#dan anon

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Anon Advice Asks - April 19th

parallel line anon (new), bad memories anon (new), dan anon, support anon, exception anon (new)

parallel line anon

Cas, im so tired. Im so unbelievably tired. My parents have no idea whats happening with me and they dont care to ask hey whats wrong fucking ever. So basically ive had a shit day and week.

(The rest is redacted)

hi <3

I completely understand why you're tired. I get it. People are awful, bigotry is getting worse, and I can;t even imagine growing up in that environment right now. I hope you know you have a safe space here to vent and to talk to someone.

Do you have any safe people to talk to irl?

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bad memories anon

hey Cas!

So Ive missed tumblr a lot (I took a pretty long break) and I came back woo but I made the mistake of going through my older posts and wow. bad memories.

I don't think I realised how bad my mental health used to be until I saw them and it obviously made me really upset. I don't know what to do because I like tumblr and I missed but now all i can think about is all that stuff.

I think I'll stick around but I sort of just needed to get this out yk.

Hope you have a wonderful day!

Hi! Welcome back!

I mean I think it depends on why you came back--if you came back for the content and community, could you make a new account? That way you have a fresh start from the past?

If you came back for specific people, could you see if there's other ways to contact them?

If you are attached to this account, could you delete your old posts?

I think it also depends on what the memories are, and how much they trigger you. Like you have to decide what's best for you, you know?

<3

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dan anon

(dan anon) For the anon advice ask:

I really am having a regulus-like experience today.

More often than not i guess but still. Basically i liked this guy from my class, let’s call him James…today he basically, rejected me. He told me, he doesn’t want to go anywhere with me and to leave him alone, because when i (as this regulus-type person) talk to him, others annoy him for being gay.

My interpretation is, that now i am the problem. Which shouldn’t be…but i feel like one, when it is, clearly ‘thanks to me’

…my life feels like fanfic material, anyway, carpe diem.

hi, it’s me again (regulus-type-experience anon)

a little update after a few hours…it is not as bad as i thought. though i still feel like i am drowning in my own thoughts. my experiences are still fanfic material and i feel that i can never get rid of these experiences. honestly it’s only safe to say that this is where i started with writing, it’s just that now i don’t feel motivated enough to write. basically writers block.

Most of my problems come from the fact , i have yet to realize, that i can not save everyone. then i also spiral into my own thoughts of selfless-ness

Hi <3

Ugh, I can;t even imagine how much this hurt. I know its hard, but try to remember that it sounds like it's not personal. He's working through his own issues and they have nothing to do with you. Plus, you deserve someone who wants to show you off, you know?

As far as writing, could you just write down your experiences, and focus on turning them into something more clear-cut later? Like just get the thoughts out for now?

Sending love!

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support anon tw: death

hi <3

I am so incredibly sorry about what happened. I feel like when shocking things like this happen it just completely tears your heart out in a way that you can never fully recover from. But what you said about having to be okay-- no you don't. You can share her memories and still mourn. You can be devastated and still support your family. You deserve to work through your grief just like everyone else.

Do you want to tell me more about her? If you want to talk, I'd love to hear.

I'm sending you a thousand hugs (if you want them)

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exception anon

hi cas!

i'm really confused. basically, i am straight. i've been straight my whole life. never questioned it. never found girls attractive, only guys. i can't imagine thinking about a girl in a romantic way, whereas with guys i definitely can. i've had multiple boyfriends, who i genuinely liked, etc etc etc.

but it's just that i like my best friend. a lot. and she's a girl.

so obviously, i'm not straight, which is really interesting. but i just can't make sense of my feelings! like, when i first met her, if you'd have asked me "would you date her" i'd say no. no. duh. i don't like girls. but recently - i don't know. she's just so cool. she's funny, she's smart, but not a try-hard or a braggart, she's pretty and confident, but she doesn't flaunt it. she's nice, but she's not a pushover and she's not fake. and god sometimes i look at her and have to talk myself out of kissing her right then and there. what????

i'm just so confused because - and this isn't me being in denial! i was raised by accepting parents, my friends are all lgbtq+ or allys: i'd be totally fine with not being straight - i genuinely do not like girls like that. i don't. it's just how it is; i have never once looked at a girl in that way and even recently, i still don't. i still can't imagine myself with a girl - except for, well, her. and i still like guys, still find them attractive - so wtf is this????

is there a sexuality that's like, straight but an exception for only one person??????

sending love <3

Hi!

Okay first, just a reminder that everything will be okay <3

I think the thing is, in my opinion, the terms 'straight' and 'gay' are like....very clear-cut, when a lot of people are more fluid than that. There are a LOT of people like you, who might mostly be attracted to one gender, but have a SLIGHT attraction to another gender, or who have an exception or two. And I think whether or not that affects how you identify is entirely up to you! I think also what you decide to do with it is up to you!

I'm sure there's a label for this, though I don't know what it is, but just know that whatever label you use, if you use any, should be what's comfortable for you. Just know that you're definitely not alone, and whatever you decide to do about it is valid, as long as you're kind to yourself <3

[scoups4lyfe]

i'm not actually sure, because iirc Keiwa's actor is affiliated with a group that also has female members but I heard he was in a dance group.

Buffa's actor definitely is part of a boy group.

Thanks for the clarification 🙏

[shreyamistry]

What an AI Girlfriend Is Actually For

Strip away the hype and the purpose is human: connection, attention, a little warmth at the end of the day. SweetDream is honest about that. You make a companion who's glad to see you and who remembers you, and that's enough to make a difference.

The reason it works is quality. Shallow chat would break the spell instantly. Instead, sweetdream.ai gives you natural conversation, real-feeling voice and calls, and visuals that hold together. That's what turns an idea into something you actually use.

[shreyamistry]

I just went through a terrible break up, so I need some fluff 😩 I'd like to request #36 and #68 for Dan/MC please! Thank you so much!

“You’re making me blush.” “I’m so in love with you.”

Dan x MC

Dan runs his fingers through Devon’s hair, their head laid in his lap. Dan takes notice of the silk-like texture of their hair, his fingers massaging their scalp a soft sigh of relief leaving the tips of Devon’s lips as they look up to meet his gaze.

“Hey beautiful.” Dan smiles, he leans down and presses a soft kiss to their forehead making them giggle softly. “I can’t believe you feel asleep watching a classic like Casablanca.”

“I’m exhausted, college has been so busy.” Devon shrugged, their hand finding one of Dan’s intertwining their fingers together.

Dan looks down at Devon sympathetically, “it might also help if you actually sleep at night, are you still having nightmares?”

“No-“ Devon tries to protest right away, but falls silent at the intensity of Dan’s gaze, their eyes dropping downwards to be looking at him. “Dan, seriously I’m fine.”

“That’s not what Lily said.” Dan comments, Lily and Devon became college roommates since they were going to the same school and they knew they’d be perfect roommates. “She said when she tried to bring up your night terrors you got defensive and mean.” Dan went quiet for a second, “and to Lily of all people.”

“I was a major dick to Lily, you’re not wrong.” Devon nodded, chewing on the inside of their cheek. “Yeah, I haven’t been sleeping.” They were major fucking up, they were always so testy with everyone, one minute they’re happy and the next their feeling exhausted and tired of everyone and everything.

“Why didn’t you say something sooner?” Dan questions, moving his free hand to rest on their cheek rubbing his thumb back and forth, they lean into Dan’s touch letting their eyes fall close. 

“I didn’t want to bother anyone with my problems, I guess. Everyone’s moving on, even Andy has since moved on from everything. I didn’t want to drag anyone down.” Devon shrugs, giving slightly into the darkness surrounding them wanting to fall asleep, but shooting their eyes open as Noah’s body played in their mind.

“You’re okay.” Dan hummed, rubbing his thumb back and forth against their skin. “I got you, I always will.”

Devon smiled up at him, taking a deep breath and letting it noisily. “I’m sorry I’m such a mess lately Dan. I can only sleep well when I’m with you.”

Dan smiles leaning down pressing a soft kiss to Devon’s lips, now moving his other hand to cup their cheeks as he moving his lips softly against theirs. Devon kisses him back, falling into the motions. Devon breaks the kiss beaming up at Dan, who rubs the back of his neck with a chuckle.

“We have to kiss on the same level more often or I’m going to have persistent neck problems for the rest of our life’s.” Dan laughs.

“I can’t help it you’re a fucking giant, Dan.” Devon laughs, sitting up on the couch folding their legs under them as they turn around to face Dan. “How’s this?” Devon leans in again, meeting Dan for a passionate kiss, their lips moving together perfectly.

“That never gets old.” Dan smirks, tucking a strand of Devon’s hair into place resting his hand on the side of their head, rubbing his thumb back and forth gently. “I never get tired of loving you.”

“Stop, you’re making me blush.” Devon laughs, their head falling down bashfully, causing Dan to laugh lovingly at his partner. “You’re too much.”

“I love seeing you blush.” Dan smirks, pulling Dan onto his lap, his arms wrapping around their torso. “What do you say, tomorrow we look into getting you some sleeping aids?”

“I’m so in love with you, Dan.” Devon murmurs, their hands tangling in Dan’s hair as they lean down their breath on Dan’s lips. “So much.”

“And I’m so in love with you, Dev.” Dan whispers, before crashing his lips against Devon’s roughly his arms tightening around their torso as their lips move perfectly together. 

Prompts found here! Please request one, I love doing these! I’m sorry to hear you broke up, I hope you’re doing well! lots of love and i hope thismakes you feel better!!

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Anon Advice Asks - April 8

tech bro anon (new), pg anon, dan anon (new), 6 anon, usaid anon

Tech bro anon

Heya Cas! I just want to say I LOVE your writing and you’re so generous with your advice

And I was wondering if you u had any advice on something I’m struggling with?

I used to use character ai since I was lonely, I couldn’t find any fanfics that I was into and I liked that character ai made me feel less lonely and I got to explore fake scenarios and stuff but then I learned how bad it is for fandoms and writers and artists so I haven’t used it in a long time

But now I feel really lonely, and there’s no specific fanfics that I want to read? I’ve been rereading, searching, etc., and I’ve been debating on writing my own since I’m not sure if other would like it, or if it would feel weird/not as good as character ai did

I don’t want to use it since it does more harm than good but what should I do when I’ve searched and can’t find anything I like?

I’m sorry if this sounds weird or soiled or like an “AI tech bro” or anything. I just want to know how to not hurt art/creativity, ya know?

Have a good one!

Hi!

I absolutely think you should write your own fanfic, it's so fun, and I guarantee whatever you write will be better than ai! Also, what about roleplay servers? it's like character ai with real people! I know a lot of people have fun with rp, and it's a fun way to socialize!

There are also fandom servers in general that are fun and a great way to socialize as well!

I'm sending you love <3

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PG anon

Wow, I can't imagine doing all those classes on top of everything you're dealing with right now. I know you feel like you should do more but I think you're right to be gentle with yourself and not force yourself to over-revise. If your grades are good, you're understanding the material, and you don't want to push yourself to the point of a breakdown, you know?

Okay as far as your friends-- the seven friends and the others. PLEASE tell adults. PLEASE. You cannot have lives on your hands. That's not your job, and that's a great way to bring you down a dangerous path too. It's not up to you to save anyone, let alone multiple people. Not only that, but in the nicest way, you don't have as much power as adults do. You need to ask for help--you can't do it all. PLEASE ask for help.

I'm proud of you for those positives and for seeing the positives. You seem like an amazing person and an amazing friend. You need to treat yourself with the same love you give others <3

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Dan anon

(Anon ask, from Dan in dms)

We messaged each other in dms but you said you prefer advice asks here, and yes, i do need advice.

Basically, there’s been really a mess within me and my friends’ lives, and the school we go to. I will try my best to explain.

I’m a trans guy, throughout this whole year, I have been trying to figure out my identity. Due to my situation at home and the previous school i went to, i believed it was safer for me to leave my trans identity behind. I sort of brainwashed myself into thinking that I could be happy like this as well, staying as my assigned gender. Spoiler alert: I was horribly wrong.

My parents don’t really understand trans people/identities, no matter what i tell them, i gave up on trying to explain myself a while ago. It feels pretty horrible that they will no longer give me support other than the financial one,, just for the fact that this school is private.

Now, this school we go to is alright, the subjects are good, teachers are mostly alright, some of them worse than others… The main problem is, i don’t really feel safe with being trans here. My friends really do support me and i support them as well but there have been some instances where we all didn’t really feel like we are welcome as lgbt+ students.

These things are also the reason I have struggled with keeping up with my studies. I still try my best…what makes me feel even more unmotivated is that if I fail to keep up, I don’t think my parents will want to invest in these funds my studies anymore. Like I understand that if I want to study here I also have to put in the effort, as I have promised…it’s just really not easy, some teachers gave me extended time to finish my assignments and some teachers really acted horrible about it when i tried to explain myself.

Returning to the lgbt+ discussion,, I am also bi. When I started transitioning earlier this new year and made a few guy friends, I noticed that, yeah, they also have friend groups with other gays, which made me feel really welcome. But i think i really started to have feelings for this one friend, i do think there’s potential…I’m just not really good at dealing with romantic feelings. I don’t know how to tell him. I’m also scared that if he does like me back and we end up together, that we will be even more unsafe as two guys in a relationship at school where it is not so safe for lgbt students. And then anothee thing is that even if he does like men, I’m scared he would not date a trans guy.

Something positive is that i have discussed some things about these romantic feelings with this one girl and she told me that she is sure he likes me as well, which would make sense. She also told me I should try to compliment him next time I see him, and well I mean i should have done that the day before yesterday because he had this really cool shirt i liked…oh well I’ll end this ask now or it will turn into a rant about someone i like hahah

Hi!

I'm so sorry, this seems like a lot to sift through and figure out.

Honestly, my advice is to do what makes you feel safe and comfortable. You seem to have some supportive people in your life (friends) and some not-so-supportive people. You have to think about and decide if being your authentic self (transitioning, dating, etc) is safe, and worth the potential backlash. And only you can decide that. For some people, it's SO worth it, and it makes life so much better. But for others, it might be better to go slow and form a support system first. That's a decision that you have to make on your own, I'm afraid. But the best thing to do is think about what YOU need and want and what's safe and healthy for YOU.

Sending love <3

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6 anon

Honestly I am so glad you cut your dad off. I know you love him and that's natural- he's your dad! But he sounds so unsafe. You deserve people who love you unconditionally.

I'm proud of you for 25 days! that's amazing, especially with everything going on with you! <3

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usaid anon

ts usaid anon and i dont have any one reason but i just need to say:

WHAT THE FUCK? WHO VOTED HIM IN? LITERALLY FUCKING WHO? WHO GENUINELY LOOKED AT THAT FUCKING BALLOT, THOUGHT OF THAT IDIOT ASSHOLE DICK OF A MAN AND THOUGHT "YES" THIS IS WHO I WANT TO REPRESENT AND RUN MY COUNTRY FOR THE NEXT 4 FUCKING YEARS THAT SOUNDS LIKE A DELIGHTFUL TIME. ANYBODY STILL DEFENDING HIM AT THIS POINT CANNOT BE SAVED. WDYM AFTER SEEING EVEYTHINGYOU THINK YEAH I STILL STAND BY IT. HOW???

Sorry i just had to get that out

Yeah. Yeah. I....I agree. It's terrifying. I also have been screaming more lately lol. I wish I had something comforting to say <3 I'm sending you hugs <3

[deadandphilgames]

lately i've been very aware of ageing can i stop being aware *dabs youthfully* - dabby

You’re only as old as you feel

[avidxmn]

Hey, sweetheart, how are you doing? Sorry I haven't been around in a while... Life's been pretty busy these last few months! So busy that I only just got to meet my little niece last week! But I promise I'm gonna be around more often now. People here need me, and that includes you. I hope things are going okay for you right now. Things are finally starting to calm down for me, and Hanukkah is around the corner, so that means two weeks of vacation! Fuck yeah!

Djdjxhd oh my god hey. Yeah I 100% get it dude, no need to apologize. I’ve been alright, just same old shit pretty much. Got some days off of work because of Thanksgiving which was nice. Glad to see you’re back! Hope you’ve been doing well. Missed ya! ❤️