#androqueerphobia

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

This is transandrophobia.

Ough, yeah, if you actually read up on the history of the term [link], it has never been specific to trans women. In fact, its origins are completely unknown - trans & gender diverse people of all kinds have been using it for years.

It's always been about "coming out of your shell", about growing into what you're meant to be, hatching out of the embryo stage.

The "chick" definition was just a fun add on that trans women were using within their own circles, and instead of remaining silly wordplay, it got twisted by transandrophobes and exorsexists into...whatever this nonsense is.

(Additionally, the "trans men killed the women they used to be" thing is such a massive red flag, considering TERFs use that as an anti-trans talking point all the time. Also, many trans men still align with womanhood in some way, so it's just...such a huge generalization of the trans man experience.)

[a-polite-melody]

“Masculinity is never demonized”

…so you’ve not talked to Black people or read Black activists, or anything, and are really proud to be advertising that? Because that’s all I’m hearing.

[status-quo-hater]

I wonder why these two groups have been getting along so well lately

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

Friendly reminder using a text design from my Redbubble.

[ID: Text on a black background, using the trans and intersex colors. It state the following:

"AFAB/AMAB =/= anatomy!

AFAB/AMAB =/= social treatment!

It only describes the letter on your birth certificate.

Be inclusive.

Say "people with [body part]."

Say "people socially imposed as male/female."

Stop forgetting that surgery, HRT, and intersexuality exist!"

/End ID]

[skysthelimit57]

Seeing masculinity as dangerous isn't progressive and can harm queer people. Masculinity, femininity, and androgyny are all morally neutral.

[stop-lying-about-trans-men]

there was a reddit post i saw once that was in some game subreddit. it was advertising a "queer/lgbtq/women-only discord server" as a safe space in a gaming community that could be hostile to anyone who wasnt a cishet man.

and this was years and years ago. the discourse of equating women-only and queer-only spaces was not on most peoples minds at the time and this is not an endorsement of that. anyway

someone responded to the post like "if i made a server that was for cis straight men only yall would throw a fit"

OP responded "thats because when you change the words that changes the meaning <3." along those lines

i need a screenshot of that comment as a reaction image

because its like so succinct. its all i need to say. when you change the words it changes the meaning. most people know this implicitly, due to how language works.

when youre talking about trans men and you drop 'trans' it changes the meaning of what you said.

"why are men trying to insert themselves into trans issues" and "why are trans men trying to insert themselves into trans issues" mean two different things. you say the former when you mean the latter

because the latter sounds ridiculous and obviously wrong

obviously trans men have a place to discuss trans issues

but if you obscure that fact, if you change the words, you change the meaning of what youre saying

people lie about trans men and attribute the actions of cis men and cis women to them, or call them cis men or cis women depending on whats convenient. to transandrophobes, trans men are either basically cis women with extra steps or basically cis men with extra steps. they are never allowed to be trans men. they are never allowed to be wholely who they are

their language is scrutinized and deemed insufficient by people who arent them. the language used to describe them is inaccurate and often deliberately so. what was the term for that again? epistemological violence? etymological?

stop lying about trans men

[discoursedarling]

I actually find it really hard to care about whether or not trans guys owning a blahaj or headcanoning ralsei or whomever as a trans guy is transphobic when i'm living in a hotel room straddling the poverty line after escaping domestic abuse for the 3rd time so 🤷‍♂️

[spoon-the-raccoon]

"We need more weird queers!" You can't handle actual queerness. The only queerness you can handle is heteronormative queerness of top and bottom same sex couples, strict binary trans people and Non-binary folks as a third gender. Don't even get me started how you can't handle anything above monogender, monosexual or monogamous. You can't handle arospec and acespec and any mixture of the two, especially aroallos. You can't handle intersex people just existing to be honest. Anything that challenges your shallow worldview of how things work is 'made up' or 'trying to win the oppression Olympics'.

You can't handle real queer people in the real queer world. If you said any of your shitty takes in real queer spaces nobody would trust you.

To you, being queer is just cishet+