#crush help

[sunstone-eridan-accoumt]

OUT OF CHARACTER!!! OOC!!!! I really need advice and also just to yap…😔😢👀

EXPOSITION: AUGHHH THERES this boy I like. He’s a personal friend of mine. We knew each other very early on, like…7? Maybe. And we didn’t go to the same middle school where I mainly made all my friends. Parents kept me updated on him but I didn’t care (because I didn’t know him like at all and the person he became) but then when I got into highschool we had the same class and quickly became friends. Idk if he considers me a best friend but I do him……geulppp

CURRENT SITUATION INFO: okay. So like before you go and say “just confess!!! Here’s some information. I just broke up with my gf like- a month ago. Although I’m moved on? So idk..he knows about it, we dated for like 11 months. Broke up right before our anniversary. I’m fine now but yk. And I have the same name as his parent which he cut off contact with. And also I’m PRETTY sure he’s straight. He denies being gay and has never showed interest in guys or even non-binary people, but I may be wrong since I’ve only known him for 1 year so far.

FANBOYING!!! Aka pro’s: UGH where do I begin? He’s so adorable. Like- not in a “flowers bloom wherever you walk” way. But I can draw him and he has very cute eyes. Oh boy I never described them like that and it’s true.. and we have basically the same interests like certain video games, although he’s way more into playing them than I am bc I have skill issues (he’s always been this way, lol)

But like, he’s just so cool too. Our parents are best friends basically so I don’t want to ruin that either… and he’s so funny and smart, like genuinely funny and smart. AND he’s very kind. OH and his cats like me, like they really like me. And a couple days ago he was staring at me- although I think he does that to everyone and it was for a joke but it really made me flustered. So I don’t wanna look into things because he does do a lot of things jokingly… :,( and the same day we sat really close to each other and it made me happy. But I don’t wanna seem weird for that. Like obviously I kept my mouth shut and had a great time playing video games with all my friends but still it made me all happy. lol. He also said he really wants to invite me over to that same day. AGGHHH

CONCLUSION: I don’t want to ruin our friend group or our friendship in anyway or even make things uncomfortable for him because they might. And I’m not sure if I’m reading into things or finding moments and my thoughts are running with it,,, UGHHHH😭💔

[glowettee]

hello angel !!! so i am in quite the predicament.. i have a crush on someone who's already in a relationship !! (╥﹏╥) i feel terrible and so guilty and i hate not being a girl's girl. how can i get rid of this crush ??

thank you so much ♡

✧･ﾟ: ✧･ﾟ: crushes when they're unavailable (staying true to yourself) :･ﾟ✧:･ﾟ✧

hi sweet angel!

first off, please don't beat yourself up about this! having feelings for someone who's unavailable doesn't make you a bad person or a terrible girl's girl. feelings aren't something we can always control, they just happen sometimes, and that's completely human.

the fact that you're feeling guilty and want to handle this with integrity shows that you ARE a good person with strong values. so let's work through this together, okay?

⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆ why this happens (and why it's normal) ⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆

crushes on unavailable people are actually super common, and there are usually deeper reasons behind them:

⋄ they feel "safe" to like ~ because nothing can happen, there's no real risk of rejection or vulnerability ⋄ the mystery factor ~ we tend to idealize people we can't have and fill in the gaps with our fantasies ⋄ timing and proximity ~ sometimes you just meet someone amazing at the wrong time ⋄ they represent something you want ~ maybe they embody qualities you're looking for in a partner

understanding the "why" can help you process these feelings without judgment.

⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧ how to move through this gracefully ⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆

create some distance ~ this doesn't mean being rude or obvious about it, but maybe don't seek out one-on-one time or engage with all their social media posts. give yourself space to let these feelings fade naturally.

redirect your energy ~ when you catch yourself thinking about them romantically, consciously shift your attention to something else. have a go-to distraction ready like a playlist, a hobby, texting a friend.

focus on their humanity, not the fantasy ~ remind yourself that you probably don't know them as well as you think you do. that person you're crushing on? they're a whole complex human with flaws and quirks, not the perfect fantasy your brain has created.

honor their relationship ~ whenever you feel those crush feelings bubbling up, remind yourself that they've chosen to be with someone else. respecting that choice is actually a beautiful way to show love, by wanting what's best for them, even if it's not you.

⋆｡‧˚ʚ what this crush might be teaching you ⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆

i know this sounds very "everything happens for a reason," but hear me out, sometimes crushes like this are actually our subconscious showing us what we want in a relationship.

what specifically do you like about this person? their sense of humor? how they treat people? their ambition? their kindness? these are probably qualities you want in a future partner, and now you have a clearer picture of what to look for.

this crush might also be highlighting that you're ready for a relationship or that you want to put yourself out there more. use this energy to focus on meeting new people who are actually available.

⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆ a few steps to move forward ⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆

journal about it ~ write out all your feelings without censoring yourself. sometimes getting it out of your head and onto paper helps process it faster.

talk to a trusted friend ~ not to gossip, but to have someone remind you of your values when you're feeling weak.

invest in other connections ~ spend more time with friends, family, or even start dating other people if you're ready.

self-compassion ~ treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend going through this. with kindness, not harsh judgment.

give it time ~ crushes usually fade, especially when you're not feeding them with constant attention and fantasy.

⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆ staying true to your values ⋆｡‧˚ʚ♡ɞ˚‧｡⋆

the fact that you're asking this question tells me you already know what the right thing to do is. you want to respect this person's relationship and maintain your integrity, and that's beautiful.

being a "girl's girl" doesn't mean never having inconvenient feelings, it means handling those feelings in a way that doesn't hurt other women or compromise your values.

you're doing great by recognizing this situation and wanting to handle it well. trust yourself to do the right thing, even when it's hard.

please remember, the right person for you will be available and excited to be with you. this crush will pass, and you'll be grateful you handled it with grace 💕

sending you strength and self-compassion!

✧･ﾟ: ✧･ﾟ: :･ﾟ✧:･ﾟ✧

xoxo, mindy ♡

[gummy-haj]

Does anyone have any tips on confessing to people

Im scared

[melancholyangel333]

guys i won't see my crush for another year and the sad(der) thing is that i know (think) something could've happened between us id we had more time!!

[gaesnek]

okay Tumblr time for crush talk/lesbians anonymous because this is starting to genuinely become unhealthy and I need to do something soon before I become a pile of lesbian goo

So I am like hard crushing on this girl rn except I know jack shit about her bc we have no classes and the only time I see her are in the halls and during one of my lunch periods. I think she does photography (meaning she's probably a grade above mine bc of prerequisite stuff) except I'm not entirely sure bc I only know this from an art fair which was a couple months ago and I have the worst memory known to humankind. I know she's big enough into hollow knight to have merch bc i've seen her with a hoodie/jacket. ik where her locker is and ik she's probably extremely introverted. anyways that's about it. I don't know if she's queer. I don't even know her fucking name.

So the problem arises: How tf do I like idk talk to her or give her my number in some way without weirding her out if I know pretty much nothing about her. I don't think she knows I exist.

So

Ideas much welcome

Send help

[zirielladior]

WHY HAVE I BEEN GONE SO LONG SJKJS

ella's diary ୨୧

saturday || 12.2.2023

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hi guys, i'm back (after a century) and i'm gonna tell you why i was gone along with another update 😭

it's an extremely chaotic fall break & 'while-i-was-gone' summary, my apologies if you find it difficult to read.

so as of recently, i have a crush on a boy at school 😭 and i haven't liked a boy at school since i was nearly ten years old. it's been a few years.

it's been so chaotic, and i've been trying to journal about my school time and my thoughts at home and it takes up so much time along with me trying to manifest because apparently "it works!" so why not give it a shot.

well i did, and it works. only a bit though, along with the fact that every time i braid my hair in pigtails something happens between me and (we'll call him macaroni.)

we had fall break, and usually i love it, even though i can't stand my family for more than five waking hours, but this year, i couldn't wait to get back to see my friends, finish up school work, and get away from my family, (and maybe 1% cz i missed seeing macaroni at schl..?)

i've been so obvious lately, going to games he has and stuff and i'm pretty sure his friends know even if he doesn't i've seen him follow me into the library and walk by some of my classes so idk what to think (i need help 💀)

my friends keep telling me, not to stop every time i see him and when i see him (during lunch) i literally pause in my tracks and stare before i realize i'm probably being weird asf and then i turn around and my friends start getting excited with their usual dose of shits and giggles trying to see where i saw him (its like i have an entire process when i see him it's so pathetic 😭)

i'm terrifed and have to be sure that he knows, i probably like him. i mean we don't talk at all except for a few comments he made on my computer and me talking about his water bottle (it's stupid) and when he had detention i was getting grades for my test from my teacher and i should've picked a different time to ask but my teacher had told me to come in during break. (SO I DID 💀)

not only this, but me and my friends go to his games because on my friends likes someone on the team, and the other goes anyway for fun. so i started going with them, except my father grounded me because i took my computer to school and i'm not able to go anymore.

i feel kind of saved, because now i don't have to face the fear of being around him. and my friends they're constantly feeding me these delusions and what-if's which only excite me until i realize perhaps it isn't true. because nobody except for maybe 5 people i know have ever had a crush on me, not absolute strangers who i like and might like me back nobody as EVER "liked me back."

then again, i'm pretty sure his friends know bcz me and my 2 friends were walking out of the library and his friends left him where we were and started laughing when he found out we were right there and he ran back to his friends like he was embarrassed or something.

my friends ofc, keep telling me stuff like "oh after the game him and his mom both looked at you, so its possible he likes you and totally told his mom." but it's kinda believable because during the game his mom looked at me like twice and smiled at me. and he looks at me at school literally whenever we pass him when we're walking or something.

anyway, enough about my absolute panicking SCHOOOOOOLLL

i finally have straight a's guys !!

and i'm going to a melmar trilogy tour concert in may next yr, with my friends <3

also, i've been gone because my parents have been seriously wonky with their "after 9" or "after 10" rules on my devices and during the day i'm either reading or studying, but my winter break is in two weeks, and i WILL NOT DISAPPOINT my little lovelies reading this 💗 ty guys sm if you made it this far you guys are my real ones and you know it (🎄 if you made it to the end)

ALSO PLS WATCH DASH & LILY I WATCH IT EVERY YEAR SINCE 2020 WHEN IT CAME OUT AND YOU NEED TO WATCH IT - THERE AREN'T ENOUGHT PEOPLE IN THE FANDOM ITS AN AMAZING XMAS SHOW PLSSS

anyway

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love always, ella ୨୧

help

i say give it up, macaroni's def not worth it

macaroni's SO worth it, keep liking him see what happens 🩵

Voting ended onDec 9, 2023

[heartache-suggestions]

Does anyone have any advice to ask someone out?? Like I’ve had a girlfriend before but it wasn’t like we made it a big deal. But how do I go about it? She’s someone I’ve know for a while and we’re both gay so being rejected via she’s straight won’t be an issue. Only the issue that she might not be into me the same way.

[casuallycrushing]

crush tip

do the triangle look (look into their right eye, their lips, then left eye). it works