#ex-manwhore

[foreverthefool]

So growing up...this took way longer to write than it should've

First let me be immature.

Why don't the girls I like, like me? That being said; Why are the girls who like me the ones I don't like? I mean unless there's something I'm missing. But hey, I'm being immature an irrational right now. Who's to say that the girl I like doesn't like me? She totally could. But for the purpose of furthering this story, she doesn't.

Which brings us to the next topic. The reason for the title.

I know nobody reads my actual blog posts which is why I feel comfortable just posting this.

I've been doing a lot of growing up this year. I mean a lot, but for the purposes of keeping this focused I'll talk about my romantic life (rather the lack thereof.)

I'm kind of known as a manwhore. I mean for good reason. I slept around here and there...and there...and there...for many reasons. One of the biggest reasons was that I just wasn't emotionally mature or ready to commit myself to a person. That's the reason I told everyone. The real reason is because I'm a hopeless romantic. I want someone I can spend the rest of my life with, but I never felt that with any of my exes. Sure I fell in love a couple times, but I didn't feel the overwhelming want or need to spend the rest of my life with them. I couldn't even see past a couple months. Inevitably, I broke up with them. The problem with that is that I tend to like a lot of girls and date them...and break up with them...and repeat...and eventually, it kinda became a trend that turned into a stigma.

At this point in time I want to apologize all the people I've hurt because of my weirdness. I'm so sorry! But you're better off, now.

I noticed the trend so I stopped dating. But as a heterosexual cis-male with rampant hormones, I'm kinda always horny. So how do you fix this without being that sad guy who's forever alone fapping in the dark? You go out and you hook up with people. Make a couple friends whose friendships come with certain benefits. Because why not? #YOLO (Seriously, I'm so done with that concept. You live once. Why not do something that matters instead of making a series of destructive decisions?) That kind of life seriously gets old fast.

...Which brings us to now. Well, two months ago up to now, actually. I'm 22. Well...just about 22. I've always wanted to get married between the ages of 24 and 28. Y'know, because I'll no longer be an adolescent. That being said, I want to be in a relationship for a while before I'm engaged. so that's 2 years of just being in a relationship. I'll be 24...crunch time...On top of that I want a long engagement. so that's another year or 2...I'll be 26. Which is in the middle of my range. I can deal with that. Will it be likely that this happens for me? Absolutely not. It's a crap shoot with loaded dice against me. I also want kids between 30-35 but that's a completely different story that's related, but not important.

So why is this important? Well It's not. Not at all. It's a story. A nonfictional story at that. There is no moral or lesson to be learned, I'm just sharing my experiences as a human being who falls in love like most other human beings.

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Men have been swallowing their pride for years, and it's not just because it's so delicious.

It's because women refuse to. Everybody's wrong at some point, but the stigma of men being stubborn shifts all the attention to us. You can say "I'm man enough to admit" but there is no expression admitting she is wrong. Now relax ladies, I'm not saying you never do, but you don't swallow your pride. You just chew it and then spit it right back in our faces.

Even when women are wrong, it isn't their fault because somehow there's some condition that is out of their control that they truly believe justifies their actions. So when she chewed off your head for forgetting her favorite movie, then she realizes that she never told you, it's not her fault, she's just under a lot of stress.

Your friend, -XMW 

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Breaking the Ice

Do you walk into a room by opening the door, or by kicking it in?

Everyone thinks you need to have some kind of great "game" to be able to talk to women effectively. But after all the years of pickup lines, women just enjoy direct, non-cheesy conversation. The most effective way to start a conversation (which is half the battle), is a simple compliment delivered genuinely. You don't have to be some kind of international playboy to be able to talk to a woman. A simple "Excuse me, I just thought you were really pretty and I wanted you to know" will be so refreshing, that you just elevated yourself above the negative stigma of "most guys". That's all women really want, a guy that's different. When you talk to people about someone that is special to them or just sticks out in their mind in general, they always say "They're like no one I've ever met before". Be the one, Mr. Anderson, take the red pill, stay in Wonderland and see how deep the rabbit-hole goes.

The moral of the story is it doesn't take much to have an opening. Personally, I see an attractive woman walking down the street and I'll say something like, "Smile, it can't be that bad", or "You're too beautiful not to be smiling right now". Just relax, breathe, and let compliment fly.

Your friend, -XMW