i'm just sitting here thinking of all the travel shit i have planned for the year while listening to "old school eminem" on spotify. i gotta listen to more d12 honestly. I love planning stuff but I swear I'm getting a little tired of doing SO MUCH all the time. I say that but then when i go a few weeks without doing something kinda fun I get all miserable.
i want to try to get up to indiana early this year but i have so much other stuff i don't really want to spend money on a rental car for four days, but that's kinda silly because i just need to go see my dad (who, by the way, believes he's talking to an asian woman ((sorry, i don't know where from because I know no details)) who's going to come to america just for him. my feelings on this are so complicated because my relationship with him is so complicated. I'm sad that he's so lonely he's trying to talk to random women who might not be real online, i'm sad that his life ended three years ago when he crashed that motorcycle, but i'm angry that he fucking didn't do anything for himself once it happened. He literally just let himself rot on the couch snorting opiates instead of doing any physical therapy at all which would have helped him so immensely. maybe if he did that my sister wouldn't have to be his slave bitch every weekend, god forbid he would do anything to help anyone else if it takes a modicum of effort from him. But i love him and it hurts me that he's in so much emotional and physical pain) because I haven't seen him in so long and I only visit maybe once a year. And I can stay with my sister so my only expense is the plane ticket and the car, but I only fly southwest because I have flight anxiety (i'm working on it) and i can't bring myself to fly the "budget" airlines like spirit and frontier because i'm terrified of them being smaller and less maintained (literally not true, FAA rules and blablabla)
So maybe that for April? late march? i also don't want to go there when my fucking mother goes which she's really been trying to get me to go with her but i don't... like her. And when we spend too much time together we stop getting along. and she's being so annoying with wedding stuff for me. She's just excite which i'm okay with but she's being really fucking naggy about stuff and kinda bitchy about my ceremony timeline I have planned and stuff. Like I want to start the ceremony at 4:30 or 4:45 because the sun sets at like 5:30 on my wedding date. So if its a 10 minute ceremony then that gives us 45 minutes of light to take family photos. But she doesn't listen and she keeps fucking going on and on and on about how it's going to be daylight when the reception starts. Okay???? I truly don't give a fuck it's not that deep to me. I just want to have a nice fun wedding and get good photos. And also her ideas are so dated and ugly no offense to old ladies, she keeps coming up with decor ideas and i have to gently tell her "i don't love that" because talking with her is always like playing chess so I have to balance not hurting her feelings.
Then July I have a wedding in Maryland where I'm a groomswoman so I have to buy a dress for it (no biggie, it's for my friend parny and I LOVE him I am soooo not complaining). Leifs brother and my SIL might be meeting us up there so we can all take a little getaway together so that kinda knocks out my "visit leifs brother and emily" obligation for the first half of the year even though i love visiting them and i miss them and their normalcy compared to the rest of leifs family. I'm soooooooo over his mom right now it's not even funny. She's literally my mom but full waif. She's the victim of her bad relationship with her son (leifs brother) because he just "takes everything the wrong way" like girl. If it smells like shit everywhere you go, check your fucking shoe please. Anyways, July I have that.
I have to plan a bachelorette party (well, Julie does, but obviously I have a say in it) at some point, as well as do a sister trip. Another thing that I'm not complaining about. I love my sisters more than anything else in this world and I feel so fucking grateful that I've been able to spend so much time with them the last 5 years or so (but especially since the diagnoses almost two years ago, which jessica is still getting clean scans after her chemo!) So maybe I'll try to plan those two things together. Maybe we'll go to the ozarks or niagara falls. Or we'll go to nashville for that fucking green day concert because I'm so desperate to see them play the entirety of dookie and american idiot.
September we have another wedding in Rhode Island. We were originally gonna spend a full week up there looking around the area in case we want to move up to the North East but now we have a wedding to pay for ourselves so we're just gonna do a four day weekend. I'm pretty excited about that wedding too so not complaining, I'm just slightly sweaty bc my sister in law and brother in law keep talking about planning their wedding for this year in september or october and i need them to come up with a date so i know if it overlaps. ugh.
then november is our wedding!!!! yay!!!!! LEGALIZE!
that doesn't count the concert trips i want to take. I'll either drive up to atlanta to see green day or do nashville, and FOB is coming to orlando next month and i don't need to see them again but goddamnit i want to so I'm checking ticket prices every now and then
anyways I'm feeling a little stressed out. I feel like I've got so much going on but it's kinda how i thrive. so it's not a bad thing lol
also we're creeping closer to april which is when I'm supposed to get my yearly raise and I'm getting anxious as we approach it. I've done a great job in my position this year and produced a lot of good work, but I got a 7% cost of living raise in december and I'm worried they'll say that's my raise. Which isn't baaaaad but I was looking forward to getting a merit raise in april. also hoping we get a bonus again this year in april because we keep breaking records and my manager always tells us to give ourselves a big pat on the back and i'm like ayo, give me a check pls.
I feel very lucky that we're able to spend the amount of money we're spending on our wedding ON our wedding, since it's just one fucking day and it feels wasteful. Like we already own a house. It's okay. We have cars. We have no other thing we NEED to spend money or save money for right now but god damn it feels wasteful. I wish I could spend the money on this stuff and not feel guilty. And it helps that his parents and my dad are contributing and basically paying for the venue. but lawd. It's so wasteful.