“Starting” is it’s own Skill
One thing I’ve come to understand while helping others with creative projects and working with my own executive dysfunction is that STARTING is it’s own skill.
Usually when someone expresses frustration at not being able to do something everyday anymore, or not being able to learn a new hobby it’s not actually the skill that they are having trouble with... It’s the “starting”.
Before you can ever focus on content or gains you need to build the habit of starting or “Showing Up”.
Physical Space. Clear desktop, empty notebook, cleared patch of floor in your room, open blank text document.
Temporal Space. 2-5 minute window where you tend to be very free.
Trigger. An “everyday” alarm on your phone.
3 weeks and a Calendar ( or 7 x 5 grid on scrap paper) to ‘X’ out days
Quality of content doesn’t matter. Bare Minimum is IDEAL. You could write “I don’t feel like writing.” for five minutes straight. You can draw squiggles and lines. You can workout by jumping up and down or running in place. You can spend that time threading a needle.
It’s about getting to the place where you don’t even have to think about starting. Trust me when I say you will get there, I can assure you your teachers have already used this technique on you.
Prep the space the day before (it can be as simple as an empty notebook in your bag, or clearing a spot on the floor.)
Set an alarm (trigger) for later. Use a pleasant sound.
When the alarm goes off spend anywhere from 30 seconds to five minutes doing the thing. (You can set a “Stop” alarm as well.)
You measure success by X’s on your calendar not by content or gains.
If you miss a day (’break the chain’) you do not need to punish yourself. Seeing that blank space on your calendar is likely punishment enough. --- I buy myself a sweet drink and promise to try again tomorrow. (positive reinforcement is just better)
For the first month your only job is learning the habit of starting. It’s learning to muscle past the impossible distance between 0 and 1. Off and On. “Will Do” and “Doing”.
Starting is the most difficult and important habit to establish. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. It is completely different from every other skill and most people don’t recognize when they have it.