#dysfunction

[stiwfssr]

[the-healing-mindset]

It is easy to continue to fall into dysfunctional patterns because they are familiar. Same with dysfunctional relationships.

We come to expect the chaos that comes after a few moments of calm and we tell ourselves that we're "growing" through it and that we are better because of that.

Unfortunately, this is delusion. The chaos that comes from that dysfunction is doing nothing but draining you and keeping you trapped in a dynamic that is keeping you stuck. It feels "rewarding" after you seem to work through problem after problem that appears, but have you stopped to consider that your skills may be better used in a much better situation that is actually helping you to progress?

It is much easier said than done, but if you find yourself in a dysfunctional relationship, pattern, or environment, do not get attached. Do not feel as if you can "fix" this situation. Oftentimes, the problems at play in situations like these run much deeper than you can ever be responsible for. You will drain and hurt yourself by continuing to try to heal the sickness that is at play in these situations.

[viktheviking1]

The executive function is not being very executive.

Managerial at best

[bodyalive]

So much still to learn about how we function in relationship to the nervous system

[zippyzstuff]

[sysmedsaresexist]

Hey I have a system related question! I thought we had traumagenic origins for our system but we mainly experienced little T traumas in childhood and it's making me wonder if DID can form because of that or if you need to have prolonged big T traumas to develop the disorder.

Our symptoms aren't so bad so I don't think we'd qualify for a diagnosis either way, but it does make me curious about other people with DID and if it's possible to have a CDD from little T traumas.

Hi anon

This is a great question, and the answer might surprise you

Emotional neglect is the biggest predictor of a CDD, and that neglect can come from many places-- schools, family, peers

Disorganized attachments in childhood play a central role in the development of CDDs, and even well-meaning, well-intentioned parents can form a DA style with their child

And that's not even getting into what having an unaddressed childhood disorder can do

Trauma isn't an event, it's a reaction to an event, and is very personal and unique to you, what might traumatize you won't bother someone else, and vice versa. Don't think of it as little and big trauma, because that's not how it works.

Neglect is shown to be equally as damaging to a child as physical and sexual abuse.

I'm pretty sure all of this is cited in this post.

If you browse my blog you'll find that I talk about this next point a LOT. I say this, firmly, not just for you, but for EVERYONE reading.

Don't put a "minimum" on how much someone needs to be struggling to qualify for a diagnosis or help.

Are you struggling?

Yes?

Good enough. Nothing more to be said.

You don't need to be "this" disordered to ride the ride, what do you think disordered looks like, then?

Not only is the mindset often rooted in ableism, but it's a misunderstanding of the course of the disorder, disorder vs disability, something the DSM encourages us to separate the concepts of, and of the dysfunction criteria.

I talk more here.

I'm not in the best shape, I really hope this helps, good luck friendo

[allhailthe70shousewife]

Father hates it when Mother is kind and welcoming to Daughter’s friends.