as my own person. i’m just in jordan’s shadow, even to them. how long until they forget about me completely?” and kind of shuts down for the first like six months of stella’s life.
and it’s really not helped because jordan becomes SUPER worried about him, constantly trying to cheer him up and not realizing He Himself is partially why scott feels so bad. it takes some very strategic shubble wrangling to subtly divert jordan away for long enough to be able to talk some sense into scott for him to face his daughter. it’s not her fault that she’s a constant reminder of his biggest insecurities, but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with
as stella grows older his relationship with her gets better, especially once he realizes that if he distances himself, she’ll likely blame herself (like he does to himself), and that he was abandoned and that shit Sucked so he can’t let her go through that if he can help it. his and jordan’s relationship Does get better but it takes So many years and So much therapy (read: shubble) to get there. those bad boys can fit So many complexes in em