#distraction techniques

[love-chrysanthemum]

when you're a Tokyo Ghoul fan, just doing your therapy homework and one of the Distraction techniques causes you to vividly recall Kaneki's torture scenes-

[lovie-barnes]

this is just a a little post for anyone who sees it or is willing too be of support in a small way:

just been having alot of anxiety, negative + obssessive ruminating thoughts which has caused a bit of a depressive state and its been abit hard too try and relax and have clear thoughts and be in the present and ressure myself - any distractions and grounding coping techniques etc. would be so appreciated and welcomed 😊 like sending photos of any marvel characters (more so bucky/steve/sam/loki/thor/wanda/natasha) or marvel facts, even concepts of what they would be like in general. Just anything soft and light, even positive reminders and youre also very welcome too vent yourself in my asks or messages if you need too. Also please feel free to ignore this too! tumblr has just been a safe space for me as ive been dealing with all this because i get too read fics and see soft, light content and such. Its the best thing that has helped me so far with distractions and trying too relax and be in the present! - im also happy too help anyone who also needs help being distracted or grounded from their mental health and whatever they are going through<3

[kaetien]

My heart breaks with the realization that the last thing Nie Mingjue ever saw was his enemy -- his MURDERER -- holding onto his beloved brother that he always protected.

So not only did he die with so much resentment from being betrayed and murdered, but now this bastard had his bloody paws of betrayal on his “helpless” and “innocent” baby brother, Nie Huaisang.

[mental-health-advice]

Hey, um, so I'm nervous to ask this, but if I don't I might lose my mind. With OCD, can it ever feel like you want to act on your thoughts? I have what I hope is just POCD (P as in Pedophile), and the other day I had a thought like 'it would feel good to touch a child down there', and it felt like I wanted to... Naturally I freaked out and got anxious, and I'm still worried. This has been going on for nearly a decade, and I'm miserable.

Hi lovely, 

Thank you for reaching out to us here at MHA; I know that must have been really hard for you given the circumstances, but I’m so proud of you and I really hope that I’ll be able to give you some advice and reassurance! I am so sorry that you have been dealing with this so long and are now feeling so miserable.

In short, the answer to your question is yes - sometimes our obsessive thoughts can be so strong and overwhelming (especially when we’ve been dealing with them for such a long time) that it can feel like we actually want to go through with the thought. This is really common for people dealing with obsessive-compulsive disorders and intrusive thoughts, so please know that you are not alone in this. And most importantly, please know that you are not a bad person for having these thoughts!

I think the most important thing for you right now is to remember that these are just intrusive thoughts - they can’t be controlled, they’re literally unwanted things that intrude into your consciousness. They are not a reflection of you and your worth or anything like that, please don’t feel bad for having them. Personally, I believe that the fact you are questioning these thoughts and you felt panicked and upset by them, shows that you don’t really want them. Maybe looking at it like this will help you to feel a little better about yourself and the situation? I promise that you are not bad or wrong for this.

The most important thing with intrusive thoughts, but also one of the hardest, is to not give the fire any fuel - if you mill over the thought and try to analyse it, you are adding power to a thought which will likely make it stronger and make it appear more often. This is not to say you should completely ignore the thoughts, but simply acknowledge the thought is present and then move on and try to distract yourself; I like to try and do this by imagining storm clouds coming in (representing the intrusive thought) but then they slowly blow over in the breeze, taking the negative thoughts with them. Speaking of which, I am going to link our page of distraction techniques here, and a video here. Grounding techniques may also be useful in helping you to take back control from the thoughts, and bring yourself back to reality; here is our page on grounding techniques.

I’m just wondering if you have ever reached out to a professional regarding this?  The most effective way of dealing with these intrusive thoughts is to seek some professional help. A therapist or counsellor will be able to guide you into understanding your thoughts, why you are having them, and how you can learn to manage them and diagnose you if necessary. If seeing a counsellor or therapist isn’t immediately an option for you, you could go to your GP who can then refer you onto a mental health professional. I’m linking our page about getting help here because I know how hard it can be to ask for help and to admit the issues you are facing out loud. Professionals are trained in dealing with instances like this, and this will not be something shocking or ‘wrong’ to them, so I promise that they won’t judge you or treat you differently for going to them with these issues - you have nothing to be ashamed of, lovely!  You could call a helpline or use web counselling anonymously if seeing someone face-to-face is too difficult for you.

I am linking you to our page about OCD here! We have some really great informative pages which may help with your own understanding of what you are going through. Also, the following webpages might be helpful for you to read and they have some good interactive information about trying to overcome the thoughts too:

This four step programme

Intrusivethoughts.org

Suppression

I hope this has been of some use to you, friend. Again, I’m going to say that you are not a bad person for having thoughts like this, you are not wrong or bad, or anything like that - this is just something you have been struggling with, and you are never wrong for struggling and needing to reach out for some support. Please don’t hesitate to get back in touch if there is anything else that we can help you with! Please take care.

Rhiann xo

[tinknevertalks]

There are times I dream

Of hot mines and glaciers,

And always your face.

(Another one for you @nicehatgeorgia. I know I don't really go here, but Jack seems to be the guy for a haiku. And I get to write about Sam. XD Win win.)

[kaleid-tay-scope]

I've been sitting on our couch for an hour, after standing up frozen in pain in the dark for over thirty minutes. 😭💔 I'm in so much agony right now but everyone's tumblrs right now is getting me through. Thank you all.

[pherryt]

DCBB ART CLAIMS! TOMORROW!

Good thing i’ll have @li-izumi and @tabascostone to distract me.

chime in if you’re wriing and anxiously awaiting the claims.

chime in if you’re an artist and you can’t wait to see what you can snag :D

i shall soon be on the road to li’s for a weekend of tea, animated supenatural and stonehenge apocalypse. :D

[trash4ship]

Untitled something

I am suffering from writer’s block, so I wrote 500 words of Caryl, playing some time after 7x10. Makes sense? No? Well, it distracted me from major plot problems anyway. Put behind a cut to spare people’s dashboards. :)

She didn't want to see him leave, didn't want him to see the smile on her face fading. He had to leave, she needed to stay. It was harder to say goodbye each time and still... they weren't ready to exist in the same place at the same time. Things... they had been good at the prison but the prison was gone and so were the people they were back then. The kaleidoscope of their lives had shifted in a way she wasn't sure the pieces could ever fall into place again.

It wasn't fair but life didn't care about being fair.

Once upon a time she knew how to reach out to people, knew how to accept their help, their friendship... their love... She didn't know how to any longer.

She almost shook her head, had to force herself to hold still. Just a minute longer and nobody would be around to see her blinking back the tears. Only he didn't leave, and she yelped when his arms came around her from behind, offering warmth, comfort, making  her heart ache in a way she couldn't acknowledge or her defences would crumble.

„You have to go,“ she said, hating the fact her voice was lacking any strength and conviction.

„No. Not yet. No...,“ he trailed off, his arms tightening their hold on her.

He didn't know why he'd turned around or why he was embracing her as if his life was depending on it. Most of all, he didn't know why he leaned down now, kissing the soft skin where her neck met her spine. He hadn't meant to.

She shuddered and so did he, his breath catching while his heart beat so hard he was afraid he wondered if he'd pass out.

What was he thinking?

The thoughts chased each other.

He had thought of kissing her before, had thought of a good many things, always knowing it wasn't meant to be.

So why had he kissed her now?

There was no answer and if it wasn't bad enough he'd done it once, he was doing it again. He'd be damned if he had an idea why he was diving back in again, his lips resting on the same spot now. Unwilling... unable to pull away, he closed his eyes.

Was she angry now? Scared? Annoyed? What did this mean...

Words failed him like they always did and all he could do was to hold on, berating himself, hoping, fearing...

Carol withdrew slowly, only to turn in his arms, and when his eyes opened their gazes locked, a storm of emotions clouding her eyes. She cupped his cheek with a trembling hand and when she didn't speak either, he wondered if maybe she didn't have words either.

They were nothing but two lost souls unable to grasp even a straw of happiness.

She moved and leaning in her lips met his, his world tilting on its axis.

Maybe they didn't need words.

Maybe this was enough.

Maybe he was.