hi! hope you're doing well
my parents are divorcing and I've known for a few weeks but I haven't told anyone yet
i don't really know how to tell my friends, and I know I should've told my therapist about it but it's hard
so I guess I'm telling you to make me feel better and maybe to prepare myself to tell other people
I'm scared that my friends will get mad at me for not telling them sooner, even though that's unlikely (i think.?)
that's all, thank you for listening <3
As someone with divorced parents (and parents who have divorced step-parents), I completely get why it's hard to talk about. Talking about it makes it real.
Nobody should be mad at you for taking time to process. This is YOUR news to share, and if they get mad, fuck them. I'd say tell people when you're ready (with the caveat that like...if you're actively hiding it for months, I would be a bit worried that you're not processing?)
As far as making you feel better, here's the reality: things are going to change. It's gonna suck in some ways, and it will be a bit overwhelming sometimes. It's scary and new and it's sad, and it's OKAY to feel those emotions. BUT the thing that doesn't change is that your parents love you. And the thing is, if they're divorcing, it's probably a LOT better for them to be apart than together. After all the scary, unknown change, you'll settle into a new normal that's probably better than the old one. This is not the end of the world, and this is NOT going to ruin anything. You'll find new traditions and new fun things that would never have been possible with your parents being married. It'll be okay, even if it doesn't feel like it now.
And, if you're smart like I was at 16, you can play your parents against each other to get your nose pierced. Don't do this. Why would I say that?
I'd start by telling your therapist. They'll probably have some advice on how to cope, you know? But if you're not ready, I think that's okay <3