#dysfunctional relationships

[musings-after-midnight]

Its incredibly painful when the people you love most are ones you cannot reason with.

[jefferyhiltonjones]

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[frothebrokenheart]

Dear Ex

I know that we had our ups and downs. I know that when we began our relationship it is a more or less unconventional setting. But at the very beginning when I wrote \e you all of those heart felt notes and tried in verbal words but failed miserably to tell you what you what you meant to me; i meant every single word. But you took those words and letters for granted almost instantly.

Many times I should have left but I stay like a stupid love sick puppy. Many times I should have told you take your things and just leave, but because I can't do rejection and I am to afraid to be alone to be alone, I stayed.

Then when things got rough and we finally to decided to call it quits and remain friends, you did the ultimate betrayal. You started dating another female while still sharing the same bed with me; and to make the insult to injury worse you refuse to listen to how I feel.

I will not which Ill on you. But I will say this. I don't trust you and I my love for you in slowly diminishing every single day.

Yours,

Difunctionally Functional Depression

[spookystonerchica]

I had relative who my whole life has treated me less than like I didn't even belong and now that her (2nd) husband has died I'm expected to have some sort of sympathy for her and that's not even including her racist bigotry so I have about as much sympathy for her as she has for me which I promise you is none. Family is what you make it and not based on some technicality of your DNA.

[sadiahakim]

I have no desire to ruin my peace

and betray my soul to function better in a disgustingly dysfunctional society.

Sadia Hakim

[the-healing-mindset]

You're allowed to recognize and to call out dysfunction when you see it.

No, this does not mean that you go around observing or examining everything or everyone for their patterns and badgering them for it. But it does mean that if there is someone in your personal life who is continously bringing issues and causing chaos, you have the right to point out to them what they're doing and how it affects your ability to connect with them.

Doing this in a gentle manner allows you to show them that you care and that you want to assist them in showing up better for you both.

Now, if you continuously are bringining things to their attention and you notice that they are constantly defensive, constantly wanting to minimize or explain away their behavior instead of pausing to reflect, then that's a pattern worth noting. If they try getting better with it, then it may be fine to allow them some grace to continue working on it.

However, if they continue with the minimization, defensiveness, and varying explanations, then understand that this is who they are as a person. This is something that will not change unless they desire that change to take place. You cannot affect any change on this from the outside. This may be sad, but it is the truth.

You don't have to accept this in the meantime, however. If they grew up in a culture of struggle love, whether familial, platonic, or romantic, then they will be accustomed to their excuses buying them endless chances. To them, the chaos is normal and fighting through anything like this, no matter how unhealthy, is indicative of a strong bond.

[featherxquill]

dysfuncentine - now a fic meme!

Inspired by this post and because I'm a 'bourgeois degenerate who wants to see shitty despicable and violent relationships for your disgusting sense of entertainment' (who should be ashamed of herself), I bring you a fic meme in time for Valentine's Day. See, back in the day I ran a fic fest on LJ . It was called called Dysfuncentine, 'putting the "fun" in dysfunctional', so I've mined and fandom-agnostified some of that old community's prompts. So, reblog as you will, and let's write some messed-up people!

❤️ 💔 ❤️‍🩹

Send me a number and a ship and I'll write you a ficlet:

Obsession

Oedipal

Bad sex

Stalking

Hatefuck

Lonelyfuck

Jailer/captive

Sibling incest

Parent seduces child's lover

Dirty little secret

Unrequited love

Forced marriage

Out of jealousy

Staying together for the children

Love and lust are not the same thing

Huge age disparity/power imbalance

Cheating on a partner with them

Both cheating, both hiding it

Attracted to you but ashamed of you

Your partner or your fetish?

Stockholm Syndrome

Under the influence 

Munchausen by proxy

This is the ugly truth

Shotgun wedding

Their marriage has survived a lot, but it is not surviving this

This relationship was a mistake, but now it's complicated

One half of the pair has realised their sexuality is no longer compatible with their partner's gender identity, but they do still love them.

“Every word you ever said to me was a lie”

Opposite sides of the barricades

Seducing as a way to obtain information

A wedding dress never used

Afraid of commitment 

Can't stand each other but can't keep away from each other

'Til the bitter end

Only sleeping with their partner because they’re reminded of someone they’re grieving for

Convince them

Twisted co-dependency

Partner threatens to harm themselves if the other leaves

Asexual character in a relationship with a hypersexual character.

Religion comes first. Even before love.

We're supposed to be broken up

The wrong name is called out in the throes of passion

Love triangle

They keep trying to kill each other

...that didn't count

Nothing makes me happier and nothing makes me sadder than you

A failed tryst

You knew they were toxic, but you went there anyway

Where do you go when the only person who can stop you from crying made you cry?

Why do you keep going back to them when their disdain for you is so obvious?

They seem like they’d make the perfect couple, but they just don’t work 

The first time was an accident, but now they can't stop

One of them is only in it for the sex

"I'm losing you again, aren't I.”

“You just can't remember that you loved me”

'If you want to keep your job, you'll do it'

Picking a fight just for the sex after

A throuple is torn apart by lies and secrecy

A throuple clings on even though they’re all making each other miserable 

[yorblair]

Anyone else hate themselves and think they don’t deserve to be loved , but also deep deep down really just wants to find a boyfriend or friend that really cares for them , genuinely gives a shit about them, loves them (fiction I know) and squares my father in the face if he ever disrespects me infront of them?

Probably just me.