11. what do you consider to be romance?
Ooooh hard question. But let me try to explain.
Romance is listening to your partner (or partners) talk about something that interests them because you want to know what makes them happy.
Romance is learning what foods they like and don't like so you can either make or buy it for them.
Romance is sometimes taking turns being the toddler in which you have to tell your partner(s) to do something important or healthy even if they are being stubborn about it.
Romance is giving your partner(s) a kiss or a hug for no other reason that because you love them.
Romance is those little in jokes and dumb names you call your partner(s) that no one else understands.
Romance is listening to what troubles your partner(s) and if it pertains to you, trying to do what you can to fix it.
Romance is giving your partner(s) space when they ask for it, and feeling comfortable to ask for space yourself.
In short, romance is showing someone that you genuinely care about what they think and how they feel and wanting to got through life continuing to make them happy because it makes you happy.
Now there is a blur between romance and simply just love, as one can be aromantic, still have a partner, do all those things, and still be aromantic. But I think romance is basically the desire to pursue those feelings mentioned above. And if one happens to find those feelings without the need to look and pursue for them, then they have the right to.
Yes this turned into an "Aros are queer, real, and valid" post at the end but I don't care. Hope this is a good answer, Em!












