Iām first year of uni and very lonely, i only have a few friends and we arenāt very close, i get really jealous when i see other people having the best times and loads of friends, especially when my friends do something with other people that they get along with really well. I hate feeling this way because i know jealousy is an ugly emotion and I know i donāt know how to feel better. The whole thing makes me feel like some sad lonely loser and it feels like iām always going to be this way.
I have a few pieces of advice for this one.
1. Talk to your friends about how you feel. They may not realize how youāre feeling or that theyāre leaving you out of things. Ask them to go out with them and hang out with them often to build the relationship further.
2. Find a different or more groups of friends. People that share interests with you and that you really connect and click with. You can do this by joining groups, clubs, organizations, sports, talking to people in your classes, going to social events such as sports games, dances, parties, etc. The easiest way to make new friends is to look at the people in your proximity.
3. Talk to a professional. If youāre feeling this way, it may be a sign that thereās an underlying mental health issue that youāre unaware of. If youāre on a college campus, they provide free and private counseling services.
4. Remember that itās okay to not go out with your friends all the time, itās okay to be jealous as long as youāre not taking it out on them for it. Learn to enjoy your time to yourself sometimes. Pick up hobbies, take yourself out, whatever it is that you want to do. You donāt always have to be with a big group of friends to have a good time.