I gatekeep.
In a world of influencer and celebrity worship. In a world of wannabe “IT” girls. I gatekeep. The skincare and hair care that works for me, is not guaranteed to work for you. We are all different. Everyone reminisces about the unique beauty of the 90s and 00s. People were themselves, and were not striving to be someone they aren’t. Beauty is subjective. Your flaws and uniqueness, are what make you beautiful. Being YOU makes YOU beautiful. IT girls didn’t become IT girls by being someone else. They became admired and sought after for being themselves.
Why would anyone admire you, when you don’t even admire yourself? Why would anyone aspire to be you when you don’t even want to be yourself?
Beauty standards are becoming even more strict. Beauty procedures are on the rise. Everyone wants the same manufactured face and body. We are all miserable. Imagine standing in a field of various flowers: roses, lily’s, hydrangeas, sunflowers, etc. but you’re angry and upset, because they’re not daisies. When people train themselves to see such a very slim concept of beauty, they are deluding themselves to the real beauty all around them. The world is beautiful because of its diversity. If everyone looks, acts, thinks, and speaks the same, no one is beautiful.
Stop asking for skincare and haircare routines. Stop asking how someone does their makeup or where someone got their clothes. Stop asking for workout routines. Stop asking influencers their regimens. Stop aspiring to be someone else. Learn yourself. Develop yourself. Get to know you. Develop your own rituals. Develop yourself. Find which perfumes work best for you. Find clothes that look best on you. (This is why I hate online shopping, because you can’t try on clothing to see whats flattering on you. We NEED physical stores. Stop shopping online. I hope Amazon, SHEIN, and other online shopping stores perish.) Learn your facial features, and how to enhance them with makeup your own way. Find out what you really like and not what society is telling you to like. Have an intimate relationship with yourself. You’re not beautiful, because you find beauty outside of yourself and apply it to you, when it wasn’t yours to begin with.
