#demiromantic representation

[bag-of-strange]

I don’t know how to tell you this buddy, but demisexual is the norm. Everyone else is weird

idk if this is supposed to be saying that demisexual isn’t real (cause it is) or not (no offense but I’m also just really bad at understanding things through text) but also… then I guess I’m weird cause I’m not demisexual… I’m demiromantic! :D (not that you can’t be both!)

There’s a difference between a want and a fact, it’s a want that I will only have sex until I’m married, it’s a not a fact that I can’t feel sexual attraction to someone without a close bond (that’s for when you’re demisexual, though I haven’t yet but I know it’ll happen when I’m older)

It’s a fact that I can’t feel any romantic attraction to anyone without a close bond because of the fact that I’m demiromantic, even if I want to someday fall in love at first sight

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Hiiiiiii

I’m trying to write a book in which the main character is Ace but I want readers to look at her dialogue and be like “Hmm, she might be Ace” without making it her whole thing.

Same thing with a demiromantic character

Any tips?

Sorry for the late reply! TwT

Tbh... I know I kinda always come back to this but I'd recommend doing it the way they did with Todd from Bojack Horseman. Have a character that has tons going on and none of it is sex-related, and then hit people with the whammy of the character being ace.

I will say though. I'm not the most optimistic person in that sense so take what I'm about to say with a grain of salt, but I think asexuality and aromanticism are still so little on people's radar that unless you DO mention explicitly that a character is asexual or demiromantic or anywhere on these spectrums, most people sadly won't even entertain the thought on their own. Heck even I, as someone on the spectrum, never will assume a character is asexual or aromantic unless explicitly stated in canon, because I have so little hope for representation. I once made a character in a comic that was aro-coded and not explicitly stating he was aro is one of my biggest regrets regarding that project now that it's finished. Even if you do drop good hints throughout, I think it's still at a point in our history where the orientation needs to be explicitly stated for people to even pay attention.

Sorry if it doesn't help much TwT But yeah that'd be my thoughts on the matter.

[elapach24]

Demisexual representation

I’m not sure if I’m doing this as a “tips to write good demisexual representation” post or “I haven’t found good demisexual representation and that's driving me crazy” post.

So I was really excited to read Radio Silence by Alice Oseman, but I did my best waiting and reading their other books in chronically order, before starting with Radio Silence, what I finally did five days ago. I was literally screaming when I started with it.

Why? Because I thought that I would finally find good demisexual representation. Key word: thought.

(Hold on the hate, let me get to the point, thanks)

I have read loads of books (on Wattpad) that promise demisexual characters. But half the time they didn’t use the label inside the book, or just on (in, at???? Please correct any grammar mistake) the epilogue. The others were one hundred percent as demiromantic as demisexual characters but they NEVER labelled the demiromantic part of the character’s experience.

So did Alice in Radio Silence. And I’m really disappointed.

Not because a character (as any people) cannot be demi in both types of attraction. Anyone can be both, anyone can experience sexual and romantic attraction in the same way.

But when talking about representation of an oppressed group, when our oppression is determined by how well allopeople can understand our experiences, it’s transcendental how well labelled are characters sold as ace/aro representation.

It's not that the demisexual part is bad written in Radio Silence, but it's not the only part written, just the only one mentioned.

So yes, if you want to write a character that is demisexual and demiromantic, that’s amazing, only if you name both labels.

So yes, Aled Last is both demisexual and demiromantic. And I know that he doesn’t care about labels, but he’s a character, not a person. He is a symbol for and of our communities. So both spectrums need to be named.

So yes, I’m tired of people who mix up sexual and romantic attraction. And still I rated Radio Silence with 5 stars ‘cause that’s my only critic, and I don’t know why these lines are constructed like this, but that’s the only part that bothers me completely about the book and how it's written.

Demisexual people do have crushes on any kind of people.

Commonly, it’s not that obvious that we don’t feel certain things, till you start noticing that you’re missing part of the experiences everyone else seems to have. But the romantic attraction (if you are just demisexual and not in the aromantic spectrum) is as everyone else’s and, since what I’ve talked with other demisexual people, commonly even more intense.

We just notice that how we have those crushes is different. Usually we don't understand how is different till we read about the split attraction model (SAM).

Fun fact (no that fun): Some demisexual people develop sexual attraction towards people for whom they don’t feel romantic attraction, too. And this part of our experience needs to be represented as well.

[silver-stargazing]

aggressively arospec week 2022: canon arospec characters

↳ Benny Thomas from Marvel Comics is demiromantic.

[raimi]

[Image Description: a screenshot of Cashew’s phone fling within the video game Blush Blush. The player has sent a message with a purple background and white text that reads: “You... Fantasize about the friendzone?” Cashew replies in two messages with a lavender-grey background and black text, reading “Errr--- Maybe? No. But... Yes.” and “To clarify... I’ve only ever had crushes on friends. I tend to fall for people I know well. It’s just... How I’m wired I guess.” End Image Description.]

I really was not expecting to see a demi character in this. Not that I’m complaining, haha.

(If you’re a minor seeing this because I missed a filter tag: do not seek out this game. It’s NSFW.)

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Asexual Spectrum Webseries Characters

For Asexual Awareness Week!

As usual, these are only webseries I have seen at least a few episodes of.

Bianca (asexual) - Shrew That

Emily (asexual) - All or Nothing

Blair (asexual/aromantic) - The Blair Goddess Project

Hamlet (asexual), Alex (asexual) - Hamlet the Dame

Miss Arcati (asexual/aromantic) - School Spirit

Sherlock (asexual/aromantic), Stanley (demisexual) - TAJWASH

Bianca (asexual) - Nothing Like the Sun

Nell (asexual) - The Late Nell Avery

Leone (demiromantic), Cyrus (asexual/aromantic) - The Grey Tarmac Road

Viola (demiromantic) - Twelfth Grade or Whatever

Rose (asexual/aromantic) - Rome & Juliet

Beth (asexual) - The March Family Letters

Billy (asexual) - High'rd Help

Serena (demiromantic), Roxanne (demisexual) - The Adventures of Serena Berg

Sam (asexual) - Sam and Pat Are Depressed

Maggie (demisexual), Nicole (asexual) - Maggie Hale's Corner

Dot (demisexual) - Middlemarch: The Series

Alex (demisexual) - All For One

Beck (aromantic) - Beck & Clem

Jane (aromantic/asexual) - Project Green Gables

Bathsheba (asexual) - Away From It All