#external communication

[thehyperspacesystem]

I was able to interest one of our child alters in drawing using a graphics tablet attached via usb to a tablet and Krita software (there is a version for android), I have previously tried to interest this child part in drawing with pencils, but he or she did not seem to take any interest.

I think they may be a trauma holder because they seem to like drawing dragons attacking people. I won't post any of their drawings until I have enough communication with this part to ask permission first.

[granulesofsand]

There was a time when we had to take finals and our professors wouldn’t allow us to have any writing on our skin because we might be cheating, so we tried to carry notes clenched in our fist. Unfortunately, we were still dissociative, so we would drop the notes while switching or just staring into the void. I find them crumpled in weird places sometimes.

[multiplicity-positivity]

(Vent)

Smth that really sucks is that as a system, we have learned so much and picked up a lot of wisdom over the course of our lives. But all this knowledge is scattered and hidden behind dissasociative barriers and memory barriers. One headmate will be going through a crisis. And another headmate will have knowledge how to resolve that crisis but they'll be dormant or unable to communicate with the headmate who's having the crisis! It's so frustrating!

We do write things down and we do keep a diary and shit. But it's difficult to get into a habit of writing and reading what we've written. Especially since stuff like keeping a diary comes naturally to some alters but not to others.

It's all just so frustrating!

🫂

We seriously relate to this, anon… we’re sorry to hear that you’re struggling with staying safe due to dissociative barriers! We get it that it can be difficult to get in the habit of journalling. Our own system has a very fragmented way of keeping a log of our thoughts and actions (spread across multiple physical journals, Google docs, notes on our phone, Tumblr blogs, and a private discord server). It makes keeping up with each other really difficult, but we’ve sort of learned how to go around and check on everything every once in a while to see what everyone’s been up to. This combined with in-system meetings are the only ways we can effectively communicate with everyone!

We hope things get better and easier for you soon! We hope that y’all can get the help you need in order to decrease those barriers and start interacting with each other more regularly. In the meantime, if others find their own ways to communicate, we hope y’all can get in the habit of checking up on their different methods rather than trying to keep all your system’s communication in one physical location. We hope you can find something that works well for y’all!

Wishing you all the very best!

[multiplicity-positivity]

Do you have resources for ppl with severe aphantasia to make a headspace/communicate when we have no internal voice? I have P-DID we're pretty sure because I've basically always been stuck in front since I've formed, but we've never had internal communication and sometimes other altera front or like kinda feels like they "join" or "merge" with me a bit and I really want to see if it's possible to do that

So sorry, but we don’t have many resources or advice on creating a headspace with aphantasia. We like to recommend the blog @aphantasicheadspace for folks with aphantasia who are looking for headspace-building tips, guides, and experiences.

As far as communication goes, though, it may be useful for y’all to attempt external communication as much as possible. We’ve touched on this in our post on establishing contact with headmates (<- hyperlink). For our system at least, we had to communicate externally a lot in order to help build and bolster internal communication. We still have parts who communicate externally, because that’s their only way of being heard and acknowledged as we’re still seriously struggling with dissociative barriers.

Even though you haven’t been able to successfully communicate internally, it may be good to just keep trying every once in a while. Definitely don’t stress or overwhelm yourself/ves, but if you have the energy for it, reaching out to your alters occasionally could be really beneficial for your system. You’re still attempting to make those connections and practicing a new skill, even if you don’t hear back from anyone else! And just because you don’t hear or feel other alters doesn’t necessarily mean that they can’t hear/feel you. So sending positive vibes or emotions their way (it doesn’t have to be images or complete thoughts!) could really help communication improve overall.

We hope that internal communication will come to y’all with time. Remember that all sorts of expression are valid forms of communication - you don’t need to have an internal voice or an active imagination in order to have a method of communication that works for your system. We’re wishing you all the very best with figuring this out!

[multiplicity-positivity]

hi so recently someone re-emerged from our mass-fusion a lil bit and ive been communicating with her through pendulums, and we just wanna know if you have any advice regarding that? like, how to communicate better or more efficiently (cause, even prior to fusion, our communication wasnt the best- mainly just thought projection and no innerworld- but ive been told we do have one that i just cant get to so yk) like just anything regarding how to make the whole thing easier or if theres an alternative methods or something

thanks -🐢♠ (now 🤡♠)

Hi! We’ve compiled our advice for building and improving communication in our post on establishing contact with headmates:

Hello everyone! Not sure if we’ve ever made a post like this before, but I wanted to put together a post with tips on establishing contact w

If y’all are really struggling with internal communication, focusing on external communication (writing letters/notes, journalling, leaving messages on white boards, texting or using a private Discord server, etc.) might be a good way to start establishing some concrete connections! Communicating externally may be slow going, as it requires other headmates to front or at least be co-conscious in order to express themselves, but having a solid foundation of external communication really could help boost internal communication in the future. At least, that’s how it’s worked in our system!

And remember that internally, communication can look really different and come in all sorts of different ways! It doesn’t have to be just fully-formed thoughts as dialogue - headmates can use emotions, images, memories, vibes, and all sorts of things in order to convey messages to each other. So if you’re finding that you’re able to communicate, but it doesn’t look like what may be considered “normal” or “traditional,” that’s okay!

We don’t have any experience with communicating through pendulums, so we won’t be able to provide any specific tips regarding communicating that way - sorry! But we hope this helps y’all get set on the right track. Good luck with building communication with this particular headmate and each other in the future!

[multiplicity-positivity]

hi! hope you dont mind the ask.. i tend to get rambly. so, apologies in advance.

um, i have a lot of trouble conversing with my headmates, partly due to being frontstuck near-constantly, and being effectively blind and deaf in my own head. i have aphantasia and do not even hesr my own voice in my head, let alone anyone elses. i know theyre there, i can figure out who they are usually and i can even talk to them occasionally, but its very hard and takes a lot of effort. very hard to be sure i am plural when i cant talk to them so easy, and i never really see any other systems like us..

im not sure what im looking for by sending this ask.. sorry. i like your blog by the way.

Hey, we don’t have aphantasia, so unfortunately I don’t think we can give any aphantasia-specific advice. I’m really sorry about that!

But I’ll go ahead an link a post we’ve written in the past on establishing contact with headmates.

Hello everyone! Not sure if we’ve ever made a post like this before, but I wanted to put together a post with tips on establishing contact w

When we were first getting to know each other as a system, we pretty much had to rely on external communication and outside support in order to get in touch with each other. So maybe for y’all it might help to focus on communicating externally as well?

Also if you’re communicating already with some small level of success, it may just be necessary to keep trying and practicing. Internal communication is a skill like any other, and for many systems, the more they practice, the better they can become at maintaining a dialogue inside.

Of course, aphantasia probably complicates the dialogue aspect, but even feelings and vibes could be considered communication. And having some external avenues to talk (journal, discord server, google doc, whiteboard, etc) may help supplement your system’s communication overall. Some systems exclusively communicate externally - it’s not weird or invalidating to connect with your headmates in this way.

Even if this response isn’t exactly what you were looking for, we hope it helps a bit. Thanks for reaching out!

[disparate-traveller]

[Pelipper mail!]

[A box with a few bags of candy, some of them for pokemon and others for humans.]

Oh shit-

Definitely hiding these for snacks later.

[disparate-traveller]

Magic anon!

You can now understand one of your pokemon completely~

//This is all at mod discretion when it ends and who it affects =)

Oh uh-! I think...I understand Teeny now.

...Teeny wants to sleep in a big cuddle pile tonight. And... Also wants me to know that she thinks I'm too hard on myself?

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