#datesfordummies

[life4lovers]

sometimes the guy i’m dating gets quiet so i ask “what are you thinking right now?” and last night he said “i don’t like this question because usually i’m thinking about how pretty u are” aaaaaaaaaaaa

ugghhh that’s super sweet wth

[meaningfulsuggestion]

I don't know if you asked for ldr songs or if people just started sending them but Already Home by A Great Big World, Stitches by Wild Child (the ending is so cuteee) and It Might As Well Rain Until September by Carole King

I had an anon ask about them and then more people starting sending them so this is perfect! I’m actually going to start tagging these so people can scroll through them and listen. Thank you so much for the suggestions <3

[life4lovers]

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can’t get enough of my self love rants? getting eaten alive by mosquitos? wanna hear me butcher everything related to taoism? yes?? Then, buddy, this is YOUR episode!

gently slam on that play button to hear me and my hippie ass get too personal and break a whole lot of rules of radio. #1: no swearing.

and be sure to let me know what y’all wanna hear for next week, because i have no plan! viva la wu- wei ((which just means non-action apparently))

 p.s…. here’s everything i promised to link

The Tao of Pooh… https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/48757.The_Tao_of_Pooh

The Power of Affirmations… https://www.louisehay.com/the-power-of-affirmations/

8 Ways Meditation Can Improve Your Life… https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/19/meditation-benefits_n_5842870.html

5 Minute Meditation for Self Love… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFeCUfw657g

10 Minute Meditation for Confidence and Self Esteem… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taA33Mtvi0E

Self Love Meditation w Affirmations… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgc0gMRyIYY

[life4lovers]

Okay so I really like this girl and she’s way into me as well but we’ve known each other for a month but she’s the greatest. However I also really like this dude who I’ve been friends with for a year now and he’s always been there for me and likes me back and I’ve no clue what to do.

ooh...okay...i have a few propositions for you...some may be dumb but we’ll see

okay. polyamory? of course, this would have to be something everyone involved is debriefed on and comfortable with and like into? i’m not super educated on it but i know it is a living and viable option.

alright, pros and cons list. some people are logic people and maybe you are. so comparing the two in that sort of lists and organized fashion may help you to realize where you see the most potential for happiness.

or, if you’re more like me, you’re a feeler more than a thinker. sometimes to test how i really feel for someone, i imagine myself with them when i’m in a bad mood and if they still make me smile then they’ve passed round one. round two is imagining them happily married with someone else and myself happily married with someone else too (usually like a celebrity crush cause i like to dream big lol) if i can sit there and feel very content with not being with them then that’s a pass for round two. then round three is like imagining them being happy with someone else but i’m still single. of course i may be a little jealous but if i can still appreciate their happiness then like, i know that my heart isn’t totally in it to win it, ya know? this was the one that i meant about being kinda dumb but hopefully something in there helps you lol

also. you could assign one heads and the other tails and flip a coin. the result of the coin flip doesn’t actually matter. but, while it’s in the air, you might realize deep down which side you’re secretly kinda hoping it lands on!

but, i mean, you have to great people in your life that both think you are also great so you’re in a pretty alright place! you just gotta feel it out now and i wish you the best and hope i helped!

[life4lovers]

i feel kind of shitty about my stretch marks due to my growth spurt. i stopped now (im on my 20's) but lately they've been more obvious due to the skin tone difference and I hate it. i wanna wear those cute high waist bikini panties i bought for the beach but i feel self-conscious about it

This is such a mood, girl, i’m with you. i always was super self conscious about mine as well. Of course it’ll take time to fully accept them. I’ve definitely starting the embracing of stretch marks bc it’s a nice reminder that i am a woman with a real booty, which i like very much. But like, if i could would i choose to live without them? HECK YES and maybe that’s how it will always be idk

But, something i’ve done to become comfortable with mine is get a bunch of thongs and cheeky underwear and put them on when i’m home alone or in the bathroom like washing my face or whatever and just take sometime to get comfortable in them and admire my cute ass self, bc even with stretch marks everyone is still pretty heckin hot.

also, Kendrick Lamar, in Humble, has requested that we show him something natural like ass with some stretch marks. so, if you aren’t getting that cute high waist bikini for you, then get it for Kendrick and fuck everyone else tbh

[life4lovers]

HeWwO im the girl that was talkin bout being interested in someone who doesn't wanna talk to me & um you asked what methods of "moving on" I've tried & I've tried like cutting ties & deleting him on stuff, I've tried distracting myself & trying to shift my focus & Appreciation onto other people, I've even tried hating him or telling myself that he's not what I see and he's just not worth it, which isn't great ik but it helps a lot. I just IDK what to do man, why can't he just give me a chance

I know it can feel super frustrating when you feel you could be so wonderful with a person and they just won't give you the time to prove it. But, my dad always says you won't like 99% of the people that like you, and 99% of the people you like won't like you back and that's what makes finding love so special. He may just be part of your 99% and, as disappointing as it is, there isn't much you can do about that.In terms of moving on, a lot of what you have written here relates to other people. A lot of it is trying to change the way you think about him which is only making you think about him more. Instead of working to turn thoughts of him into negatives or blocking out the thoughts, try redirecting the love, not to others but to yourself. When ever he crosses your mind, remind yourself that he is great but you're wonderful without him. I wrote up a list of other moving on methods for another anon a few days ago. Have a read thru that, I feel like some of it could be really relevant for you.https://datesfordummies.tumblr.com/post/175096354157/okay-so-i-really-like-this-girl-and-shes-way-intoAnd let me know if I can help you any further!

[life4lovers]

I've been super interested in this guy for like a year now but he's never been interested in even talking to me & it's weird cause everytime I try he replied with "k" but there have been a few instances where he'll message me & then we'll have a whole conversation. It bugs me & it doesn't help that hes like mysterious idek how to explain but I can't stop thinking about him & Ive tried multiple things to try & stop that worked with other people but I just cant stop thinking ab him for some reason

Honestly, it sounds like he maybe kinda keeps you around bc when he's bored or if he feels lonely or needs a confidence boost, he feels he can always reach out to you and get some sort of attention and validation. But, like you're worth more than that! Find someone who appreciates you for you!What methods of moving on have you tried? I don't wanna give you a whole mess of options if it's just repeating stuff you know didn't work do you.

[life4lovers]

im so glad ur back! now to the question.. so my bf and i go to the same sleep away camp but this is the first time we’ll be going AND dating. both of us are pretty private people when it comes to our relationship and camp is a very sexually charged place. idk i feel like doing any pda-y stuff will ruin our relationship or embarrass him but also it’s the entire summer and i don’t want things to get distant between us you know.. what should i do to i keep the relationship “alive” at camp? thanks!

y’all don’t have to go all in with pda stuff. maybe consider whether or not hand holding and hugs would be within y’alls comfort zone. also, i can say this bc i’ve done it and i know that finding secret places to make out at sleep away came ain’t that hard, so that’s something to think about it!