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[escafeism]

I wish I could write you in any other way I could but this. I wish I could write our love without spilling some bitterness in it. I wish I could tell the world of your love and the contentment that you give me. But right now, this is the only way I know how to write you without hurting myself furthermore just by merely remembering the memories we’ve shared and the good times we’ve had. Right now, the only way I know how to cage your name into words is by writing how you aren’t here anymore.

the way that you left me is an oeuvre (l.s)

[escafeism]

I thought I was over you but then I knew that I fucked up when something happened and you are still the person I want to tell first about it.

trust me, i thought i was over it // L.S

[escafeism]

When someone asks me: How many times have you ever been in love? I answer them, “A lot of times.” “But how?”, they’d ask. “You only have one lover so far.” I just smile at them. I fall in love countless of times. I fall in love with your messy hair and husky voice in the morning. I fall in love with the way you kiss my forehead and greet me “Good morning”. I fall in love with how you slowly get off the bed and walk towards the kitchen to make a breakfast for us. I fall in love with how you smile while you’re eating and how you shower with your clothes on the very first time I brought you home. I fall in love with how you send me sweet text messages while you’re at work and while I’m at home, waiting for you. I fall in love with you everytime you hug me. I fall in love with your lips, kisses, even with our arguments. I fall in love with the way you make me feel like I am lost for words for I couldn’t–could never probably, find the right ones to fit perfectly in describing this feeling you are giving me. Suddenly, love became an empty word. I don’t think it is ever enough to describe this thing that we have. I fall in love with the way you kiss my fears away. With the way you make me feel like whenever I am with you, I am safe. I fall in love with your murmurs, moans, and snores. I fall in love countless of times and I never thought I’d do until you came along. I fall in love countless of times with a single person–you.

i fall in love a countless of times (L.S)

[escafeism]

When someone asks me: How many times have you ever been in love? I answer them, “A lot of times.” “But how?”, they’d ask. “You only have one lover so far.” I just smile at them. I fall in love countless of times. I fall in love with your messy hair and husky voice in the morning. I fall in love with the way you kiss my forehead and greet me “Good morning”. I fall in love with how you slowly get off the bed and walk towards the kitchen to make a breakfast for us. I fall in love with how you smile while you’re eating and how you shower with your clothes on the very first time I brought you home. I fall in love with how you send me sweet text messages while you’re at work and while I’m at home, waiting for you. I fall in love with you everytime you hug me. I fall in love with your lips, kisses, even with our arguments. I fall in love with the way you make me feel like I am lost for words for I couldn’t–could never probably, find the right ones to fit perfectly in describing this feeling you are giving me. Suddenly, love became an empty word. I don’t think it is ever enough to describe this thing that we have. I fall in love with the way you kiss my fears away. With the way you make me feel like whenever I am with you, I am safe. I fall in love with your murmurs, moans, and snores. I fall in love countless of times and I never thought I’d do until you came along. I fall in love countless of times with a single person–you.

i fall in love countless of times (L.S)

[escafeism]

Seeing just how much I love this girl, I know that she’s the one! I adore her smile, her confidence, her company. I feel like the luckiest guy when she’s around. Is this love? It has gotta be. Oh! I just can’t stop thinking about her. From the day I wake up to the time I sleep and dream, she’s always on my mind! 

Looking forward for the day that I can finally be with her. Making her smile, going on dates, trips, spending the day with her like there’s no tomorrow. Oh I long for the day when I could finally hug her feel her heart beat, feel her sweet lips press against mine, hear her sing for me. We will go on places, have fun, take a huge amount of photos with her in my arms telling her how special she is to me. 

I want God to be in this relationship, go to church together, talk more about God and what has in store for us. I wish to be with her always, to support her in her work, to always love and care for her. I just love her so much. I wish she knew. I just can’t wait for that day to come.

- Confession letter by (adobongafritada)

[escafeism]

Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi panliligaw. This is bullshit. For me, it’s like a disrespect to the Filipino Tradition and to girls as well. Nawawala na nga ba ang value ng panliligaw? Nakakalungkot isipin na mas pinaghihirapan pang makuha ang mga babae noon kaysa sa mga babae sa panahon ngayon na napakabilis umoo. No wonder kung bakit padami nang padami ang mga kabataang maagang nagkakapamilya. Totoo naman na dapat pinapatagal ang relasyon pero sana wag natin kalimutan ang kahalagahan ng panliligaw. Hindi ito basta lang pagbibigay ng chocolates at flowers, o pagtetext ng sweet messages. Ang panliligaw ay ginagawa sa bahay. Ang panliligaw ay ang pagpapaalam muna sa magulang ng babae bago sa mismong babae na liligawan. Kung talagang mahal ka niya, magagawa niyang harapin ang mga tao na dahilan kung bakit ka naisilang sa mundong ito. Ang panliligaw ay hindi lang tungkol sa mga materyal na bagay na kaya niyang ibigay habang nanliligaw pa. It’s more than that. Ang panliligaw ay isang pagkakataon para mas makilala niyo pa ang ugali ng isa’t isa. Para malaman kung compatible ba kayo. Ang panliligaw ay hindi nasusukat sa kung gaano kadami o kamahal ang mga bagay na nagagawa niyang ibigay. Ito ay kung sa paano kayo maging totoo sa inyong mga sarili sa tuwing kayo ay magkasama. Dahil kung dumating man ang panahon na maging kayo, hindi mareresolba ng mga bulaklak at tsokolate na yan ang mga problema na haharapin niyo sa inyong relasyon. Hindi ko sinasabi na paabutin mo ng ilang taon o dekada ang panliligaw. Ang sinasabi ko lang is that as girls, we should know our value and importance. Dapat pinagsusumikapan tayong makuha. Napakadali mong bibigay tapos magrereklamo ka na walang forever? Eh bakit ka naman panghihinayangan in the first place kung hindi ka naman pinaghirapan?

thoughts on the famous quotation, “Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi panliligaw.” (L.S)

[escafeism]

Kulang pa din.

Minsan dumadating sa isang relasyon yung mga oras na lahat na lang nang gawin mo mali sa paningin niya, lahat na lang nang sabihin mo hindi ka tama, yung halos di mo na alam kung saan ka lulugar para lang mapasaya mo siya. Pinapayagan mo naman siya lumabas kasama mga kaibigan niya, binibili o binibigay mo yung gusto niya na kahit ano hiningi niya sayo na bagay o kung ano man eh gagawan mo nang paraan para maibigay lang yun sa kanya pero hindi pa din sapat, mali pa din, ikaw pa din ang lumalabas na masama. Nakakalungkot di ba? Nakahit pilit mo pinapasaya siya kahit na minsan mas kailngan mo yung mga bagay na ibinibigay mo sa kanya pero inuuna mo pa din siya. Himbis na sumaya siya minsan sumasama pa loob niya, kahit na bigay mo na ang lahat sa kanya kulang pa din, mali pa din at masama ka pa din.

[escafeism]

Ang pagmamahal walang pinipiling oras na pag walang problema, nandyan siya para sayo. Pero pag meron, unang una pa yan mang iiwan sa ere. Hahayaan kang harapin mag isa ung problema na dapat magkasama niyong hinaharap dalawa.