Ah. Just remembered that between the Diplomats Son and DITF Jason and Bruce just NEVER talked about the balcony incident. They both just sit and let it fester until it eats both of them away. And sitting and letting the issue fester , especially when it comes to personal emotions about things, they won’t talk about it. it is Very Bruce (duh) and Very Jason (we see this when Willis was killed by Dent, he doesn’t get explosive anger, he stews in this grief of his. We kinda see this when he first learns life moved on without him in Lost Days)
Idk, where I’m going with this. Something about Jason almost never voicing situations that hurt him and Bruce steps on any cracks in their relationship making it worse. And Bruce not voicing how deep his guilt truly goes, and just about anything Jason does digs that guilt deeper and deeper.
I think the ONLY time we see Jason vocalizing his thoughts is during UTRH and Bruce was just not in the headspace to actually truly listens to what Jason was saying. (And then I guess it leads to more Guilt on Bruce’s part for not being able to help Jason in the way he needs) UTRH is the exception, because both of them express a fraction of what they feel, but they can’t get anywhere because the Love is tattooed into their souls, but the hurt and guilt run deep.
And I think writers don’t understand that specific parts, because now they just make any other confrontation between Jason and Bruce comes off as Bruce accuses Jason of something and Jason just takes it, any yeah? It kinda works? But I don’t think they’re writing them with the underlying emotions in mind. Theres a different motivation and feeling when you’re hurt by someone you love. When you feel guilty for something you’ve done to someone you love.
But I digress, I think that after UTRH the both of them would let any issues they had with one another continue to fester. Jason would stop bringing up the joker, and would stop trying to explain his own moral code. Jason wouldn’t ask Bruce to kill after that either. Bruce also works with other heros/antihero’s that kill from time to time, so he wouldn’t act as against Jason killing it as writers make him out to be. It would just add to his guilt complex of the ways he’s failed to save Jason. But Bruce would still try to get Jason to stop killing, and Jason would probably slow down for him, but it hurts him every time he sees a rapist or mass murder walk out of black gate or Arkham.
The beauty of Jason and Bruce is all the words left unsaid between them. It’s why they were compelling when Jason was dead, and they’re still compelling now that he’s back to life. They Love each other so much that they’re willing to suffer in their own silence, but that silence is suffocating them. Hurt and guilt are messsssy feelings that neither of them want to deal with
I actually don’t know if my train of thought was readable. I’m just rambling right now. Idk they should both never talk things out and constantly be stuck in their own heads about where they stand with the other.