its good and important to have words and names for the experiences you have. there are few things quite as empowering as self-identifying your gender, your feelings, your personality etc, in specific words that are immediately understood.
however, it is also important to remember that in naming things and claiming them as "part of [me]", you may be denying other aspects of yourself that are equally real and important.
it is good recognize having temper problems. it is good to recognize and name your mood as depressed and irritable, or your feelings as betrayed and hurt. but when you adopt depression, anger, and distrust as "part of who you are", you are denying yourself the possible existence of a good-natured person with a kind and warm personality, who is known to be fair in their assessments.
alongside a bad temper, perhaps you have a passion for fairness and justice. to others, perhaps you are known as having excellent instincts or a great sense of humor. if you hang on to every moment you were unnecessarily rude or unexpectedly betrayed, you won't have room to hold on to your sincere apologies, efforts youve made to improve and manage symptoms, the friends who love you but never get to see/talk to you. and so much more.
no one is a one-trick pony. let go of the things you dislike and look around for the good things that are already within you. what are you when youre not angry? when youre less depressed? when youre talking to friends or offering advice?
what kind of person are you outside your own perspective? open your mind and eyes and see the good you do, the help you bring, and the love you share.
youre not as bad as you think.