Only the inaccessible and elusive is truly alluring, Proust says. And what could be more inaccessible and elusive than the past? Each person is attracted over and over again to a predictable "type" of lover. Each has a habitual pattern of loving and of losing: "the men who have been left by a number of women have been left almost always in the same manner because of their character and of certain always identical reactions which can be calculated: each man has his own way of being betrayed." For Proust, love is a conscious, deeply creative act of communion with memory, reaching into and through the beloved to all of life. As he says, "The fact is that the person counts for little or nothing; what is almost everything is the series of emotions, of agonies which similar mishaps have made us feel in the past in connection with her." We do not love people for themselves, or objectively; quite the contrary, "we alter them incessantly to suit our desires and fears...they are only a vast and vague place in which our affections take root...It is the tragedy of other people that they are to us merely showcases for the very perishable collections of our own mind." Accordingly, it is only because we need people in order to feel love that we fall in love.