#expressing self

[fruitgayke]

how do i word my email to tell my women studies prof that trying to finish a pop reflection with correct grammar and coherent thoughts in just 10 minutes makes me want to explode in anxiety and i crank out a terrible ass paper 

[soulfulremixed]

I am finally writing in...

my journal everyday. Some days I have to force myself to do it but I know this ex cerise has been helping me dig deep into my soul and search the abyss. I dreams and desire of my inner child are being awaken again and it's a weird feeling. I feel like a traitor to my inner child, because I have become her worse enemy *sigh*

[phasingval]

Blockage

Quite a few times I have seen posts and have had input to add, and even pressed the reblog button and started typing... but ended up stopping midway. I often feel like what I have to say won't matter, that people won't see, and if they do they won't care. I am also scared of writing too long paragraphs, going in too much detail, over-analyzing or even just writing it clumsy. Sometimes I start talking or typing and then I go off on a tangent and ALMOST forgetting to bring it back in to the initial topic. I am afraid of expressing myself so instead I shut up. I was wondering if other autistics also have it like that? Being scared of adding to the convo due to how you might come across, fearing not being eloquent enough etc.

[nerdofmetal]

A  Perfect Fit

why do I believe that you'll stay ? when you've given me every reason to run.

I  Never said I wished for love. I Never said I need affection. you...well, you know

how to seep into my soul. it's gotten so complicated, yet nothing has made more sense. I never said I  trusted this.  I never said my broken pieces could love

tell me why do I believe that you'll stay ? there's hurt, there's pain

I cried, you laughed. I smiled you screamed. It's a  mess I admit

can't a mess be a perfect fit ?

I never said this was gonna easy

I never said I'd be the first to walk away

why do I believe ? why do I...do I...

you've given me reasons, but oh

can't a mess be a perfect fit ?

[anniee-nyc]

random writing

[natalieshay1]

4 Ways to Express Your Stress

Happy Wednesday! I hope you are having a great start to the New Year.

Before I go into some effective ways to express your stress I wanted to take a moment to thank you for all your support and continuing to read my newsletters. I will be continuing them, but instead of bi-weekly they will now be monthly. Feel free to keep your ideas and questions coming! Now for the good stuff....

Growing up, I was always taught to be tough and put up a wall.

Over the years, my clients have shared with me that this approach was what they understood to be the “healthy approach too,”  but they have come to me for help because it turns out not to be so healthy after all. Putting up a wall causes you to hold your stress in rather than finding an outlet for it.

So what happens to the body when you hold your stress in?

“ It can lead to heart disease, sleep problems, digestive problems, depression, obesity, memory impairment and worsening of skin problems.  Studies have shown that high levels of cortisol are associated with an increase in risk of death from cardiovascular disease.”http://www.foxnews.com/health/2012/10/11/surprising-ways-stress-affects-your-whole-body/#ixzz2I9wBO7et

  Here are 4 techniques you can use to release stress from your body.

1. Yell into a pillow

Yes, I just told you to yell into a pillow!  Yell as loudly as you can. You may want to hold back because you think someone might hear you, but don’t.  Pillows absorb a lot more noise than you might think.

Alternatively, you can get a foam bat (amazon.com) and hit a pillow. Put your full body into it, and don’t be afraid to make noise! It may be easier to learn how to do this with a stress management counsellor to become comfortable with the process.

2. Write a letter

Write a letter to the person who is causing you stress as if you were going to send it to them and express all your feelings. After you are done, read it out loud with emotion and see how you feel. This should release some of your feelings and reduce the intensity of your emotions.

3.  Talk to somebody

Pick up the phone and call somebody you trust. If you call somebody who is judgmental, you are just going to feel worse, so choose who you call carefully.

4. Breathe

What is proper breathing?  It is breathing through your diaphragm and not through your chest.  Get a yoga belt and put it around your stomach. Try taking 10 breaths for a count of 4. Watch the band go up and down to ensure you are breathing correctly.  It’s hard to do this at first. We all think we already know how to breathe, so it’s easy to get distracted and stop doing this exercise before we get to 10 breaths. Don’t. Stick with it. It takes about a minute, and you’ll see how much calmer you feel.

  Expressing your stress will help heal your body, and you will find yourself much more relaxed once you get the stress out.

  I hope you have a stress-free day!

Natalie