Forcemasc except it's a gentleman who does it. My f/o, who most definitely would be a charming gentleman off duty, sees me, a miserable "girl" and decides he needs to change that. He teaches me all about what being a man means in the most gentle and kind way. He would be so patient with me, letting me vent whenever I express doubts about being a man, before touching me oh so tenderly and telling me all of that is nonsense. I am a man because I have a kind heart and the wish to protect others with my wits.
just... forcemasc but not in a violent "solve everything the way a feral mutt would" kind of way (even though that is also so epic and valid!!!) but rather by slowly becoming a compassionate and happy man through self acceptance and support from others. Does any of that make sense? Not in the slightest. Does it make me happy to have a man teach me how to be a gentleman anyway? Absolutely.