In practical terms, how do you forgive yourself? The platitude "love yourself" is thrown around all the time, and one of the steps to get there is another platitude, "forgive yourself." How do you do it? How do you accept yourself as you are and move forward with life when it was less than what you hoped for; when you were less than what you hoped for?
How do you “love yourself” and/or “forgive yourself” when you don’t know what that “self” is and why it deserves love or forgiveness? Do you define the self solely by your hopes and dreams? Then how could you love that self when the hopes get dashed and the dreams seem impossible? Do you define the self solely by your goals and achievements? Then how could you love that self whenever you encounter challenges, obstacles, and failures?
When you take everything that happens to you as a statement of your personal worth, then of course you will see yourself as being nothing or unworthy when you can’t get the things that you IMAGINE make you who you are. Hope is just a feeling, ideals are just mental constructs, dreams are just manufactured images - these are things that you created or chose to identify with, which means that you could uncreate them or choose to recreate/redefine them at any time.
You want genuine self-love? Then understand what it is you’re trying to love.
1) Understand that every individual possesses intrinsic worth and unique potential. You are more than just the superficial ideas or false images that you create, internalize from society, or choose to adopt for defining your “identity”. When you understand this, your mind will open up to new ways of defining self and purpose, and your worldview will naturally broaden and help you adapt properly to the constraints of reality.
2) Understand that intention matters. You cannot achieve genuine progress in life when your actions are motivated by negative emotions like guilt, shame, or self-loathing because actions born of internal hatred and violence only serve to create external discord and destruction.
When life is not what you hoped for, it only means that improvement or progress is necessary, which is a practical matter and not a matter of existential threat, i.e., the need for improvement does not mean that you are “inadequate” or “undeserving” - you only see yourself as inadequate or undeserving when you haven’t grasped the first point.
Lasting change happens when your actions are motivated by positivity and love, a desire to be good and do good, a desire to experience fulfillment and well-being, a desire to live the best life you can by actualizing your unique potential, then you will have the right attitude that embraces mistakes, challenges, and failures as part of your life’s learning process rather than using them as a reason to flagellate yourself.
I sometimes see or hear about people walking away from their faith in Christ. The many reasons this might happen is either because of a pastor or church leader made a mistake, dating a christian that failed to be a leader, our own mistakes, or simply by being confused about how christians live their lives in this generation.
I get that.
When we feel betrayed by someone we trusted, or we fall…
Tuesday's Morning Glory.. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: Matthew 6:14 KJV Forgiveness is one of the key factors as a Christian, Believer, or a Child of GOD. When you practice #forgivenesss, you begin to see the move of GOD from a different angle. #TestimonyTuesday (at Darkin Island) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bw4NhZGBxRh/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=2d5a7fs74ly1
If you treated me the way I treated you, I would have hated you, but you're too kind.
I know things have been tough for you, and I don't mean to make it any worse. I've stolen all the happiness, your passion and your precious time from you. I don't know how would I pay them back. I've also realized that I've led you on with hope which all seemed a lie but that isn't true, I know I tried though you tried more than me, but I couldn't continue and let this happen and see you ending up nowhere. You're such a wonderful person, I'm not bragging, really, you've been so patient with me that you gave me uncountable chances and still loved me the same and even more overtime.
Things happened that I finally, unconsciously but later reasonably thought about your life and my life too, I couldn't let you waste your wonderful years getting stuck with someone so unsure about herself, someone who doesn't even know how to love herself and who don't have confidence. I figured that on the other side, you are such a zealous person with so much purpose in life and I wouldn't want you to give up on that just because of the complications of our relationship that you have to handle. There's more to that but what's important is that YOU deserve happiness and freedom and better.
I know that half-way through this message you might be angry at me for coming up with all these and you might probably think that it's just one of those apology notes which I send after almost every 'it's over' but this time It's going to be the last time because we both need to figure out our lives and concentrate in our future as individuals and I know for your family comes first so importantly. So, hope we both walk on to the paths of our lives leading to happiness, love and peace.
This isn't a goodbye note but a farewell wish until we meet again someday.
Take care and God bless you on your journey to success in life.
8 So I urge you now to reaffirm your love for him. – 2 Cor. 2:8 2 Cor. 2:5-11 NLT It appears that someone in the church at Corinth had done something that was deserving of discipline by the church body. Whatever the action was, it had caused a great deal of grief in the church. Paul is writing to tell them that the discipline has been sufficient and now it it time for the…
