#escafeismrelationships

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I am saying goodbye to you in a way that the waves kisses the shore, the way the sun sets and kisses the sky in the most vivid and prepossessing way it could before the moon replaces it. I am saying goodbye to you in the same way of how the moon disappears into nothingness once the sun rises again in the morning or just like how the stars vanish one by one from the sky once the morning comes. This goodbye means that it is not the end. This goodbye is for temporary fixing– I have to fix and find myself and so do you. It doesn’t necessarily mean that I am leaving you just like how a living thing closes its eyes and exhales for one last time when it dies, or just like how I put period into my sentences to seal it and confirm that it’s already the end. I will be back. Maybe if we were both the right person, and it is already the right time. Because for now, I don’t think this love we have is enough for us to surpass the trials and problems approaching. This goodbye of mine doesn’t mean to inflict wounds upon you but instead give you hope that this is not the end of our story. My goodbye hugs you with overflowing emotions that there will be a certain and finally, right time for the both of us.

Not all love stories ends with goodbye; this is not our ending (letterstoliane)

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Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi panliligaw. This is bullshit. For me, it’s like a disrespect to the Filipino Tradition and to girls as well. Nawawala na nga ba ang value ng panliligaw? Nakakalungkot isipin na mas pinaghihirapan pang makuha ang mga babae noon kaysa sa mga babae sa panahon ngayon na napakabilis umoo. No wonder kung bakit padami nang padami ang mga kabataang maagang nagkakapamilya. Totoo naman na dapat pinapatagal ang relasyon pero sana wag natin kalimutan ang kahalagahan ng panliligaw. Hindi ito basta lang pagbibigay ng chocolates at flowers, o pagtetext ng sweet messages. Ang panliligaw ay ginagawa sa bahay. Ang panliligaw ay ang pagpapaalam muna sa magulang ng babae bago sa mismong babae na liligawan. Kung talagang mahal ka niya, magagawa niyang harapin ang mga tao na dahilan kung bakit ka naisilang sa mundong ito. Ang panliligaw ay hindi lang tungkol sa mga materyal na bagay na kaya niyang ibigay habang nanliligaw pa. It’s more than that. Ang panliligaw ay isang pagkakataon para mas makilala niyo pa ang ugali ng isa’t isa. Para malaman kung compatible ba kayo. Ang panliligaw ay hindi nasusukat sa kung gaano kadami o kamahal ang mga bagay na nagagawa niyang ibigay. Ito ay kung sa paano kayo maging totoo sa inyong mga sarili sa tuwing kayo ay magkasama. Dahil kung dumating man ang panahon na maging kayo, hindi mareresolba ng mga bulaklak at tsokolate na yan ang mga problema na haharapin niyo sa inyong relasyon. Hindi ko sinasabi na paabutin mo ng ilang taon o dekada ang panliligaw. Ang sinasabi ko lang is that as girls, we should know our value and importance. Dapat pinagsusumikapan tayong makuha. Napakadali mong bibigay tapos magrereklamo ka na walang forever? Eh bakit ka naman panghihinayangan in the first place kung hindi ka naman pinaghirapan?

thoughts on the famous quotation, “Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi panliligaw.” (L.S)

[escafeism]

Wala akong kilig na nararamdaman sa mga couples na bago pa lang. Mas kinikiligan ko yung matatagal na. Yung nasukat na ng panahon at mga hamon yung relasyon nila. Yung kahit ilang problema na yung dumating at naranasan nila, nananatili pa din silang matatag at magkasama. Yun yung mga tipo ng relasyon na mas dapat kakiligan. At hindi yung mga love story na napulot lang kung saan.

[escafeism]

Friends

quote, unquote–friends. Sabi nila kapag daw magkaibigan kayo ng taong mahal mo, you should just stay there. Friends. Period. Wag na at hindi na dapat lumagpas pa dun. Pero, bakit? Paano kung mahal ka din niya? Paano kung pareho kayo ng nararamdaman? Paano kung mas mastrengthen pa yung pagsasama at relasyon niyo kapag naglevel-up kayo sa next level? Hindi ba’t dapat nga sa pagkakaibigan nagsisimula ang lahat ng relasyon? Hindi ako naniniwala na kung mahal mo ang kaibigan mo ay dapat mo itong pigilan at dapat hanggang dun na lang. Love is about taking chances and risks. And yes, sometimes you have to take risk of your own friendship if you wanna step to the next level of your relationship. If you can’t risk it all, then you don’t love him/her enough.

[escafeism]

Not only are you forced to forget all the good times you've had with that person, you are also expected to act like complete strangers as soon as the other person pass by, knowing that they don’t carry the same feelings for you any longer. Even though the love is still there, you are bind to keep those feelings hidden for it’s only you who still wants to be together. As time passes, things get easier. Until you see the one you still love, laughing with someone else that is not you. Moving on is definitely the hardest part of a relationship, especially when it’s one where you didn't want it to end. But that’s what happens; people show interests, they play with you, they get bored, then they move on even though you’re not ready for them to leave

[escafeism]

You can’t deny yourself dear, especially about your feelings with someone, it can be remove, and fade for a little while, you can rant for those who wants to tease you but in the end of conversation, when everybody are done, and now you are alone in your own ceiling, wind blows, cold breathe of yours start whispering on your heart and make you to realize that damn you are in love with someone you just denied.

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When I'm continuously pushing you away, that is the time that I needed you the most. That is the time that I want my fingers to be interlocked with yours. That is the time that I really need to hear the words that I've been longing to hear and you've been trying to hide. That is the time that I wanted to be latched in your embrace, where no one can seem to shatter what's left in me. That is the time when I just want to be with you and watch all my worries crush away as you bring hopes to my life. That is the time where I want to see an open arms waiting for me and not just another back turning away from me.

STR(ed)