#generalizations

[thedisdainfullysilentvisitor]

Xena: the show where everyone falls for Xena at first, and then falls for Gabrielle. But everyone gets their heart broken cause no man knows they're gay.

[dyspunktional-leviathan]

No, not everyone has an inner child/worksona/etc that is literally a different person (or at all). There is no universal hard line between singlethood and plurality, it is all a single spectrum, and plurality is vastly more common than is, ahem, commonly accepted, but some people actually do not have experiences you might think as universal and that goes in both directions. I have literally been plural-questioning for years and I know for a fact that my experiences are much more singular than those of many who are not sure if they are plural.

[howifeltabouthim]

'Have you told her? . . . Told your wife that you love her?' . . . 'Oh yes, often . . . But you know I think she takes it with a grain of salt.' 'No,' said Lady Franklin. 'No,' she repeated more firmly. 'Not if I know anything about women. They want to hear that, believe me — it's the only thing they really want to hear.'

L. P. Hartley, from The Hireling

[makesomethingawfuleveryday]

generally speaking

[aronarchy]

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A lot of millennial folks who went absolutely feral at things like the avocado toast debacle are now racing to get in on the “broad generalizations about how terrible and ignorant the younger generation is” game.

Seems like the only lesson many people learned from being disempowered young people blamed for long standing social problems is how good it feels once you’re finally old enough to have your turn at blaming disempowered young people for long standing social problems.

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[clatterbane]

One amusingly good summary of some patterns I have also noticed over the years, tbqh:

Swedes believe they are the center of the universe, and that everyone would agree with them if they just sat down and thought practically about things for a while. I have on occasion described us thus: people who have a little experience of the Swedes will notice that we expect everything to work as per specification. This is a bit endearing to them; it’s a bit like an entire nation believing in Santa Claus. People with a bit more experience will find this quite enervating, like an entire nation angrily demanding that Santa Claus actually shows up as per schedule. People who know us really well will tell you that we have managed to organise our entire country so that Santa Claus actually shows up on time every year. And here’s the thing: we expect that everyone else also tries to achieve this, but fails. (We’re a bit like Americans in that respect: they have this implicit assumption that all other countries try to be as awesome as them, but can’t quite manage.)

I mean, that very likely blanket applies just about as well as it does to All Americans. (Speaking as someone raised outside the dominant culture in the US, without so much of that attitude...)

But yeah, I have kept being surprised sometimes. Living with a Swede who is generally pretty pragmatic and good about critical thinking, but still tends to get so freaking indignant--and more than a little disappointed!--whenever Santa is just nowhere in evidence. And nobody else is really expecting him to make an appearance anytime in the foreseeable future. Contrary to some expectations apparently built based on actual real life experience of How Things Work? 🤔

(On multiple levels from day to day public transport, to dealing with the NHS and other bureaucratic systems elsewhere.)

Which no doubt came up more living in the UK for so long. Dealing with the same situations, I would mostly just get disgusted and exasperated--while the Household Swede kept being surprised and pissed off in rather different ways at (the ongoing 😑) evidence of some systemic dysfunction.

Which honestly kept impressing me, working from such an obviously different set of experiences and expectations.

[k347]

Why do people find it so hard to believe in the idea of an independent, strong woman who chose to not be bothered by any shit thrown at her, keeps being awesome at her job, doesn't need/want anyone to 'rescue' her or defend her honor, she believes in doing it herself, with her own special element of class and elegance. And also in the fact that when a man was attacked/harassed online, he chose to lean on support of his friends and family, was in a emotionally vulnerable condition, seeked validation.

For those who don't realise, we are living in the 21st century.

STOP. WITH. YOUR. STUPID. GENDER. STEREOTYPES. AND. GENERALIZATIONS.