While I'm on the subject of neutral/respite/safe spaces:
When you join a Discord server or forum or thread or community or group chat, you are ultimately agreeing to acknowledge and abide by the rules and expectations set by that space owner.
You are participating in that space. You do not own it. It has no obligation to you. You do not control it.
You may make suggestions and requests, but ultimately, the owner of that space is not obligated to oblige them. They are not forced to change their space to suit you.
You cannot storm into someone else's space, which they have agreed to allow other people to access, and start throwing your weight around about what is and is not acceptable, or how it should be run, or who should be allowed within it.
If you disagree with the rules, or the people present, you can entitled to state your piece, and you are also entitled to leave if the server owner ultimately decides not to accommodate you.
I have left quite possibly around 30+ Discord servers and group chats and private forums because I have ultimately disagreed with the rules of that space, or how they are being managed, or who was being allowed into that space.
I have left spaces because they have allowed bigotry in the name of 'free speech.' I have left spaces because they have allowed bullies and bigots to participate. I have left spaces the space owner has ultimately created and then neglected. I have even left spaces because the chosen methods of organisation (or lack thereof) have annoyed me.
When you join something like a Discord server, you are ultimately agreeing to participate in someone else's space. Its no different to joining a real life club or group, where you are willingly accepting the terms of participation.
If a space is not working for you, or not accommodating you, leave it. Nobody is forcing you to stay there. Nobody is forcing you to take up a personal crusade of change.
