#draigspeaks

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

This post is talking about situations and events that have occurred in 18+ spaces. I am an adult addressing other adults in the room.

nothing sickens me more being in kink and other adult spaces than how transmascs are treated, especially if we're not hypermasc my GOD. Usually I can just cope with it cus some bad eggs are the cost of community sometimes I guess, but it's playing on my mind lately.

Scrolling through tumblr kink posts and noticing detrans posts and ones where a transmasc refers to having his genitals/chest touched, especially with derogatory or exposing terms, consistently get more engagement. Getting heinous DMs from cis men who don't even try to disguise that they don't respect me or my gender. Going to real life kink spaces and being talked about in terms that objectify me and automatically put me in a category during platonic conversations with people I barely know - and having my boundaries ignored or not asked/assumed because of the box I've been put in. Always getting the most attention when I'm being submissive, playing fem, presenting myself the way I know they want me which is the least like myself I could be.

TLDR, no being strong enough to grab me doesn't mean you can do so and kiss me, I am not a 'throwable twink' for you to talk about over my head, I am not going to get my tits out for you, I'm not a new experience for you to try. So fucking sick of how obvious it is that I'm not respected in these spaces that are supposedly safe for those who have been othered.

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

Top Surgery is FINALLY officially booked in and paid for yippeee !! 33 days left to go !!

fellow transmascs who've had the op or are also leading up to it, what guidance have y'all been given on binding? I usually wear tape which I've been told to stop 2 weeks before, but a friend has offered their old binder if I need it to wear during work hours. Did y'all have to stop binding altogether or do u think this would be okay?

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

thinking so hard about all the trans femmes I've met in my life rn trans femmes ilysm

(ik it's probably uncommon for positive interactions between trans mascs and trans femmes to happen on Tumblr but I actually don't care)

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

guys what's men making out in the snow I'm a hands on learner btw

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

I usually keep anything remotely nsft off this blog as much as I can but ghhh can we take a minute to appreciate the beauty of thighs. Beautiful thick thighs. Perhaps even in my hands? Is that too much to ask? Not to yk, objectify anyone, but ohmygodtheymakemeinsane

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

oh I'm watching Knives Out (finally yeah ik catch up draig) and Benoit Blanc is so tumblr blorbo I understand why this is all over my feed now

I'm genuinely enjoying this character very much but I'm sure that won't come to anything. :)

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

other trans people w bottom dysphoria ik this is an awkward subject but any tips for how to deal w this that don't involve packing?? mine has gotten SO much worse recently- 😭

[thebudgetmilkywhite]

I'm firmly on the aroace Grace train but one of my friends said yesterday that Eva Stratt deserves to be eaten out by a guy with glasses and god I couldn't agree more she's earned it. Someone make this happen for her.