#executive function theft

[s-leary]

Been divorced ten years. He still calls me to find out when and where he’s supposed to be for the kid’s school events. He has: the same school emails and calendar I do; the shared family calendar into which I have already copied the info; an administrative assistant who manages his calendar; and a wife who is not me. I have: a raging case of ADHD.

Yeah, I want a wife. Who wouldn’t?

Anyway, shoutout to Abigail Goben, who coined the term executive function theft for this kind of nonsense.

[marithlizard]

Executive Function Theft

The phrase arrived in my head so completely formed and concrete that I couldn’t believe it wasn’t already established in the lexicon, but at

Fascinating read and YES this is totally a thing. I'm going to have to read more by this person.

[audhd-space]

EXECUTIVE FUNCTION THEFT

Have you guys heard of this term?

I have only discovered that term today from reading this tweet here.

Executive Function Theft (EFT) is defined as:

the deliberate abdication of decision-making, tasks, and responsibilities that are perceived as administrative or repetitive, of lesser importance, or aren’t pleasant or shiny, to another person, with the result that the receiving person’s executive function becomes so exhausted that they are unable to participate in, contribute to, or enjoy higher level efforts.

Source:

Executive Function Theft

The phrase arrived in my head so completely formed and concrete that I couldn’t believe it wasn’t already established in the lexicon, but at

[dittohasadhd]

okay ik people are out here just trying to be like Valentina, but fr constantly pushing surveys is starting to feel like a micro aggression.

[harleymonster]

Pet peeve: when someone asks you to do or check soemthing for them that they could easily do or check themselves, eg when someone asks you to check your bank to see if they've paid you because they can't remember. Girl, check your own bank! It's literally less steps and you get an answer immediately.

[asmrgaret]

you would not believe how much work it is to just get on unemployment. in maryland.

-all the information is spread out over thirteen or so different webpages

-info on related topics is not grouped together so you're constantly switching between pages trying to get the full picture. often losing your place and having to re-find it

-none of the systems talk to each other so you have to register separately for proving you searched for work, receiving the money, getting food, getting medicaid, getting energy bill help, etc.

-the systems are totally different and no information carries over

-when you submit forms you do NOT get a confirmation by email or texts, leaving you wondering if the ancient web system you're trusting your financial information to actually works. and whether you'd be able to prove you submitted your thing in time to get benefits.

-half the time after you submit a form online it returns a brief "thanks for submitting" message immediately followed by "404 this page does not exist"!

i have adhd aka severe difficulty completing pointless administrative tasks and i'm fucking dying. i'm fully capable of performing work but i cannot get through this maze. tasks that should take ten minutes are taking hours, days, and weeks. i have no idea how anyone with alzheimers or whatever would do this.

[krisrisk]

once again frustrated how peoplemworkin office jobs have no clue of using the systems they're handed and work with every day.

Asked someone to please just add me to their appointment in the calendar, because i didn't have my phone with me. Got a paper card with the date/time of appointment and was told to make my own in my calendar.

"That won't work. I will have forgotten when i get my phone."

"I can write you an email as a reminder."

"Please just add me to the meeting in your calnedar. You already have my email."

"i'm not allowed. It's against company policy."

"You use Outlook. And are not allowed to invite people to appointments?"

"Only people who work internally."

"Are you aware that i won't get access to your calendar? I won't see anything in your calendar. I will get an appointment in MY calendar. With your email. Which i already have."

"I'm not allowed."

😑

This comes from too many companies. People do NOT get trained on how to use Outlook. Or Word. People always claim they know and that they work with it, then use spaces instead of tab stops.

I'm so tired.