#demi problems

[gothmisspyggie]

Please tell me I'm not the only demi freak who could not give less of a damn abt Abby being ripped with 0% bodyfat but is still fixated on him- Yes, yes I know that's the whole fucking point of him AND EVEN HIS DAMN NAME, stay with me here! I don't experience physical attraction like that!

Who was he before he became a reaper?

What was his real name?

Did he resent being slapped on a platter like a steak for the public to consume?

What did he like doing before he died/was dragged into Gwi-ma's kingdom?

What were his parents like?

Does he have surviving siblings?

Did he have a girlfriend? Friends other than the Saja boys?

What were his thoughts about the other Saja boys?

What were their relationships like with their bandmates?

Was he a fuckboi?

Was he more dimensional?

Did he like a particular animal?

Did he ever vibe with Derpy and Sussy?

Does he play any instruments?

What's his favorite food?

What other music is he into?

I recognize I am pepe silvia-ing hard here with LITERALLY NOTHING, but he compels me.

Also someone please let him eat carbs if he wasn't allowed before, everyone deserves carbs.

[mbrainspaz]

That guy stood me up and I'm more mystified than anything. I can't even really muster annoyance, which is making the whole thing even funnier. I've been trying all evening to puzzle out his master-plan. Step 1: pathetically message the person who said they didn't want to date you (because they didn't feel like you really understood or respected them) for a year. Step 2: when they finally take pity on you and reply, act totally chill. Step 3: Make up some weird story about needing someone to talk to about a random life choice. Step 4: Agree to meet at a restaurant they really like. Step 5: Block their number! Muahahaha!

Like... why? If it was revenge it was so poorly executed. Your evil plot was to send me to one of my favorite restaurants to have a beer in a garden on a blustery spring day and not have to listen to a guy I barely know talk about his problems? Damn. GOT 'EM

[bluemoose86]

My fellow demiromantics and/or demisexuals, any of y’all experience that thing where there are some friends that you’re not actively attracted to, like you don’t actually have a crush on them but also if they showed any form of genuine interest you would be down? Like if they said “hey I like you” you would go out with them be serious about it and be happy but also if that never happened and you guys only stayed friends you would be perfectly happy with that too? Is this just me?

[mooredemidendem]

My sexuality is not a comment about you.

[jillianschufrau]

When you are demisexual with a high sex drive...

[one-last-puku]

sis you're not special for not feeling the urge to fuck someone the moment you see them, why are self proclaimed demisexuals so cringe

Wait... how'd you get this number? Who is this?

Listen, I'm not special because of who I want to fuck, I'm special because my mommy said I'm special.

Haha but jokes aside, I'm not really sure how I want to respond.

Why are you so pressed? It's really okay to have a normal attraction for people, anon. It doesn't make you less special, you're still just as special and important as any other sexuality. It's okay. It's okay that you don't understand the difference. It's not wrong to feel the way you feel. We're here for you.

Listen, it's not that deep okay. This is tumblr(dot)com, if you aren't used to people talking about how their sexual/romantic/gender experiences are, then you really must be new here. This is very common.

In my personal life, I only address my orientation in any way when people present any kind of interest in me that way.

In this case, I assume you hail from that post I reblogged, people just register similar in my head, it's that simple. Anon, I've tried tinder. I really tried tinder and I just could not swipe right on anyone because literally no one struck me as someone I was interested in based on their looks alone. People literally don't look the same to me, but they register the same unless by a label of some sort. Like faces... I dunno. I can't look at a whole face and see differences, I have to look at closer details. I'm just pretty much never attracted right off the bat to any choice in an otome unless there is some gimmick that I like. A lot of otomes have choices that just register the same to me. I see them and i immediately think "generic pretty boy, boring." I just don't know how to explain it.

Now as for demisexual, again I've tried Tinder. The reason I feel Demisexual fits me best is because, for me, I've only had romantic/sexual interest in someone once in my life. It's beyond rare for me to catch feelings, if not nearly impossible. If it weren't for the one time I'd ever truly been mushy for someone, I'd say I was full on asexual.

If we really wanted to get meta into the details, I said "Demi" by itself for a reason. I jumped into bed with a person I wasn't in love with and wasn't necessarily attracted to sexually or what have you. One person. After my last breakup with the one person I've ever truly found attractive and caught feelings for, I have not been able to again. I've tried, I can't force it. I wish I could. I can't.

Also, as for the one person I've ever actually caught feelings for and have attraction to, that wasn't immediate either. We were friends for a bit more than half a year, she had to become the best friend I'd ever had in my life before I saw her in a different light and I did not believe I was capable of being gay either. I only found her attractive to me after I realized I was in love with her. I've been close to a lot of people in my life, but I didn't catch those feelings, I still can't.

-That- is why I'm a self proclaimed demisexual, anon. I'm sorry if you don't understand, but it's just the truth. In my personal life, I don't call it that, but I always have to explain to a potential suitor that that's just how it is for me and I can't change that.

It's difficult, actually, there have been quite a few people interested, but I have to tell them it doesn't come easy to me and in most cases the feelings don't come at all. Most are not willing to wait for that potential or for the fact we must be friends for it to be even a possibility. I don't blame them.

It just is what it is. Demi is just a better way to identify what the facts are. The reason I end up explaining in detail is because of the stigma attached to labels like Demi as well as the fact it's just not a common thing apparently. No one understands that it just doesn't work like that for me unless they take the time to try and know me and be my friend. Like actually be okay with being just friends in the end.

I'm just so exhausted.

[3haruki3]

Just because I am demiromantic doesn’t mean I will fall in love with all of my friends! Demiromantic means you can only develop feelings with someone you know ,have deep connections with. This doesn’t mean you develop feelings for everyone you have deep connection with. So don’t worry fella , just because we are friends doesn’t mean I will fall for you!!!!

[hidden-in-plain-fright]

do you know how hard it is to be a demi and want to cuddle so bad but not have a significant other to cuddle with so you are down to do it with almost anyone but you know the moment someone hits you up you’ll get all defensive and want to get to know them and end up wasting your time because you feel as if you cant get that close to anyone ever

...

it’s pretty hard