I got promoted at work (yay!) but it’s a part time position for now (boo). This means I have a lot of extra time on my hands. How would you recommend volunteering for Harris and Walz if you’ve never volunteered for a political campaign before?
Congrats on getting promoted!
You can phonebank online from anywhere, it's super convenient because all you need is a laptop/iPad. Here's the link for events, and you can find phonebanks around the entire country!
Find events, petitions, volunteer opportunities, fundraisers and more with The Democratic National Committee.
Also, I forget where you're located but you can also definitely go to your local congresswomen's website if you're in/near a swing district (Dylan and I are driving down to WA-03 to canvass for Marie Gluesenkamp-Perez when it gets closer to Election Day), or just google your nearest swing state Democratic Party since they also host campaign events.
I can't remember anything else although I KNOW there have been enemies to lovers story lines I've enjoyed in other books, so I googled "enemies to lovers novels" and I was recced pride and prejudice. which. I mean. sort of??
anyway, if we stretch the definition to mean “rivalry / misunderstanding / bickering between people who have crazy sexual tension” I'd also rec: last tang standing. bringing down the duke. kulti <- wouldn't rec any of these as enemies to lovers, though.
8. common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about
I don't think this is THAT common and I think I've talked about this before, but I don't get people who write fics about Ted (Lasso) returning to England after going back to Kansas and. needing to apologize for it? I think it's silly. why should he apologize for doing what he needed to do for himself and his son????
in line with a more common fandom opinion and this I have definitely talked about, but. people who think Sassy wasn't correct in her assessment of Rebecca and the situation in "Make Rebecca Great Again" baffle me. people say she was victim blaming Rebecca but... she wasn't? she fully pinned the blame on Rupert for being an abusive prick. what she did blame Rebecca for was cutting off contact with Sassy and Nora for six whole years. This is a show with a common theme about people still needing to own up for the harm they caused other people even when they themselves were being harmed. why should Rebecca be exempt from that? especially when she is actively sabotaging Ted and the team and TRIED to sabotage Keeley, while also befriending them without any moral conflict about it?
12. the unpopular character that you actually like and why more people should like them
I don't know why but I've been on a real Madam Yu from mdzs kick and it's affecting me so badly... Like is she classist, abusive to Wei Wuxian, and a shitty mother? yes. Does she also serve absolute cunt and have absolutely valid concerns about how her husband's actions affect her and her children??? absolutely. I can't hate her she's too fascinating for that. and like. I get why people don't, because of the previous mentioned behaviour but. come on. she's a boss bitch. and also one of the few female characters in this series to kick some serious ass. I want to study her and get her a divorce and therapy.
hm. between her and alicent hightower I think I have a type-
I'm having trouble connecting the emotional through line between episodes 2 and 3. In the therapy session Sam tells Bucky they can just finish the mission and then they're done with each other, after that it seems like things have cooled a bit and Bucky even starts to say, "I feel awful" before they get interrupted by Walker. Then in 3 things seems relatively fine between and they even (especially Sam) show some concern for the other?? And Bucky totally still not trying to understand Sam's POV
Ok ok mood. I’m not an expert on writing, but I do have lots of thoughts on this, so lemme talk this through w you (long post ahead). Some of these thoughts are going to be theorizing super hard about what’s going to happen in future eps so for sure take that with a grain of salt.
IMO for a show where the most interesting thing is literally just the emotional states of these two men and how they relate to each other through those emotions, their emotional arcs are not nearly pointed enough for my taste...I suspect that’s partly because we’re pulled back and forth between the more lighthearted banter and the more heartfelt expressions of their internal lives. But also bc, I think, the whole thing is that these two CANT communicate because if they DO, their emotional states will reach RESOLUTION too quickly.
And IMO, I actually think it’s the therapy scene alone that is throwing the balance off leading up to 3. I didn’t feel like threatening not to ever see each other again was earned, or at least it wasn’t clear to me where it’s coming from writing-wise. (Not that I wouldn’t support Sam cutting himself off from the toxicity of someone else’s unfair expectations, if this were real life and not a function of a written story). It just feels too far a swing of the pendulum compared to directly before and after. Sam just saved Bucky, and yes he never got to finish railing Bucky over Isaiah, but *because* that argument didn’t hit its crux, I don’t think it’s enough for most viewers to explain the kind of statement Sam makes in the therapy scene. Yes Sam does keep shutting Bucky down in a lot of ways, but we also know that before Bucky confronted him in episode 2, he was doing the opposite and trying to reach out to Bucky. So it feels a bit confusing to me. I don’t know what Sam wants, besides to be left alone, and that itself feels neither genuine nor like good enough motivation on a character level for this story. So. In lieu of any other story reason, I guess I think Sam’s reaction in the therapy scene is a way to artificially raise the emotional stakes so that the eventual resolution is more satisfying. That’s the only thing I can think, although if that’s the case, they started building back up extremely quickly.
Bc you’re absolutely correct, immediately after that therapy scene, Bucky is upset but clearly wants to communicate that to Sam, contrary to any agreement to squash it and move on. And though there’s no time for dialogue then, they approach walker/Hoskins essentially a united (though frustrated) front. And then after that and all through ep 3, though they are functionally on opposite sides of the entire zemo argument in every way, Sam basically rolls over repeatedly throughout and actually ends up expressing more care for Bucky than we’ve previously seen and also opens up to him more... and IMO bucky breaking zemo out of prison without asking and with clear premeditation was a major violation of trust, for which Sam was not afforded the opportunity to express proportional ire. (For me Bucky’s speech there asking Sam to do it for him did not hit as reasonable motivation for sam). You would think after the level of ire sam expressed to bucky’s genuine (though self centered) vulnerability in the therapy session, the level of ire to bucky’s lies and even “betrayal” (as I see it) would be notable. It should be at least above essentially saying “you’re dead to me once your usefulness runs out” which I think is the dark but fair implication of “let’s just finish this and never speak again” or whatever he said in the therapy scene. Instead he says a reluctant version of “ok, I’ll do exactly what I just explicitly said I didn’t want to do, just because you asked.”
The thing is, clearly neither of them actually hate each other. They have both repeatedly shown genuine care for the other. So why is the animosity even happening?
The emotional throughlines should help us figure that out, and vice versa. So what I’m thinking is, a throughline has to have a beginning and an end, and figuring out those can help you figure out what the points in the middle should be. Here the beginning of Bucky’s emotional throughline w Sam is clearly from a starting point of straight up misplacing his grief and aggression onto Sam, bc he’s projecting Sam as the distant figurehead of stability to replace Steve. His not understanding Sam on a personal level is the primary obstacle to his realizing and resolving that entire emotional throughline, thus the end point of the throughline necessarily requires passing through Bucky understanding Sam’s POV and empathizing with Sam. In my prediction, that empathy leads to self actualization through purposefully accessing his own feelings (rather than letting his blocked emotions break through and then ignoring both the cause and consequences of them). Then he can start down a path of true restitution leading to his own healing through healing his relationships.
IMO bucky has never hated Sam. He has always fully just been jealous of him. Jealous of how happy he is, how few problems he pretends to have, and his relationship with Steve, if you want to go there.
So because Bucky does not hate Sam, there isn’t really anywhere to go after hitting the mark of seeing Sam’s POV... besides, essentially, restitution as resolution. Bc it’s through that realization>restitution that Bucky’s going to have to face the actual issue, of who he actually hates. Only then can he heal. He doesn’t have to forgive Sam. He has to forgive himself. So that he can restore himself, which he can only do after restoring Sam.
(And, if they’re really going to go there, he has to forgive Steve. I’m unsure if that’s going to be directly drawn for us or not)
I think that bucky’s throughline will resolve itself relatively quickly after Sam gets what he needs from Bucky, hence why he can’t have it yet. So in the meantime, Bucky comes off as frankly a bad friend who is self absorbed/entitled and unwilling to unlearn white supremacy bc it requires uncomfortable empathy with a Black man.
Sam’s emotional throughline as filtered through how he relates to Bucky is a little harder for me to grasp, I’ll be honest. Obviously the end point the emotional throughline has to underline is accepting the mantle of captain America (accepting himself?) So maybe that is woven among the throughline of his journey to accepting Bucky as an ally??, but I’m not sure what the starting point even is to be honest.
I do think that what is clearer (at least to me, and maybe this is only applicable to me?) about Sam is that we as the informed audience already know an important part of why he gave up the shield. It’s very much about race. Sam has not expressed that to Bucky, but we know it. Bucky has no idea that this is about race—or more accurately, that’s it’s about trauma regarding race. He hasn’t connected Sam’s ultimate motivation to Sam’s statements and experience re: race. Sam has certainly expressed anger and hurt, but he hasn’t connected them to race and then to the symbol of captain America for Bucky, whereas they’re already connected for many viewers. I’m not going to give Bucky a pass for not connecting them because that type of ignorance is not neutral. But he clearly does not know, and he DOES keep asking. He has asked multiple times in words why Sam gave up the shield. But instead of giving a direct answer, Sam continues to shut him down, each time literally by refusing to speak and walking away. Now I tend to agree with Sam that it’s none of his business. Sam shouldn’t have to bare his trauma to explain something to Bucky just because Bucky wants him to. Especially when Bucky has not indicated that he’s willing or able to empathize with the reason. And on top of that, it being something sam knows Bucky cannot fully understand? I mean, I’m on Sam’s side here.
But the thing is, the show is setting it up so that Sam has to open up. He has to let Torres touch his machinery (metaphorically) he has to let Bucky get close to him (metaphorically). Sam has to let others in and he has to do it for himself, for his own healing. But I’m not yet sure why that’s so important for his journey, besides the obvious being this is a story about how to heal from trauma from every side.
So right now I think we’re just seeing Sam continue to drop hints both about what his trauma is and about the fact that he cares for Bucky, bc those are the important things for his resolution. This is continuing despite the therapy scene and not because of it, which I find odd, from a writing perspective. And we’re seeing Bucky miss a lot of those hints, bc he’s too busy being defensive to take them as genuine expressions of what they are, of exactly what he’s asking of Sam. That *does* make sense to me from a writing perspective. Because once he understands Sam’s POV, the throughline has to move forward toward resolution.
Idk. I just am not sure that I’m really getting Sam’s arc yet. That’s not to say that it’s not emotionally hitting, necessarily, bc I am firmly finding myself behind Sam.
And allllll of that is just to say: I agree that the emotional throughline feels a bit wobbly here, and I don’t have a way to reconcile it. I will take further suggestions if anyone has them.
fallenangelontheceiling replied to your post: i tried to play with fate once, thinking i could...
So you’re saying we don’t have control?
good question! in the audio post i did about the upcoming year i concluded it with “2020 is a drawn out big bang (particularly where capricorn resides in your chart) and it is your responsibility to make that happen.” but i’m also trying to make it abundantly clear that it is a fateful dealing…so yes and no. while it is in fate’s hands, you are the one who has to adhere to fate’s counsel and it is possible to ignore guidance. if you try to resist or deny or take a shortcut or “cheat” or chicken out you’re gonna end like the unfortunate soul in that gif. fate sets up the stage, is the director, but you’re the one who has to follow lead. you have been blessed with a wealth of knowledge of yourself, others, and your environment up until now, and will still be, and you have to make decisions/act accordingly (to what you know feels wrong/right)
Why don’t you like Sabrina’s line about protecting Leticia?
“you’ve protected me all these years. it’s the least i can do” really sticks out to me because it feels distant. i guess it just goes back to the fact that i don’t think sabrina realizes that zelda and hilda are her parents. she goes around stirring up unnecessary trouble with no regard to anyone but herself, (and as a result...) makes it a point to say that zelda’s not her mother (practically an accusation honestly), and makes zelda’s parenting of sabrina seem like a favor that needs to be repaid? i guess i just get annoyed that sabrina sees zelda and hilda’s parenting as temporary or as a casual favor to edward and diana. it’s true that sabrina’s an orphan and she has every right to explore that part of herself and grieve in any way she needs to. but the way she pushes that part of herself is repeatedly disrespectful and completely dismissive of the unconditional love that zelda and hilda have for their child
