#deflecting

[ohgodshutit]

the ugly ass puck marks

[neyrasimp]

I was going through the comments of all the episodes of Purple Hyacinth (for discord reasons) and I was reminded of some annoying opinions.

TW: mentions of strangulation (y'know the episode)

If anyone thinks I should add any other trigger warning to this, please tell me

I can't with people calling Lauren annoying and mean in early season 2. Like? She was almost strangled to death by someone she was working with and who she thought she could trust, all while that person said that he could kill her without shedding a tear. But sure, she's annoying for saying she doesn't wanna work with him anymore and for wanting him to stay out of her life.

Mind you, in the season 2 premiere, she hadn't seen Kieran since episode 43. AND IT HAD BEEN ONLY A DAY. Her reaction was entirely justified. Someone almost kills you yesterday, and you have to be okay with it today? (Episodes 41-45 take place on the same day, and then 46-54 all take place the day after. Lauren isn't being dramatic, she's being as rational as can be if anything when it comes to this)

And so many people wanna say she shouldn't react that way because "she should've seen it coming." Yeah, she should've, but she didn't, and she's reacting accordingly. If anything, she underreacted by not shooting him when she pointed her gun at him.

And this is not me hating Kieran btw, I am happy with their development and the events of episode 43 were, in one way or another, inevitable. It doesn't make his actions any less wrong, though. He should not have reacted the way he did.

I feel like these people just wanna hate her. This isn't even hard to understand. Or it's just misogyny since the male lead can act in any horrible way and we're just gonna blame the female lead for reacting to that. (I love Kieran I swear, the thing is the fact that his actions are expected doesn't make them any less inexcusable)

[agentcanis]

you cant just go and be a good boyfriend with everything that you carry. please seek therapy. let people help you or you will never be able to help iceberg

Do you not understand it? All saints have their load to bear.

[itsmythang]

[netscapenavigator-official]

It’s funny how every time Staff does something that massively upsets every corner of the userbase, they post one of those art collection things to try and distract everyone and act like they’re not receiving overwhelmingly negative feedback in the support box.

[upsurgecomic]

[firsttarotreader]

"guarded" anon // i agree, pedro is a guarded person like dave said. i'm one myself and these types of people would be seen on the surface as very warm and interactive, but that's a mechanism to deflect what they're actually thinking/feeling. in my case whenever someone asked me how i feel , i'm having difficulties of being open about it to the point i can even get anxiety attack if people push me about the matter, even when i want the attention and care.

i dont think mami tarot has read about that before? i hope you could, if you're up to it!

Hello! So I decided to do a reading on this subject and asked the cards how “guarded” he usually is and how much that translates into “deflection”. The first pull was The Hierophant, The Sun and Knight of Hedgehogs.

The Hierophant as the first card could point to “deflection” in a way that he is not showing his instincts, his passion, his “heart”, but rather trying to fit what others expect from him. However, The Sun means he actually does show his feelings and his heart and his passions, he makes them clear, they’re in the Sun, they’re not really that hidden. The funny thing is the Knight of Hedgehogs is a “worker”, he will work on this balance on a daily basis, slow and steady, and diligently, with resilience. It’s like he’s got both, the side of him that deflects and does what is “expected” and the side that is very honest and genuine, and he needs to work with them every day.

The next pull was the 9 of Spears, Page of Flowers and 10 of Spears. The 9 of Spears is the card of anxiety, and it’s such a common card in his readings. He really does seem to have anxiety issues, worries, and these feelings are always present in his readings. The Page of Flowers is again somewhat of an opposite, since he’s the adventurer, the explorer, the boy who is full of energy and excitement and who loves to try new things. This anxiety might be kind of mining some of this boy’s energy. The 10 of Swords could be pointing to him feeling overwhelmed and defeated, and the way he tries (or needs) to acknowledge his pain and suffering and move on, and he might know how important it is to release his attachment to these painful situations. I see it as him realizing he needs to let go of all this anxiety and pain so this Page of Flowers can be the explorer he wants to be.

The last pull was the King of Hedgehogs, 7 of Spears reversed and 4 of Spears. This King is the most grounded, stable, reliable King, someone you can count on and that knows how to balance his energy and attention between his money and career and his home life. 7 of Spears reversed points to him making an effort to come clean, to not be dishonest, to not play tricks to fool others. To be the King of Hedgehogs, he can’t be deceiving, after all, he wants to be someone people can rely on, to be trusted. And then we have the 4 of Spears, which represents the need to step back and recharge his batteries. When putting in this effort, he might feel the need to distance himself and isolate for a bit so he can regain his inner strength. You know those people who need to decompress after socializing for too long? That’s him. He needs rest from interacting.

So as you can see, the people pleaser in him will want to do what is expected from him and he will want to be the reliable King of Hedgehogs, but there’s a lot of anxiety and also honesty and the effort to be honest, which leads to him needing to be alone and getting some rest from people.

[alicielalone]

Don’t tell people that their abusive situations could’ve been worse. You’re not helping that person. You’re ✨deflecting✨

Don’t tell a person to just “be an adult” about a situation they’re struggling with. Again, you’re not helping. You’re ✨deflecting✨

Don’t tell a person to do yoga or pray more. Well-meaning or not, you’re still ✨deflecting✨

Ask yourself why a person expressing their emotions bothers you, because if you’re ✨deflecting✨, you’re trying to find a way to ✨avoid✨ being emotionally vulnerable and that’s something I hope you get help for because, let’s be real, your go-to coping mechanism is just ✨repression✨and that puts you at risk at diminishing the value of your relationships and self-worth.

You have every right to set boundaries, being open with your emotions in your own time, and not bearing the responsibility of being someone’s counselor, but you can address the limitations of your services and abilities to another without ✨minimizing their pain ✨

You’re not being strong or being an adult; you’re just coming off like a dismissive 🌸🌺✨asshole✨🌸🌼. And if you’re fine with being an asshole, please...

💖✨🌺✨🌸✨🌼✨🌹DON’T FUCKING TALK TO ME 💖✨🌺✨🌸✨🌼✨🌹

I respect honesty, not 💖💖💖cunts💖💖💖

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