#genderissues

[greysonuncapped]

Gender and sexuality are not the same thing.

Gender and sexuality are not the same thing.

I'll say it louder for the dumbasses in the back.

GENDER AND SEXUALITY ARE NOT THE SAME THING.

[chaseme-96]

Intake Gender Therapist

Today, 4/9/18, was my intake at the gender therapist. I was very nervous and didn't quite know what to expect. I had to travel 1,5 hours by train so I watched a few videos from Kovu on YouTube. He's a transguy to whom I very much relate. Anyways, my girl was already waiting for me at the station and she went with me to the appointment. It went really well! We started with a lot of basic information, filling in form and such. Then the amnese started, I had to talk about my family, friends, if I have any traumas... that kinda stuff. I'm really glad that Chantal was with me because I forgot about a lot of things. Some things are kinda hard to talk about or admit, but I think that I did well.

Now I'll see my therapist within the next 6 week's and he will diagnose me and set up a plan to reach my final goal: being comfortable with myself.

I feel proud for taking this step!

[jamieoh]

Love this! We need start teaching our children that there is NO SUCH THING as “Girls toys” and “Boys toys” and that Colours don’t have genders.. neither do clothes. We’ve made a lot of mistakes with putting gender on things that shouldn’t be gendered. Do you agree or disagree? Leave your thoughts in the comments below!! 🏳️‍🌈 #gender #genderissues #toysdonthavegenders #transgender #boys #girls #cisgender #toys #issues #instagood #instadaily #thoughtoftheday (at Cork)

[youarestronger--thanyouthink]

Just want to cry

I just want to cry so badly.. my fiance got rushed to hospital following a UTI which left him in septic shock.. I can't even go visit him as I'm in work all week and I start before visiting and finish when it's over.. I love him so much and hate that he goes through this. One he's had surgery to get a suprapubic catheter put in, it will make life for us much easier and limit the amount of UTI's he has..

[celestialsoma]

The Double Standard

  So I have an issue.

Dating can be an exciting and nerve wracking venture for everyone, but for half of the planet its also something else.

Yes, I’m referring to my fellow women.

Not to say men don’t experience issues within their own sphere, but this is something personal to me and I dare to say to many others. In my younger years I often dreamed of falling in love with a kind sensitive man who would accept me for all my flaws and eventually marry him. We’d have a nice house, 2 kids, and I’d be a content housewife at the ripe age of 25. As I grew older and more familiar with the opposite sex and myself I soon realized that my fantasies were unrealistic. For one, as an aspiring psychiatrist( I won’t specify what kind, just know it takes a lot of school) getting married and having kids by 25 would be damn near impossible. And as I continue to grow into womanhood I have realized that my need for someone to accept my insecurities and love me came from an inability to love myself. I was not and am not ready to let someone else see the best in me if i can’t do the same. So where does the double standard come in?

Well after all of that I knew I wasn’t gonna be looking for a future husband anytime soon. However my family had other things in mind. I was constantly barraged with “talks” about how boys are hunters and we are the prey, how we need to guard ourselves in the coming barrage of sex hungry young men in the coming years. But I never, ever heard a single warning spoken to the boys in my family. No talks about promiscuity. Nothing about using protection. Not a damn thing about girls who take advantage of men(and mind you they exist). Needless to say I felt jaded, and singled out. It was okay if a man wasn’t looking to commit, but god forbid a woman has the same mindset. From the get go we’re expected to always be on the look out for husband material, to commit, to think ahead in every relationship for a future and skip if there’s nothing there. If a man screws around he’s badass. If a woman has even 1-2 partners over the course of her dating history, she’s characterized as being easy in many circles and sects of society. Abstinence is a burden exclusive to just women, and I’m tired of not being able to share the weight on my back.

[electriccaptain]

Personal blog time!

Dysphoria is an ugly problem and so many people suffer with it. Including me. I suffer with body and gender dysphoria, and frankly it's worse than my depression, anxiety and agoraphobia combined.

I was recently told by my therapist to write down how my dysphoria affects me and where it stems from in order to understand them. So here I am – writing it out for others to look at in hopes that it helps them, or family and friends, to understand their dysphoria too.

As a warning, I will be talking open and honestly about genitalia and periods, so if you don't wanna read about that kinda thing – STOP RIGHT NOW. Okay, cool. Here we go.

So, I'm gonna start from the worst thing that triggers me. Periods. As a transgender male who's pre everything, periods are the absolute worst. Those close to me will know that I have been on mine for 4 months solid, no break, medium to heavy flow too. I've had blood tests done and been on medication, but still the doctors don't know what's going on with me, but we're still investigating it. Anyway, 4 months I've had to wear feminine underwear in order to hold a sanitary towel in. I wear boxers over the top to try and feel more masculine, but it only helps a little. Most recently, I had a massive dysphoric anxiety attack, and no word of a lie it took me over 12 hours to get over it. It happened because I leaked out of my pad overnight, woke up in a puddle of blood. It was everywhere. After I showered and changed my bedsheets, washed everything and hung it all outside to dry, I broke down. Why didn't I do it before I washed everything? Because I was embarrassed. Which was stupid because a) no one was there to see it, and b) it all washed out in the end. But I'd gotten blood everywhere, and the blood came from genitals that don't fit with my body.

E M B A R R A S S I N G.

Not only is that a problem, but the cost of sanitary products is absolutely stupid. I go through a lot, as you can imagine, and I'm on a very limited budget as it is. Plus actually BUYING them is a nightmare. I know I don't pass but in my head and heart, I'm a guy, so buying something that's labelled incredibly feminine and directed at women is horrible and it genuinely breaks my heart.

That's periods covered, and honestly more than I was going to write about them. So, that brings me on to my next subject. My voice. I have a high, pitchy and sometimes squeaky voice. Some days I feel like I could pass, but then I have to talk. I sound like a twelve year old girl. I have tried to do voice exercises that can help deepen my voice but for some reason they don't seem to have any effect. I'm hoping that I can get voice coaching from the GIC when I eventually get my appointments through. And I know testosterone will deepen it somewhat but as I stated before, I'm pre everything.

Next up: my body shape. Sooooo, I'm on the blood sugar diet. I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic a little over three months ago and I was given a choice: Diet and lose weight, or stay the same and risk getting type 2 diabetes and all the complications that come with it. My doctor was honest with me, laid everything out and I decided that it was time to change. So far, I have lost just over two stone and with that came a slightly new body shape. And that body shape is incredibly feminine. I have wide hips and big boobs. This is a recently new dysphoria trigger and honestly, I'm still struggling to cope with it. I opt for night-time showers so I can have the light off. I don't necessarily hate my boobs, but I don't like touching them or them being touched or them being out and being seen, etc. I also cannot bind. I'm still too big for a binder from GC2B, plus I can't afford one from there anyway. And it really hurts me to bind with sports tops (bras), and wearing them just aggravates my breast dysphoria more. And with constant periods which give me severe cramps and make my boobs ache, binding is painful. The only time I'm completely topless is when I go to sleep but only if its a really hot night. As for my hips and the rest of my body shape, I cover myself up with baggy tshirts, sweatpants and “lounge” shorts. I feel like that's all I can do and it's definitely not enough.

So far, these are my main biggest triggers. Maybe I'm luckier than others, and my heart goes out to those who have more because it hurts to deal with it. I actually feel isolated to be honest. Agoraphobia prevents me from going out and anxiety prevents me from reaching out, but I'm learning to suck it up, in preparation for appointments and surgery.

Anyway, I'm going to wrap this up. My inbox is always open if you need to talk, I'm a pretty good listener and I have my own advice. I will also take advice from people. Especially trans men who have similar triggers to me because I'd like to know of other ways to cope.

If you read ALL of this, then oh my god you deserve an award cause honestly this is just my crazy life ramblings and I feel unimportant to warrant that amount of attention. So thanks!

Remember to always take care of yourself, respect yourselves and do what makes you happy. I love each and every one of you.

Peace

Tyler.

[nonewwave]

Pues ando en esas recién y leyendo lo que al respecto Carolina Sanín. He de pronunciarme al respecto, por ahora diré: No Carolina Sanín, no soy escritor, quizás no soy mujer, quién sabe si sea escritora, no sé si los cómics son escritura o hacerlos me descalifique en el oficio de la escritura Sé eso sí, que hombre al uso tampoco soy, soy algo mejor que eso. No descalifico vuestra indignación y apoyo y pues qué más quisiera hacer parte de tan digno y talentoso colectivo. Ser reconocida escritora colombiana antes que escritor por alguna oficialidad de forma pasajera no signifique nada luego. a lo mejor no soy una cosa ni otra. Los cómics forma de escritura o no. Arte o no. Así. @mincultura, espero mi negativa a identificar tanto mi género como sexualidad en este instante no sea causal de descalificación en futuros certámenes, gracias. #nosuchthing #fuckyouandyourunderground #comics #literaturevscomic #fuckpatriarchy #artvscomics #genderissues #chapuzasdeoro #fuckcomics #fuckartletsdance #nocomics #noregna (en El Parche Artist Residency)

[janinekspendlove]

I'm very grateful for the opportunity to participate. We're all working toward real #ActionableChange in the #MarineCorps. #genderissues #womenMarines #FemaleMarines #genderbias