#fearisreal

[thereal20s]

Beyond My Fears

I have had nights where I am too tired but I can’t fall asleep or moments where I want to be productive and I can’t do anything. I think it’s mainly caused by anxiety. And, how is anxiety related to fear? Well, I believe anxiety is fear of the future. Personally, it is one of the things I struggle with. Many people are afraid of the future, but it manifests in different ways for everyone. 

I over think and stress a lot, which makes it hard to be present in the moments I’m living. For example, I don’t want to fail professionally and thinking of failure causes me fear and the fear causes anxiety and the anxiety causes more fear, making this a vicious cycle. Fear impacts my life in several ways: lack of sleep and sadness, mostly due to imaginary situations that don’t exist yet.

However, I think beyond my fears there is hope. Therefore, if I use what causes the fear in my favor, I will overcome what I fear the most. If failure causes fear, then I need to do everything in my power to succeed. If losing my parents causes fear, then I need to give them all the love I can while they are alive. If having a life with no purpose causes fear, then I need to give my life meaning every day.

Beyond my fears, there is hope. The positive side of the what ifs, the dreams I can accomplish, the laughter I can cherish and the love I will give. Being human is being fearful but being human is also being fearless. To me, fears are part of being vulnerable and they show what I really care about. However, courage is about facing them instead of using them as an excuse or shield. I think the first step to overcome fears is to recognize what causes them and truly believe, there is hope beyond them.

-Shanelle, 24

[tincanpenman]

READ FULL POEM BELOW -------------------------------------------------------- As the lightning fades and you brace for the thunder, Down under, in your pillow fort of prayers, do you wonder Who is it at your door? Knocking as if they could run no more. Who is the silhouette on the pane? Did they call your name? Etch it, inane, on their foggy breath-stain? When the howling wind beats at the trees - merciless, Did your mind digress from the hot-off-the-press To the thought of confession? About the whisper you felt; And you knelt like a felled tree Victim to the howling glee. When hails ripped the midnight quiet from your calm, And you curled in a ball and sucked on your thumb, Did you ignore the cold breath caressing your back? Exclamations of fancy at explanation's lack? Have you ever shut your eyes so tight And hoped it might - Help you forget the eyes that shone From the crack of the door, Pried open by six fingers, or more That you privately swore could be bones? Then ask yourself this - Are you sure you're alone? . . . . . . . . . . . #tincanpenman #nightterror #fear_of_the_dark #areyoualone #fearisreal #hauntinglines #poetryoffear #poemoffear #poemsoffear #stormypoetry #stormynights #campfiretale #scarypoems #frightening #frightmares #frightnights #horrorpoetry #horrorpoem #scaredgames #areyouscared #nothingtofearbutfearitself #scarytales #whatareyouafraidof #whatareyouscaredof (at FEAR) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIKZBkGlJMu/?igshid=19gg08f49vmn7

[memyselfnmichelle]

Only you can evict the fears that take up permanent residency in your head. Fear is a word and even a label that we have learned to assign certain emotions. Fear is most certainly attributed to future tense. Not present and not past. Ponder that one. Below are some fears that I have or have had. ✅I can’t do June bugs. I might even accidentally murder someone if they put one on me. ✅Elevators can become extinct as far as I’m concerned. (Been stuck in one for longer than 5 minutes when I was 25.) ✅I have ADD, anxiety & IBS but all are much milder since my lifestyle changes. ✅I am a total morning person. The epitome. The opposite of a night owl. If I stay up too late & can’t sleep it can make me anxious. ✅Heights + Me = No. They make me feel lightheaded faster than a drag off a cigarette ever could. ✅I use to binge eat like it was my job or Thanksgiving until 2 yrs ago for a few years. On and off. I use to think I needed to be in control & I think that was one way I achieved it. ✅My trust factor is at an all time high of maybe 4. Childhood family trauma, a bad first marriage .... I’m working on it. ✅I’m an organized planner in every sense of the word. I planned my career of 20 yrs, I planned my marriage w/ 2 children 5.5 years apart & I planned my divorce when I knew all my tries were gone 15 years ago. Not having a plan can induce my ADD & anxiety. ✅My right inner thigh is dog bitten scarred to the max. I was bitten 2x 2 yrs apart by the same dog. I never was worried about ‘stranger’ dogs before then, but I am now. ✅I believe in having good Karma in every sense of the word or definition. You reap what you sow. What comes around goes around. Treat people how you wish to be treated. All damn day. I not want bad Karma. Ever! In other news..... evening bathtub smoothie time is a thing ya’ll! 🛁 🥤 Photo cred: @macyfost 💕 . . #eveningbathtubsmoothie #fearisfuturebased #bathtubsmoothie #selflovediscovery #fearisreal #faceyourfearsheadon #fearlesslyforward #fearisachoice #learningnewthingsdaily #mindfulnesss #memyselfnmichelle #fearbased #loveyourselfeveryday #selflovefun #selfimprovementdaily #selfdevelopmentgoals (at Dallas, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1G5aEBpKfQ/?igshid=owd1mhzwea8a

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[jenniferrn247]

ANDDDDDDDDDD.......THIS ⬆ Is Exactly the Reason I Don't swim in the Ocean. Don't get Me Wrong. I Love Animals. I Love Fish. But I've ALREADY had My (once in a licetime) close in counter/run in with a shark &..... I just can't... #lovetheocean #lovesharks but... #itstheirhome & unfortunately... #fearisreal

[cmhealy]

#subbing for a buddy of mine. He's not kidding 😳. #fearisreal no #discipline problems. #awesometeacher #substitute

[missvplam]

"Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness." - Desmond Tutu #desmondtutu Vienen días difíciles, hay mucha incertidumbre y eso provoca miedo... pero lo único más fuerte que el miedo, es la #esperanza no dejemos que nos la arrebaten. Trabajando lo doble y viviendo en austeridad Y, antes de concluir, hagamos el esfuerzo de darle una oportunidad. #siguetrabajando #nuncaterindas #sigueadelante #godhasaplan #dontstopbelieving #fearisreal #hopeisnotastrategy #quotes #choosehappiness #vivamexicocabrones #hopequotes #hopeisfree #godknowswhathesdoing #loveislouderthanthepressuretobeperfect

[mayliloboba]

Where do I go from here?

While many are telling me, they hate seeing me alone, with no one to seek attention from, I’m just wondering how pathetic I actually look in people’s eyes.

Things I wish people would understand; I may be alone but I am not lonely, because honestly I’m really used to having time alone. I may seem like I need replacement and companionship, but I honestly don’t like rushing into letting just anyone in. I’m selective, because too many have left.

Things I wish I understand; Why people leave me in the end, Why things always mess up even though I tried my best and gave my all, Am I ready to start anew, Am I healed, Or am I just refusing to pay attention to the wound?

And… how does it feel like to fall for someone again? How does it feel like to have someone you want to work hard for? How do I make myself feel like I deserve someone at this point, And how do I make myself feel like I’m good enough for someone?

-i.h