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I found an ace themed Valentine’s day card at my local Walmart.

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A-spec Headcannon - Jo March (Little Women)

Can we talk about Jo March? Because I feel like she is some really stellar Aro-Ace representation who’s been staring me in the oblivious face, waiting for me to catch on for way too long. I know we can never really have ‘word of god’ confirmation/denial on this one, since Louisa May Alcott is long dead, but let’s just think about it. There is some definite queer coding with Jo, and while I think there are any number of valid interpretations for how we, or Alcott, might classify Jo’s gender identity, that’s not the aspect I’m going to focus on here (I’m sticking with she/her pronouns for this post because that’s what is used in the text). What I want to talk about are Jo’s relationships.

Most people seem to be in agreement that Jo’s relationship with Professor Bhaer isn’t exactly presented as being full of romance. Whether they’re in the Jo-and-Laurie camp (may I suggest Anne of Green Gables as an alternate reading choice?), the Jo-is-probably-attracted-to-women camp (who, exactly?), or just the Louisa-May-Alcott-was-being-a-grump-when-she-wrote-that camp, most people also tend to see that as a bad thing. I disagree. I do think their marriage is framed as closer to a friendship/business partnership than a great romance or a passionate need to fall into bed together, I just happen to think that sounds like a pretty nice ending for Jo. I mean, they challenge each other, they care very much for each other, and they’re taking on a major life project (the school at Plumfield) together - those are some pretty solid QPR goals. Is there a little bit of Alcott thumbing her nose at the publisher? Sure, but at the same time, she gives Jo an ending that I would imagine Alcott (the spinster authoress) being content with herself – something that’s unconventional, and really wonderful.

What’s also really wonderful is that Jo is about as far as possible from the trope of the robotic aro-ace. She’s headstrong, passionate, complex, flawed, boundary-pushing, and full of emotion. She loves deeply and non-romantically. Her love for all of her sisters is obvious, as is the love she feels for Laurie as a friend and pseudo-brother. When Laurie pushes to take things in a romantic direction and Jo turns him down, she is as heartbroken by the loss of his friendship as he is by her rejection.

Both at Meg’s wedding and again when he proposes, Laurie tells Jo that she’ll fall in love and marry someday, and both times, she vehemently denies it, saying she wants to become the family’s old maid, that she’s got other priorities, that she doesn’t want all that. This is a familiar conversation for many of us on the ace- and/or aro-spectrums, who have been told over and over that we’ll understand romance and/or sexual attraction when we’re older, and grow up find that “nope – still don’t.” Jo clearly doesn’t buy into the hierarchical value we culturally place on romantic love, asking why people have to ruin perfectly good current relationships – ones of family or friendship – by doing something so messy as pursuing a romance.

As an a-spec who isn’t sure whether I want a romantic partner in my future, Jo strikes me as revolutionary and awesome in ways that didn’t really register as a kid (I liked her, but always identified more with Anne Shirley and her need for puffed sleeves than I did with the more tom-boy Jo). May we all have love-filled lives like Jo March. Unique, fulfilling, and unapologetic.

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this song isn’t officially ace or aro but the chorus (the intro one especially) reminds me of how i used to try to make myself have crushes before i realized i was aroace and how freeing it was to find a label for it because i realized i didn’t have to do that anymore

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I’ve talked a little bit about this before, but one of my big headcanons is that Biff Loman from Arthur Miller’s The Death of a Salesman is demisexual and maybe aro-spec. I know it’s a bit of a niche theater reference, but if you go through and do a close text analysis of the character, it becomes a lot more obvious that he’s a-spec struggling to be happy (for a number of reasons, including) living in a very sexual culture.

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Cinnamon Bone, by Eliza Rickman

@fuckyeahasexual I can’t quite pinpoint why, but this song reminds me of when I hadn’t yet realized I was asexual and attempted dating. The boys I chose were...not the best, and I realize now that what they wanted from me was not what I wanted to give.

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Aromantic Awareness Week: Fanfiction Roundup

AKA hey look I wrote things.

I really wanted to write stories for Aromantic Awareness Week because representation is important, but at the same time coming up with original characters is hard. Thus fanfiction. The only prompts I could find were for personal essays/experiences, but @aroworlds was taking art submissions all week and I really want to say thanks for reblogging all my fanfic. I’m glad you found the meta I added in the posts to be interesting and relatable, which is what I was hoping for since I knew that aside from Doctor Who I was writing for some fairly niche-ish fandoms which could make the fanfics a hard read.

I ended up writing four fanfictions for aro awareness week: (the links here are to the tumblr posts which in turn have the Ao3 links to the actual story, that way anyone interested can read the meta behind the story even if you’re not interested in the fanfic/fandom itself)

Day 1: Found Family (And Other Cliches) - A Tales of Link fanfic exploring an aromantic headcanon for Zephyr specifically, though I also headcanon the rest of the main characters as being aspec as well. The relationship between Zephyr, Allen, and Sara can also be interpreted as a QPR though the world it takes place in doesn’t really have the terminology for that.

Day 2: The Path to Darillium - A Doctor Who fanfic that was basically me working through my feelings about the Doctor and River’s canon relationship, my headcanon that the Doctor is aroace, and how to reconcile the two things.

Day 3: Unexpectedly Articulate (No More Tripping Over Words) - A Tales of Symphonia fanfiction about aroace Colette figuring out what to do with her life now that she no longer has to die to save the world. It also features an aromantic allosexual original character.

Day 4: Hearts in a Void - A Kingdom Hearts 3 fanfic exploring what was happening with Ienzo at Radiant Garden while the main characters are off being heroes. Ienzo largely grew up as a Nobody and now that he has a heart again he’s having to relearn his emotions and is questioning pretty much everything about himself, though he settles on aromantic to describe himself over the course of the story. There’s also an aro-spec Leon in there who is in a sometimes romantic, sometimes not relationship with Rinoa (his canon love interest from his original Final Fantasy game). Finally, there’s some poetry in there which, as I don’t typically write poetry, utterly confounds me in that not only did I write it but I kind of like it too.

I did have an idea for a Harry Potter story as well, but hit some writers block on that one which I couldn’t figure out how to get around. I’ll probably return to it in March or April, once I’m done participating in a fandom festival for The Flash.

It was a lot of fun writing these and I hope everyone who read them enjoyed them as well. I’ll be writing more aromantic fanfics as the year continues, so keep an eye out.

@fuckyeahasexual here’s some fanfics for #fyeah art friday

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