I listened to @garyvee talk about how people have the audacity to expect people's appreciation having only just created something and that really struck me. I see it so easily in entrepreneurs and especially creators but here's the hard truth: I see it in the traumatized trying to heal. You have to understand that healing requires you to reprogram your body, your mind, and how both operate in tandem. There are both conscious and subconscious tasks that need to be reorganized and redefined. There is an entire vocabulary of words that have never been fully defined and above all, there are important lessons you need to learn about yourself and life in general. Nothing is easy in this life, healing chief among them. How can you expect this to happen overnight? I wish it was more comfortable. I wish it was easier but I have watched a lot of people try to heal. I've watched myself heal. I've done it. It hurts more than the actual events I was healing from. Healing should not be called healing...it should be called killing because that's what you do. You kill parts of you. You viciously attack the irrational ideas that have been your operating system because they helped you survive but also brought you a host of so many other issues. Killing is disturbing. Killing is about ending someone else. It's a savage enterprise that is remarkably terrifying, yet as nature shows us everyday, absolutely necessary. I think this is why people commit suicide. Healing is akin to killing and some people choose to kill themselves to heal their trauma and their pain. It's an answer to a problem they have never been trained to solve. Society, educators, and parents don't want to discuss healing like this. It's morbid. It's grotesque. But when has a full life lived not encountered the morbid and grotesque? When are we going to wake up from the "meta" of perfection and realize we need to have painfully morbid conversations that don't fit the beautiful narrative? Healing doesn't have to end with suicide but if we don't have these conversations with adults AND kids about how much healing hurts and what to expect, we become part of the problem. #healing #healtrauma #dylansessler (at Brookfield, Wisconsin) https://www.instagram.com/p/CW5-39gliwZ/?utm_medium=tumblr