Tbh I’ve been struggling the past few weeks. 2 days ago I was attacked by allergies, something I’ve never experienced in my life. 2 weeks ago, I had lumps on my neck which scared me. The idea of a cancer recurrence is casting a dark cloud over my head. Whenever a cancer scare comes along, I get angry. Go to hell cancer!! Leave me alone. What else can I do to improve my situation? I ordered this highly recommended book for cancer patients. My peer coach @asexton67 who I adore to pieces swears by it. In fact, she is now one of the few certified coaches of #RadicalRemission. I claimed my book yesterday (ordered via Amazon and shipped thru Johnny Air). Yay! I can’t wait to go through it and apply what I learn. Dr. Andrew Weil, another expert I look up to in the field of natural health, has a review on the back cover. Amazing! I am totally sold. 😍 - #beyourfabself • #felicityfix #lifestyle #goals #love #healingjourney #happy #healthy #mindfulliving #selfcare #wellnesscoach #cancerwarrior #inloveandwell https://www.instagram.com/p/Bnaj68gnWoz/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=85pc6k3qi35a
As a kid I was taught not to brag. As a teen I practiced to swallow my pride. As an adult I learned to accept the things I cannot change. My God is all powerful and all knowing. I humbly bow to His will.
My inferiority to my God keeps me in check like a child abides by his parents. He sees my every right and wrong. He sees how I deal with the people around me and my environment. Yet there is a bigger scheme I do not see and only He knows. I am one character among many and one day I’ll walk into a scene that will change the course of my life. Then another door will open in a few more years, and another. Life goes on.
It is comforting to know that my God looks after me like a parent protects his child. Things may go wrong but I know someone always has my back. As long as I follow His advice, I will eventually find myself in a good place.
There will always be greater and lesser persons than myself, in one aspect or another. Humility teaches me to share what I’m good at and to ask for assistance where I’m lacking. This mutual relationship with the people around me creates a wonderful bond and atmosphere.
To humble myself despite humiliation and rejection is the taller order. Accepting failure would be a good example. To do what is just and fail is a noble thing, rather than to do something unethical and succeed. I may hurt myself and the people I love but I know I have not failed my God. There will be other opportunities to succeed.
So many great entrepreneurs who I look up to had humble beginnings such as Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, J.K. Rowling, Henry Ford and so on. Their holistic points of view, good understanding of people and nothing-to-lose attitudes brought them business success.
To do the less fortunate a service and to treat them as equals is another lesson on humility. I’m glad I see so much of this when calamities strike. Many Filipinos are naturally benevolent and empathetic. In Ondoy alone, we saw celebrities help rescue victims from the flood.
Humility leaves plenty of room for self improvement. Because I know I’m not perfect, I constantly look for areas where I can be better. I listen to the opinions of others and take criticism constructively instead of negatively. I can say I have grown a lot because of it. When I have my feet firmly planted on the ground, I know I will go places. My God, Your will be done. #myjourney
“He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” –Matthew 18:2-4
My friend Clark asked about my thoughts on life with cancer. Here are my answers.
Hi Clark,
First of all, I'm a "generally happy" and optimistic person. My sister calls it indifference (manhid). Like when I shaved off my hair, she said she would've cried if it were her. But I was all amazement. She says she hates me sometimes for it. It's really hard to put me down. So I'm not so sure I'm the perfect person to answer your survey. But here goes.
>> How did you see life before you had cancer?
Great! I've always seen life as a blessing from God and it is my utmost responsibility to take care and make the most of it. I believe each of us has a purpose in life and it's our responsibility to the Creator to pursue it and make it happen.
God has been very generous to me. He has especially blessed me with a wonderful family and friends. Don't get me wrong. I do have my share of misfortunes and difficulties but I see these as lessons. We need the bad to see the good. It's been a wonderful life.
The major trials I see as wake-up calls. It's a time to reflect and discern what God wants for me. Because sometimes I get so caught up in my plans and ambitions I forget to listen to Him.
It's also like a detour. Because God wants me to take another path, He sets a major road block on the path I've chosen. But I have faith it will take me to the same ending I want or what He thinks is best for me. He always has.
>> Before: What makes you happy?
Part of the secret of being a "generally happy" person is taking pleasure in the small things. So it's really very easy to make me happy. Even an inspiring quote I read online can make my day.
But if you mean the big stuff, it's the love of people that brings joy to my life. So good times with family and friends are the most valuable for me.
>> Now: What makes you happy?
The same. And even more so now, because I know who my real friends are.
>> If you are going to live in the next one year of your life, what will you do to make yourself say that you have lived a spectacular life?
Maybe help a bit more like do a lot of volunteering, especially for kids in need. Teach kids, build homes, provide food, etc.
Of course, connect more with the people I love. Make memories with them.
>> When can you say that you are ready to walk out forever (die) in this world?
I'm pretty much ready. I try to live everyday with love and purpose. But I would like to have the opportunity to say "I love you" to the people dearest to me before I die.
>> Before: How did you deal with your judgments with people?
I always try to see the good in other people which has not always worked out well for me. hehe. I've gotten swindled a couple of times. Karma na bahala sa kanila. I can be judgmental at first glance. But I do try to establish common ground with everyone, I try to find the good in them, and focus on that. If I have nothing good to say, I keep my peace.
*But if you mean, how do I deal with people judging me, I really don't mind. I take criticism constructively. If they have a point, I apologize or change. If they don't, I leave it.
My mom was very apprehensive with me coming out that I have cancer. I shouldn't broadcast it to the world daw because people will judge me. When people say they're sad for me or worse, pity me, I don't pity myself. I thank them for their concern. I'm very well aware of where I stand and what I'm worth. I don't mind people telling me otherwise.
>> Now: How do you deal with your judgments with people?
The same.
>> Overall: What was the most profound learning that cancer has taught you?
First and foremost, as mentioned earlier, it's a wake-up call and a detour. So I've realigned my priorities and goals.
Second, it has taught me to be more sensitive to the feelings of others. This part I think is the weird part. hehe. I never did worry so much about me having cancer. But it has affected the people around me more, especially my family. So I guess my optimism does have its lows. People don't appreciate it when I'm too happy because they have this preconceived notion that I should be sad. My happiness is not normal. So I try to tone it down. The same goes with probably other people who have cancer. I'd imagine they'd think me a bitch for not being affected. So to avoid comparison, it's better I keep my peace and speak only when asked.
Lastly, it has taught me to take better care of myself. My body is a gift from God and His temple. It is my responsibility to take good care of it. How will I carry out my purpose if I die now? It's the least I can do for having been so blessed.
