#fascinating question

[crabussy]

genuine question! if its winter for you, are your months different? or are they the same? is it still march for u? is march and june and stuff just winter months for u or is it different and its like September or something for u! ( sorry if this is rude to ask btw! I'm just curious! )

yeppp it's may for me! the gregorian calender months are the same regardless of the hemisphere. winter here goes from the start of june to the end of august.

[icarusofathousanddays]

I freaking love your page. Your posts always make sense in the most chaotic way and your yapping tag is honestly one of my favorite things on here.

So I have a random question for you because this feels like the kind of thing you’d have a take on: what do you think the Mikaelsons’ middle names would be and why? I’m so curious what your reasoning would be.

Thank you! I appreciate it and I’m happy you enjoy my blog!

I’m going to preface this with the fact that I think Esther was likely the one naming most of their children. I’ve talked about it before, but I think the shift to religious naming could be easily explained by Mikael being baptized after Freya disappeared and even taking on a new name himself after this spiritual rebirth. Elijah, in particular, reads like a celebration name—the first child born after that shift.

It was common for Vikings—“Viking” being a loose classification, but it works for the purposes of this post—to name their children using alliteration (where all the children’s names start with the same letter) or variation (where the names share the same base meaning but change certain elements). And while Christian names weren’t uncommon in the late Viking Age, it’s just my preference to explain the sudden shift from names like Freya and Finn to Elijah and Rebekah this way. (Niklaus has Greek but also Germanic roots, as does the name Ansel, so I’ve always assumed that name came from Mikael. The same goes for Henrik. Kol is an interesting one because it has a Norse meaning, but kol is also a Hebrew word, so it fits nicely within the naming scheme in either direction.)

All that to say, I don’t think they would have had middle names, since that really wasn’t really a thing in any of the areas their family could have plausibly originated from at the time. However, they could have had bynames—basically nicknames used to describe personality, occupation, appearance, and so on.

As for bynames, I think things like Freya Bright-Hair would be fun. Maybe Finn the Quiet, Finn the Tall, or Finn Slow-Smile? Elijah Dark-Eyes, Kol Never-Still, Freya Gold-Hair, Henrik Bright-Laugh—things in that vein. (I’m still undecided on one for Klaus because, despite all my positive feelings toward him, I’m not quick-minded enough to come up with one yet lol.) Two examples of historical bynames that I came across in my reading was “[name] Barefooted” and “[name] the Tall,” so that’s sort of the vibe.

Fun fact: this was actually an idea that I carried into Miriam’s story, where I was basically letting her give the people she encountered bynames.

If they had been born in an era where middle names were common, I probably would have kept the religious naming convention and given them biblical middle names that telegraphed something about their characters.

[rookinthecrownest]

Out of Curiosity

Do you think Illario could ever be redeemed for what he did?

Yeah, I think he can

Nah, never

Nuance/explanation/show results/some third thing

Voting ended onDec 1, 2024

[sunburstsandmoonshadows]

How much do they weigh anyways? Dipper would probably weigh a ton since he's wood, but what about Mabel?

I ended up googling the average height of a 12 year old and found a cotton-stuffed doll of about the same height, and it claims that doll is about 3 pounds. So, uh, 3 pounds, apparently.

Couldn't find a super good equivalent for Dipper--he's a puppet, though, so he isn't meant to be too heavy. His torso is hollow and his limbs/head probably would be too. 10 pounds or something??

[bogusbyron]

BAPS YOU with my paws. hello. what's a plant you think would be evil if plants turned human. or an asshole. or simply a jerk. maybe stuck up? what's a stuck up plant.

I have always thought all those gaudy orchids would be pretentious as fuck . The peacocks of the plant world . Would be those annoying guys who think theyre better than you because they were born into money and wear better clothes and have better jewellery

[ratbastarddotfuck]

Hey, I'm part of this hookup board and a few people make posts wanting to give oral sex but saying they won't do it with anyone who asks to wear a condom. Would it be puritanical for the board to ban this kind of request in service of preventing the spread of disease? Would it be unreasonable for me to feel unsafe in a community that wouldn't do that to prevent the spread of disease?

mmm, I think my take is that people have a right to not want to use a condom for sex, but people also have every right to not want to fuck that person, you know? As long as you're having the kind of safe sex you're comfortable and happy having, I don't think it should matter what others are doing.

I can see an argument for banning those posts if they cause a lot of shitfights that the moderation team has to clean up. That's time and effort that isn't worth it. But if there aren't arguments, then I don't see a reason to.

IMO, it's better to have these people being upfront that they won't use a condom - so you can just immediately decide you won't be fucking them - than it is for them to be banned from saying so in their post and then to possibly try to coerce someone into something they aren't comfortable with once in physical space together.

Using or not using a condom isn't a moral issue. It's a personal health choice. And health is not moral. I believe it's best to allow people to be open about what they want so that everyone can make informed decisions about their sex life.

(this is to say nothing about getting regularly tested and being open with all sexual partners about any transmissible sexual health concerns. anyone having sex with new people should be getting tested regularly whether it was "safe sex" or not. possibly this + the importance of disclosure is something for your hookup board to implement regular reminders about?)

[theriverbeyond]

would you enjoy being a bog body?

i... don't think so? i think my knowledge of bog bodies is very limited and mostly includes them being taken out of the bog and throughly examined, but that just seems like a nightmare post-death experience for a trans person. also I think accidental discovery of one may scare the unexpecting passerby (it would certainly give me a nasty shock) and I don't really want to be doing that either.

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

I'll be asleep before you wake up, and just remembered I have to run around & skype Germans in the morning - so if you would like to answer: Which 1D member/former member does the most to the least emotional labour in their family?

What a great question, but I’m going to start with some really nerdy definition of terms, because I feel that the way the term is used on the internet is unhelpfully imprecise. I often find myself saying ‘nope that’s just ordinary labour’ to posts about women wrapping their male partner’s Christmas presents or whatever.

I read a really interesting interview with Arlie Hochschild, who originally coined the term ‘emotional labour’, where she talks about the way the term had ben extended. She originally used it to describe the work of regulating your own emotions in the workplace - for example in hospitality you don’t just have to do the work of, but perform happines about that work as well. (And one of the interesting points is that there is a huge amount of emotional labour involved in being in 1D and fans demand that sort of performance of the right emotions very intensely and in all sorts of ways. The second thing I’d point out is that this analysis gets to the heart of why ‘Treat People with Kindnes’ is a super fraught command. And ultimately I go backwards and forwards about whether or not Harry is fundamentaly unaware of the dynamics of the cost of performing kindness, or if it’s a reaction to the demands put on him - and I suspect it’s both)

So I’m going to start with answering the question - who does the most work regulating their own emotions around their family. I’m not going to give individual explanations, but to me there’s two parts of the question - to what extent does their family context make complex emotional demands on them do they deal with this through emotional labour or withdrawl. So here is my list of emotional labour around families: 

Liam Payne

Louis Tomlinson

Niall Horan

Harry Styles

Zayn Malik

But I also want to answer the other question - who does the most care work responding to their family’s emotions.  Obviously that’s barely a question - it’s Louis, we have the screenshots from his sisters of their conversations.  

But with the others, I think it gets complicated, because now there’s the question of emotional competence. If two people do the dishes, and one is very bad at it and takes twice as long, do we say they are doing more work? With Liam I have no doubt that he thinks that making people happy is his job role and that includes his family, but is he any good at responding to other people’s emotions? 

And then the other question is again about withdrawal - to what extent do 1D members withdraw either from their family, or from any responsibility of people’s emotional response (and there’s all sorts of stuff to consider here - including Nick and Hary’s conversation about competitivenes in the car). 

I think Niall does the least emotional labour for his family. But I’m really struggling to seperate the other three: I think Zayn withdraws a lot, but probably does emotional labour when he’s around; I think Liam feels very responsible for other people’s emotions, but probably isn’t very good in response; and I think Harry probably has some specific family dynamics he feels responsible for (he said something very interesting about feeling like he should protect his Mum for a very early age), but I don’t think he necesarily feels responsible for the wider emotional dynamic. So we’ll call that a tie, based on current knowledge.