re: cis woman stuff that’s now trans woman coded
that other person covered the big one — things that used to read as “that nerdy/ND girl who’s into tech/anime/nerd shit” now read as “that nerdy/ND trans girl who’s…”
part of this is that, as far as I can tell, there are now literally more trans women eg: playing MtG than there are cis women doing it. There are definitely nerd spaces I’ve been in where the majority of women were trans.
the other shift I see is that there are a lot of things that used to be cis-woman coded that are now non-binary coded. People are more comfortable in certain ways with GNC behavior, but they will often assume it means you have a different gender identity. The box of behaviors that code as “heterosexual woman” is actually significantly tighter than it was in the ‘70s or ‘80s.
obviously not going to post a picture, but my mom is a fairly normal cishet woman in her late 50s, tall, Scandinavian, thin build, long hair. She doesn’t like to wear makeup, keeps her hair in a fairly straightforward long cut and is letting it go grey naturally, wears almost nothing but jeans and t shirts, etc.
in the last 5-7 years, some people have started assuming she’s a lesbian or possibly has a non-binary identity of some sort. She’s very progressive, but this kinda drives her crazy, she’s been dressing this way since the ‘80s. It was the way that every single outdoorsy Norwegian-American midwestern hiker camp-counselor girl dressed, and I’ve seen the pics for proof haha
So I guess that’s another similar trend, the sort of lightly feminine Sigourney Weaver type woman is now explicitly queer-coded in a way that she wasn’t in the 1980s in Iowa.
see also, California people being surprised/off-balance that every single woman in the rural PNW looks like a lesbian by their cultural norms.
The box of behaviors that code as “heterosexual woman” is actually significantly tighter than it was in the ‘70s or ‘80s.
right, that's the main point here, i believe that.
i'd explain the mechanism like so:
it's the Nine Billion Maps Of Neural Categories and the way they tend to evolve. each person has a Map of those, and they shift (the set of categories changes, as do the sets of features that define each of them, and the weightings of those features) over time and location and (sub)culture. but people may find it difficult or annoying to update theirs to what is more contemporaneous around them. especially when it shifts them into a box that they feel isn't the right one for them.
and i mean, fair enough! they're right that it sucks for them! (examples of such: your mom, and @frances-kafka) and it also sucks for the people who feel like the shifting of the categories boundaries in the culture around them is demanding that they lie. (example of such: zack m davis)











