Also I dont how many fucking times I've had to do the same old song and dance with him about how he doesn't fucking own me, he has no control over my life, he has no right be as insanely fucking jealous as he gets, because we are not dating! We never have! He's told me a few times that he likes me romantically, and every single time I've had to tell him the feeling is not reciprocated, we are just friends. He agrees and says he'll take steps to manage his feelings and glad we had this talk etc etc etc. But then its right back to how it was, he's incredibly possessive and jealous and develops a deep resentment to anyone in my life who isn't him. At this point I'm done trying to gently explain to him that I'm a lesbian and hes a man, theres been twice where he's told me, indirectly and directly, that he would detransition if it meant I would date him. Like. What a truly evil thing to say. Why would you put me in that position. Also he has said that both times while being engaged. And his fiance is a gay man. So he would not only put me in the highly uncomfortable position of deciding his gender, he would also put the ultimatum on his fiance of, "break up with me or change your sexuality". Why didnt I stop talking to him sooner. Why did I put up with all this shit and more