I need a roommate for financial reasons. How do I find a woman who is a female separatist who will not bring men of any kind (fathers, friends, boyfriends, hookups, etc.) inside the apartment? I've tried making posts in FaceBook roommate-seeking groups, but they don't get approved by admins and then I get banned.
I don’t know what is your personal situation and so you will need to modulate my answer to your specifications. Mind you that I have never actively looked for roommates, so take it with a grain of salt. I encourage anyone who has had more experience on this to add their wisdom in the notes.
If you want to use social media to find you roommate, leave out of the posting your wish to not have males brought to your shared space. Ask for a female roommate (that should not be so offensive that your posting is refused), and maybe add that you are single and work or study-focused (whether or not it is true, it might discourage less serious women, who might be less tractable to your demand that no men ever come over). Your best bet is to try and get to know any prospective roommate and gauge whether she’d be amenable to it, and then ask her directly — that means that it might take some time for you to find a roommate who fits. Depending on your age and the situation of your roommate, you might have to consider letting a father or a male friend come over when she moves in; or help her yourself if you don’t.
You might want to look into moving in with an older woman — again, depending on your situation and how long you envision living with said roommate. I didn’t do it myself, but some of my friends lived with old (seventy, eighty years old) women while we where studying. In exchange for a little company and rent, these older women were offering a bedroom and access to their kitchen and living room to them. They are often lonely, might not have family in town, plus they are a untapped well of knowledge. And they are often more amenable to that sort of consideration — or at least amenable to warning you beforehand when their male family might visit.
Instead of looking at general roommate-finding groups on social media, you can try to find radical feminist ones, and then ask there if anyone has a recommendation for you. I wish you the best of luck in your search anon, I hope you can find a place to live where you feel safe!
